Would you allow your teen to be friends with a teen parent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your teen a male or female?

If female, yes if she is very grounded and has goals, ambitions and another set of friends. She could be a good influence on this girl.

If male, no way.

Why not males?

PP obviously thinks males have no self control and are just trapped by evil females.

No, I suspect PP assumes OP would prefer her daughter not become baby mama #3 before she graduates high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your teen a male or female?

If female, yes if she is very grounded and has goals, ambitions and another set of friends. She could be a good influence on this girl.

If male, no way.

Why not males?

PP obviously thinks males have no self control and are just trapped by evil females.

No, I suspect PP assumes OP would prefer her daughter not become baby mama #3 before she graduates high school.

Your comprehension fails you.

[Anonymous]

What does your daughter have in common with this girl?
Have you met the parents?

The things you describe, like not knowing where they're going and your daughter paying for stuff, would lead me to have a talk or two with my child to inform her about how to choose friends and associates wisely, and not let yourself be used by people.

Something is definitely off with the friend. It's not normal for a teen to have two kids at 17. Those are bad life choices, no matter how you look at it. And the parents are probably a hot mess too.

[Anonymous]

Not all teen mothers are the same. I have two family members (different sides) that had babies as young teens. Both from religious families and the fathers were much older men who would be in jail today. One continued her education and earned a college degree. The other worked. None of their children became teen parents, dropped out, or became a criminal. All of their kids except one graduated from college. Only one of their grandchildren became a teen parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your teen a male or female?

If female, yes if she is very grounded and has goals, ambitions and another set of friends. She could be a good influence on this girl.

If male, no way.

Why not males?

PP obviously thinks males have no self control and are just trapped by evil females.

No, I suspect PP assumes OP would prefer her daughter not become baby mama #3 before she graduates high school.

Why would anyone in their right mind think of having sex with her, after seeing what situation she's in

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your teen a male or female?

If female, yes if she is very grounded and has goals, ambitions and another set of friends. She could be a good influence on this girl.

If male, no way.

Why not males?

PP obviously thinks males have no self control and are just trapped by evil females.

No, I suspect PP assumes OP would prefer her daughter not become baby mama #3 before she graduates high school.

Why would anyone in their right mind think of having sex with her, after seeing what situation she's in

OP's daughter is not the one with the baby. This part of the conversation was asking what if the friend with two kids was male, not female.

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Anonymous]

I'm 24, and my son is only one year old, but I also was in your daughter's shoes.

I worked in the restaurant business all throughout college. I met a lot of people who I'm sure my parents would hate. Managers that went to the bathrooms to snort coke. Ex-convicts. Illegal immigrants. Drug dealers.

I befriended many of these people, to one degree to another. Then I graduated college and got a nice government job, married my girlfriend, and had a baby. I still talk to many friends from these jobs.

It never made me want to snort coke, or to go to jail, or to sell drugs, or to have kids. It showed me that behind these issues there is often a human struggling with deeper problems that might not be so obvious. People who want acceptence, people worthy of friendship even if I don't have any desire to follow their path in life.

There is a big difference between saying, 'her kids are cute' and wanting children of one's own. I'm sure the kids probably are cute, and maybe makes your daughter think about when she has kids off her own, but unless there are other underlying problems you see, I suspect it also will show your DAD just how challenging that life is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 24, and my son is only one year old, but I also was in your daughter's shoes.

I worked in the restaurant business all throughout college. I met a lot of people who I'm sure my parents would hate. Managers that went to the bathrooms to snort coke. Ex-convicts. Illegal immigrants. Drug dealers.

I befriended many of these people, to one degree to another. Then I graduated college and got a nice government job, married my girlfriend, and had a baby. I still talk to many friends from these jobs.

It never made me want to snort coke, or to go to jail, or to sell drugs, or to have kids. It showed me that behind these issues there is often a human struggling with deeper problems that might not be so obvious. People who want acceptence, people worthy of friendship even if I don't have any desire to follow their path in life.

There is a big difference between saying, 'her kids are cute' and wanting children of one's own. I'm sure the kids probably are cute, and maybe makes your daughter think about when she has kids off her own, but unless there are other underlying problems you see, I suspect it also will show your DAD just how challenging that life is.

I don't think having a kid at 23 is a great life decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 24, and my son is only one year old, but I also was in your daughter's shoes.

I worked in the restaurant business all throughout college. I met a lot of people who I'm sure my parents would hate. Managers that went to the bathrooms to snort coke. Ex-convicts. Illegal immigrants. Drug dealers.

