Leaving DC Schools

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it. overall i'm fine with our Title I and enjoy doing the work, but DD witnessed a parent hitting her child inside the school and it triggered a lot of separation anxiety. I tried to get the social worker to intervene but she said it wasn't at the actionable level beyond trying to talk with the parent.

As traumatizing as that may be, your DD is probably going to witness such terrible things somewhere. My DS has not witnessed this at his school, but he has around town. Recently, he stopped and gaped at the scene and asked me what the little boy did. I think it's better to talk about these things with your children rather than shield them from it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it. overall i'm fine with our Title I and enjoy doing the work, but DD witnessed a parent hitting her child inside the school and it triggered a lot of separation anxiety. I tried to get the social worker to intervene but she said it wasn't at the actionable level beyond trying to talk with the parent.

Those kind of moments always suck, and can be tough on parents and kids alike. But I've been able to have pretty serious conversations with my 6 year old about why we do things differently. We've even had a conversation along those lines: "We don't hit you as a punishment and no one else should either. Other parents make other choices and some go to jail and lose their kids because of them."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get it. overall i'm fine with our Title I and enjoy doing the work, but DD witnessed a parent hitting her child inside the school and it triggered a lot of separation anxiety. I tried to get the social worker to intervene but she said it wasn't at the actionable level beyond trying to talk with the parent.

As traumatizing as that may be, your DD is probably going to witness such terrible things somewhere. My DS has not witnessed this at his school, but he has around town. Recently, he stopped and gaped at the scene and asked me what the little boy did. I think it's better to talk about these things with your children rather than shield them from it.

NP - it's different for your DC to witness something "around town" than at the place he spends each day. School shouldn't be a scary place.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get it. overall i'm fine with our Title I and enjoy doing the work, but DD witnessed a parent hitting her child inside the school and it triggered a lot of separation anxiety. I tried to get the social worker to intervene but she said it wasn't at the actionable level beyond trying to talk with the parent.

As traumatizing as that may be, your DD is probably going to witness such terrible things somewhere. My DS has not witnessed this at his school, but he has around town. Recently, he stopped and gaped at the scene and asked me what the little boy did. I think it's better to talk about these things with your children rather than shield them from it.

NP - it's different for your DC to witness something "around town" than at the place he spends each day. School shouldn't be a scary place.

Exactly. It is a totally different thing to leave a child in a place where adults hit kids and nobody does anything about it. DD had just turned 3 and it was really a lot for her to handle, especially in the first month of preschool. So far it hasn't happened again. But it really is different than just seeing it out in public. She is still afraid of that parent when we see her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get it. overall i'm fine with our Title I and enjoy doing the work, but DD witnessed a parent hitting her child inside the school and it triggered a lot of separation anxiety. I tried to get the social worker to intervene but she said it wasn't at the actionable level beyond trying to talk with the parent.

As traumatizing as that may be, your DD is probably going to witness such terrible things somewhere. My DS has not witnessed this at his school, but he has around town. Recently, he stopped and gaped at the scene and asked me what the little boy did. I think it's better to talk about these things with your children rather than shield them from it.

NP - it's different for your DC to witness something "around town" than at the place he spends each day. School shouldn't be a scary place.

Exactly. It is a totally different thing to leave a child in a place where adults hit kids and nobody does anything about it. DD had just turned 3 and it was really a lot for her to handle, especially in the first month of preschool. So far it hasn't happened again. But it really is different than just seeing it out in public. She is still afraid of that parent when we see her.

Look, I get it. We don't spank in my family. I think it's abusive. When DD has observed another parent punishing their child physically, I explain to her that that family uses spanking the same way that we use timeouts/loss of privileges/loss of toys/etc.

But you are talking about a parent striking their child, not a teacher striking a child, and the social worker is correct that if the action does not rise above the legally allowed discipline, there is nothing that CAN be done about it.

You need look no further than any of the many spanking threads on this forum to learn that this is not something that only poor families do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get it. overall i'm fine with our Title I and enjoy doing the work, but DD witnessed a parent hitting her child inside the school and it triggered a lot of separation anxiety. I tried to get the social worker to intervene but she said it wasn't at the actionable level beyond trying to talk with the parent.

As traumatizing as that may be, your DD is probably going to witness such terrible things somewhere. My DS has not witnessed this at his school, but he has around town. Recently, he stopped and gaped at the scene and asked me what the little boy did. I think it's better to talk about these things with your children rather than shield them from it.

NP - it's different for your DC to witness something "around town" than at the place he spends each day. School shouldn't be a scary place.

Exactly. It is a totally different thing to leave a child in a place where adults hit kids and nobody does anything about it. DD had just turned 3 and it was really a lot for her to handle, especially in the first month of preschool. So far it hasn't happened again. But it really is different than just seeing it out in public. She is still afraid of that parent when we see her.

