Do men who are sexually satisfied in the marriage still cheat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men go through adolescence and young adulthood deathly afraid of girls and women because they hold all the cards, particularly the most crucial one, destroying your ego/self-esteem. So as we get older, get good careers, the dynamic shifts and we realize that we actually have power over women.

This struck me as particularly insightful -- not just with respect to the cheating but with respect to the dynamic between men and women generally. Neither gender quite believes the other when they complain about being on the short end of the stick with respect to gender power dynamics. And I think this is why. Men focus on how things are/were in their teens and twenties. Women focus on how things are/were beyond that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, cheating is about biology. We all want to get our genes in the gene pool, but a woman can only carry one man's child at any one time, so she is naturally monogamous. A man can have any number of women carrying his children at any one time so it behooves a man to cheat.

LOL so in your world men would have to cheat with other men. Sure keep buying all those feminist lies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men go through adolescence and young adulthood deathly afraid of girls and women because they hold all the cards, particularly the most crucial one, destroying your ego/self-esteem. So as we get older, get good careers, the dynamic shifts and we realize that we actually have power over women.

This struck me as particularly insightful -- not just with respect to the cheating but with respect to the dynamic between men and women generally. Neither gender quite believes the other when they complain about being on the short end of the stick with respect to gender power dynamics. And I think this is why. Men focus on how things are/were in their teens and twenties. Women focus on how things are/were beyond that.

This is why, ironically, it can be better for a woman to pair up with a man who was always successful with women. Obviously that's not always easy to do, but I think a lot of women are unnecessarily afraid of men like this. In my experience, men who took for granted being able to attract women have a way easier time actually treating women like individual people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men go through adolescence and young adulthood deathly afraid of girls and women because they hold all the cards, particularly the most crucial one, destroying your ego/self-esteem. So as we get older, get good careers, the dynamic shifts and we realize that we actually have power over women.

This struck me as particularly insightful -- not just with respect to the cheating but with respect to the dynamic between men and women generally. Neither gender quite believes the other when they complain about being on the short end of the stick with respect to gender power dynamics. And I think this is why. Men focus on how things are/were in their teens and twenties. Women focus on how things are/were beyond that.

This is why, ironically, it can be better for a woman to pair up with a man who was always successful with women. Obviously that's not always easy to do, but I think a lot of women are unnecessarily afraid of men like this. In my experience, men who took for granted being able to attract women have a way easier time actually treating women like individual people.

I think there is some truth to this. But they'd have to find the guys who were always successful with women but didn't develop the sort of narcissistic arrogance that can go along with that type of success.

[Anonymous]

Of course they do. A lot of cheating is the excitement of the new & different

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman here ... but one who has slept with quite a few married men over the years, so I have a bit of perspective.

Good, wild, mind-blowing frequent sex will certainly reduce the likelihood that a man will cheat. But it will not eliminate cheating entirely.

Some of the men I knew were sex-starved. But many just needed some variety, ego-stroking, or companionship. Or they just got caught up in the moment and had never learned to say no.

(Side note, I actually think that last one is a real issue. Women are taught from day 1 how to say no. Men are taught to pursue, pursue, pursue ... and then they get married, and have no idea how to resist temptation. I'm not saying they are victims or anything, but it is interesting to see them flail when they just can't stop themselves. Anyway.... continuing on....)

Great sex at home will stop the first category from cheating, but not the others. Some guys ... I knew their wives and KNEW they were getting it on at home, but they still wanted something more.

You have major self-esteem issues. I hope you learn to love yourself enough so you don't destroy others in your pain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, cheating is about biology. We all want to get our genes in the gene pool, but a woman can only carry one man's child at any one time, so she is naturally monogamous. A man can have any number of women carrying his children at any one time so it behooves a man to cheat.

LOL so in your world men would have to cheat with other men. Sure keep buying all those feminist lies.

this is not up for debate. Humans are not innately monogamous. You can tell from the size difference between human men and women. In monogamous species the men and women are the same size.

[Anonymous]

^^ that last sentence should say females and males are same size

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I'm a high drive woman, and my husband still cheated....with a less attractive woman who looked up to him as a mentor. I was blind sided because I didn't think our marriage had any serious problems, we were supportive of one another, and we both owned that we were pretty happy.

I can relate to this. Curious if you divorced because of it?