I befriended many of these people, to one degree to another. Then I graduated college and got a nice government job, married my girlfriend, and had a baby. I still talk to many friends from these jobs.

It never made me want to snort coke, or to go to jail, or to sell drugs, or to have kids. It showed me that behind these issues there is often a human struggling with deeper problems that might not be so obvious. People who want acceptence, people worthy of friendship even if I don't have any desire to follow their path in life.

There is a big difference between saying, 'her kids are cute' and wanting children of one's own. I'm sure the kids probably are cute, and maybe makes your daughter think about when she has kids off her own, but unless there are other underlying problems you see, I suspect it also will show your DAD just how challenging that life is.

I don't think having a kid at 23 is a great life decision.

NP. Seriously? That seems to be a pretty normal age to me.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, a teenage girl who has a 1 and a 2 year old tagging along with her everywhere she goes is not exactly a man magnet. She is probably grateful to have Op's daughter's friendship and an extra pair of hands to help out. And Op's daughter probably likes the novelty of the situation and enjoys "mothering" the little ones while they are out. Op's daughter sounds like a sweet and empathetic young lady.

This teenage mother is in pretty deep. She has an awful lot on her plate and you can bet that she feels judged and maybe even jealous of her peers who do not have so much responsibility. It's good to go and hang out in the mall with a peer who genuinely wants to be around you....

I would keep an eye on the situation and, as with any friend, if you see some negative affects on your daughter - step in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 24, and my son is only one year old, but I also was in your daughter's shoes.

I worked in the restaurant business all throughout college. I met a lot of people who I'm sure my parents would hate. Managers that went to the bathrooms to snort coke. Ex-convicts. Illegal immigrants. Drug dealers.

I befriended many of these people, to one degree to another. Then I graduated college and got a nice government job, married my girlfriend, and had a baby. I still talk to many friends from these jobs.

It never made me want to snort coke, or to go to jail, or to sell drugs, or to have kids. It showed me that behind these issues there is often a human struggling with deeper problems that might not be so obvious. People who want acceptence, people worthy of friendship even if I don't have any desire to follow their path in life.

There is a big difference between saying, 'her kids are cute' and wanting children of one's own. I'm sure the kids probably are cute, and maybe makes your daughter think about when she has kids off her own, but unless there are other underlying problems you see, I suspect it also will show your DAD just how challenging that life is.

I don't think having a kid at 23 is a great life decision.

It's a perfectly fine decision when, like this young man, you've finished college, secured a job, and married the child's mother. Kudos to this young man both for this actions and his perspective on life and common humanity. His parents should be proud of him, I know if he were my son, I would be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 24, and my son is only one year old, but I also was in your daughter's shoes.

I worked in the restaurant business all throughout college. I met a lot of people who I'm sure my parents would hate. Managers that went to the bathrooms to snort coke. Ex-convicts. Illegal immigrants. Drug dealers.

I befriended many of these people, to one degree to another. Then I graduated college and got a nice government job, married my girlfriend, and had a baby. I still talk to many friends from these jobs.

It never made me want to snort coke, or to go to jail, or to sell drugs, or to have kids. It showed me that behind these issues there is often a human struggling with deeper problems that might not be so obvious. People who want acceptence, people worthy of friendship even if I don't have any desire to follow their path in life.

There is a big difference between saying, 'her kids are cute' and wanting children of one's own. I'm sure the kids probably are cute, and maybe makes your daughter think about when she has kids off her own, but unless there are other underlying problems you see, I suspect it also will show your DAD just how challenging that life is.

I don't think having a kid at 23 is a great life decision.

NP. Seriously? That seems to be a pretty normal age to me.

+1. What's wrong with having a kid at 23? Some of you guys really need to expand your circle.

[Anonymous]

This is so silly. One of my friends got pregnant at 16, had her baby and married the father (9 times out of 10 the father is in his twenties, as was the case with my friend). There was never a question of whether I would be "allowed" to continue to be her friend. I was in no danger of getting pregnant. I couldn't imagine anything more humiliating. I'm sure my parents knew that I, as a college-bound student who cared very much about fitting in, that I wouldn't somehow be "influenced" by my friend. Nothing about her situation seemed romantic, fun, or desirable to me.

That friend became an RN, went on to get an advanced degree, and was making more money than I was throughout our twenties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My teen is 16 the other teen is 17 and has 2 children. Met at summer job.

Sure, why not?