I'd expect a teacher to understand that and have a conversation with my kid in that situation so that she can process her feelings and understand how to approach it. There are counselors too. I'd also be concerned about what the teachers and counselors can do for the kid who is being abused.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:bye felicia

How do I report this user? It's so aggressive -- pretending to know people on DCUM and bullying them and they are NEVER right. I've see this a lot lately. And at least within my HRCS, I think I know the nasty person who does it.

This is my new favorite post. I am still laughing!

+1. Dying over here

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:bye felicia

How do I report this user? It's so aggressive -- pretending to know people on DCUM and bullying them and they are NEVER right. I've see this a lot lately. And at least within my HRCS, I think I know the nasty person who does it.

This is my new favorite post. I am still laughing!

+1. Dying over here

+2 That post made my day!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:bye felicia

How do I report this user? It's so aggressive -- pretending to know people on DCUM and bullying them and they are NEVER right. I've see this a lot lately. And at least within my HRCS, I think I know the nasty person who does it.

This is my new favorite post. I am still laughing!

+1. Dying over here

+2 That post made my day!

LOL. I'm totally clueless about popular culture in general and even I understand "bye felicia". LOL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:bye felicia

How do I report this user? It's so aggressive -- pretending to know people on DCUM and bullying them and they are NEVER right. I've see this a lot lately. And at least within my HRCS, I think I know the nasty person who does it.

This is my new favorite post. I am still laughing!

+1. Dying over here

+2 That post made my day!

LOL. I'm totally clueless about popular culture in general and even I understand "bye felicia". LOL.

^^and there are at least a million other funnier lines in that movie

[Anonymous]

Honest question: what the hell is the point of this thread? You made a decision that DC schools aren't good enough for you? Fine. Enjoy the burbs. What a bold move on your part. Some of us will stick it out a bit more and discover for ourselves.

[Anonymous]

K - bye!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get it. overall i'm fine with our Title I and enjoy doing the work, but DD witnessed a parent hitting her child inside the school and it triggered a lot of separation anxiety. I tried to get the social worker to intervene but she said it wasn't at the actionable level beyond trying to talk with the parent.

As traumatizing as that may be, your DD is probably going to witness such terrible things somewhere. My DS has not witnessed this at his school, but he has around town. Recently, he stopped and gaped at the scene and asked me what the little boy did. I think it's better to talk about these things with your children rather than shield them from it.

NP - it's different for your DC to witness something "around town" than at the place he spends each day. School shouldn't be a scary place.

Exactly. It is a totally different thing to leave a child in a place where adults hit kids and nobody does anything about it. DD had just turned 3 and it was really a lot for her to handle, especially in the first month of preschool. So far it hasn't happened again. But it really is different than just seeing it out in public. She is still afraid of that parent when we see her.

I'd expect a teacher to understand that and have a conversation with my kid in that situation so that she can process her feelings and understand how to approach it. There are counselors too. I'd also be concerned about what the teachers and counselors can do for the kid who is being abused.

Well sure. But the point is, it sucked in a lot of ways and made me late to work all week, and that kind of thing is just another burden that kids and parents at high poverty school have to bear. I am willing to do the Title 1 thing, pay for stuff, do tons of work, all that, but don't tell me it doesn't come with real and serious drawbacks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get it. overall i'm fine with our Title I and enjoy doing the work, but DD witnessed a parent hitting her child inside the school and it triggered a lot of separation anxiety. I tried to get the social worker to intervene but she said it wasn't at the actionable level beyond trying to talk with the parent.

As traumatizing as that may be, your DD is probably going to witness such terrible things somewhere. My DS has not witnessed this at his school, but he has around town. Recently, he stopped and gaped at the scene and asked me what the little boy did. I think it's better to talk about these things with your children rather than shield them from it.

NP - it's different for your DC to witness something "around town" than at the place he spends each day. School shouldn't be a scary place.

Exactly. It is a totally different thing to leave a child in a place where adults hit kids and nobody does anything about it. DD had just turned 3 and it was really a lot for her to handle, especially in the first month of preschool. So far it hasn't happened again. But it really is different than just seeing it out in public. She is still afraid of that parent when we see her.

I'd expect a teacher to understand that and have a conversation with my kid in that situation so that she can process her feelings and understand how to approach it. There are counselors too. I'd also be concerned about what the teachers and counselors can do for the kid who is being abused.

Well sure. But the point is, it sucked in a lot of ways and made me late to work all week, and that kind of thing is just another burden that kids and parents at high poverty school have to bear. I am willing to do the Title 1 thing, pay for stuff, do tons of work, all that, but don't tell me it doesn't come with real and serious drawbacks.

It definitely comes with real and serious drawbacks. It just doesn't mean we're bad parents for picking those real and serious drawbacks over the real and serious drawbacks associated with other school choices. It's not for everyone, and that's fine.

[Anonymous]

Name the school or we really can't be helpful. Or at least say what you'd like.