Anyone else here hate having a baby?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op. Baby is 3 months

That means you're so close to things looking up! The 4th trimester is a very real thing.

I just feel horrible I don't like my baby. Does he know I don't like him? I also hate breastfeeding. It's the worst.

This sounds serious. Please seek help before you hurt your baby or yourself or both. I'm not judging you, PPD is real and it sounds like you may have it. Don't you want to feel better? You can.

[Anonymous]

Hi OP. I want you to know there's a light at the end of the tunnel. Like the PP, I'd also suggest you get evaluated for PPD. However, I also want to say this: at 3 months, your baby is still in the "angry potato" stage - your entire life, day and night, is devoted to baby's needs, you're exhausted, and you don't get much in return. Some people quickly bond and naturally love motherhood, but many of us take a while to get to know their new family member and adjust, and that's totally okay.

I also had fertility treatments to get pregnant, and then hated pregnancy and hated the newborn stage. I mourned the loss of my old carefree life - no PPD, just tough to get used to this new reality. I started to feel a little more like myself again at 5 months - baby became more fun and interactive, started sleeping slightly longer stretches, and I started doing some things for myself again (exercise, mani/pedis, wine with dinner). But at the 3 month mark I was a miserable zombie and often wondered if I'd made a horrible mistake and ruined our lives.

P.S. If you hate breastfeeding, there is NOTHING wrong with switching to formula. Yes, BF has lots of benefits, but your baby will be just fine and will thrive without it.

[Anonymous]

Take this PPD screen: https://psychology-tools.com/epds/

Then call your OB's office, tell them your score, and ask for help. Zoloft started making a difference for me within days.

Also, go buy a can of formula, and have your DH give the first feed of the night so you can sleep. You don't *have* to breastfeed.

[Anonymous]

Troll alert

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Anonymous wrote:Troll alert

I've read the entire thing and think the same. Seriously asking if baby can be put up for adoption??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Troll alert

I've read the entire thing and think the same. Seriously asking if baby can be put up for adoption??

+1 also, they went from having a baby to kids.

[Anonymous]

If you're concerned about it being a troll, report it. Otherwise, consider that maybe it's a woman who is legitimately struggling and that not respecting or believing that is detrimental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll alert

I've read the entire thing and think the same. Seriously asking if baby can be put up for adoption??

+1 also, they went from having a baby to kids.

Those were two different posters.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I started feeling better later on during the day. I did realize I drank 3 nights this past weekend. Perhaps it led to me hitting rock bottom this morning? I hated myself so much. I'm already on medication and maybe it doesn't work when I drink?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll alert

Agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll alert

I've read the entire thing and think the same. Seriously asking if baby can be put up for adoption??

+1 also, they went from having a baby to kids.

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op. Baby is 3 months

That means you're so close to things looking up! The 4th trimester is a very real thing.

I just feel horrible I don't like my baby. Does he know I don't like him? I also hate breastfeeding. It's the worst.

If breastfeeding the worst, then give it up. I won't judge you. Promise.

Motherhood improved substantially for me when I ditched breastfeeding. Nobody cares, your baby will be great either way...and nobody (not even the crunchiest nut) is going to say a depressed breastfeeding mom is better than a happy formula mom. If this is at all part of it, please please cut yourself some slack and be done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I started feeling better later on during the day. I did realize I drank 3 nights this past weekend. Perhaps it led to me hitting rock bottom this morning? I hated myself so much. I'm already on medication and maybe it doesn't work when I drink?

Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm okay, OP. Not sure if you're a troll or not but feel better soon either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I started feeling better later on during the day. I did realize I drank 3 nights this past weekend. Perhaps it led to me hitting rock bottom this morning? I hated myself so much. I'm already on medication and maybe it doesn't work when I drink?

Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm okay, OP. Not sure if you're a troll or not but feel better soon either way.

+1 I don't like to call "troll" in case it's a real person who needs help, but this all sounds very sketchy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I started feeling better later on during the day. I did realize I drank 3 nights this past weekend. Perhaps it led to me hitting rock bottom this morning? I hated myself so much. I'm already on medication and maybe it doesn't work when I drink?

Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm okay, OP. Not sure if you're a troll or not but feel better soon either way.

+1 I don't like to call "troll" in case it's a real person who needs help, but this all sounds very sketchy.

Op here. Not a troll. Almost wish I were.