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 Highly recommended book: David Epstein's The Sports Gene. I can't recall whether it specifically addresses birth month, but it has a lot of info on predicting athletic success. (One thing that sticks in my head: Want to play in the NBA? Have long arms.) | 
| OP, I could have written the same thing about my November kid. Coaches tell me all the time what great foot skills, great vision, amazing job finding passing lanes, etc. He can take great corner kicks, tries hard, nice kid, etc. He can run forever (he ran a mile last spring in 6minutes 30 seconds as a 9 year old), but he doesn't have speed and is short.  At his school he is one of the best soccer players but on his competitive travel team he is fading. He also almost never wins 50/50 balls and that makes all the difference. He thinks too much instead of reacting aggressively and going all out to get the ball. It breaks my heart that he is no longer getting as much playing time because he loves playing soccer. In contrast his younger brother doesn't have great foot skills, doesn't kick as hard, doesnt stay in his position,doesn't pay as much attention to what is going on but he is a bulldog who will win almost every 50/50 ball, if he doesn't win the ball he will chase down the player and take out the player by bumping him off the ball or slide tackling. He has a Feb. birthday. To me my younger kid plays ugly soccer but the coaches and other parents love it. We could tell our older son was getting frustrated so we signed him up for fall baseball and he has done really well. It suits his personality better. We worked with him in the summer and are signing him up with a hitting coach for a few sessions to get ready for the spring. He hasn't played since he played t-ball at age 6. We asked him if he wanted to stay on his travel soccer team in the spring or do baseball and he wants to do baseball because he is having more success playing baseball and it helps he has a better baseball birthday (cut off Sept. 1st). | 
| PP again. I didn't explicitly answer your question so here it is: No, I don't think you can teach that hustle. | 
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 Too bad you gave up on your older son just because he wasn't having success right away and are trying to steer him towards baseball. In the long run he was going to be the soccer player, let him struggle. He has technique and thinks the game. Get him to start thinking earlier and learn to anticipate/predict the play before it happens. This alone will avoid 50/50 situations because he would already have the ball at his feet. This mind set of not being patient and wanting instant success from parents is why kids do not develop correctly into the game. The parents getting excited about your younger son obviously don't understand the game and by cheering on his current playing style will only encourage him to continue doing what he is doing vs improving his footskils, positioning and understanding of the game. Please encourage your younger son to pick up the characteristics of your older with what he has now and he may have some potential. | 
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 We haven't given up on our older son, we are just realistic. We moved to Southern California 3 years ago and we found a club soccer u6 team for him to play on. His team played up a year in coast soccer league (competitive league) -so u7 playing u8. So this is his fourth year of competitive soccer. The pace of play is now too fast to rely on predicting or anticipating. It used to work well for him, and still does in rec soccer or when he plays at school. Not getting playing time is killing his love for soccer. There is now literally 12 inches in height and 50 pounds between him and the biggest 06 players. He is not fast enough to make up for the size difference. He can keep playing rec soccer and doing clinics and camps, and I think he will keep playing as an adult in an adult league. As a family we aren't willing to drive 90 minutes round trip to see him play for 5 minutes in a game. Little league baseball we are finding out has a great community feel about it. They are 100% neighborhood kids in the league. The fields are 5 minutes from our house. And most importantly, my son is loving the practices, the games, and gets tons of positive feedback from his coaches who are amazed he hasn't played in three years. I think his soccer foot skills and his ability to anticipate serve him well when he plays shortstop or third base. And my younger son won't change his ways because that is just how he is. Drives us crazy our older one does great at practice, but not well in the games while the younger one half asses it through practice and doesn't look that great but during scrimmages and games turns it on. | 
| To the OP: Not sure if your child is a girl, but I am guessing she is? In any case, if you want to help boost her aggression, have her train with boys. She will have to play more aggressively by default just to keep up. Her confidence levels will spike once she beats a boy player. (Not much feels quite as good as schooling a guy or leaving him in the dust.) My dad put me exclusively on boys teams from age 6-10 and it made all the difference. Once I transitioned to a girls team, I had a major advantage that took me all the way through college D1. | 
| 12:18 - I'm not sure that would work. When my daughter has played pick-up soccer with boys, they tend to leave the girls out of the equation entirely. They'll pass to the other boys and not to the girls. Several incidents of that and my daughter didn't want to play pick-up anymore. (and she's pretty scrappy when playing with girls on her rec and travel teams.) | 
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 How old are these boys? My son is 8, almost 9, and he and his friends will definitely play pick up soccer with and pass to female friends who are aggressive and skilled players - no question about it. | 
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 nothing wrong with rec and please continue to encourage him to play. He may be struggling now but in a couple of years he may dominate. So California plays competitive at U7 and U8? | 
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 Well, I hate to say this -- but she probably didn't give it enough time. It's not easy being the only girl on a field of boys, but once you show them you are as just as good as they are, they will pass to you. And you will become a stronger, better player for it -- without a doubt. | 
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 andrea pirlo never ran a lot. neither did xabi alonso. they are some of the greatest midfielder of the last 20 years. if your child truly has excellent ball skills and is hyper-intelligent about the game, a real coach won't care and will protect her by surrounding her with 'water carriers' this is a worthless trainer - certainly an anglo trainer for sure. Definitely not a latin trainer. Juan Roman Riquelme is another so-called 'lazy player'. Please read comments by alonso and pirlo about movement in the game. Your player needs a smarter trainer, I am shaking in hatred of your child's trainer by bulling him/her in this fashion. | 
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 laurent blanc is one of the slowest and least 'aggressive' defenders - he's also one of the greatest to ever play in the modern game. defending isn't about speed or agression - it is 90% about anticipation and positioning. You can find a lot of defenders with the first two attributes, but it is hard to find defenders with the latter two | 
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 besides pulisic, name me a smart and skilled player on the national team? Pulisic is the first player in the history of country where you can look at him and he looks like a carbon copy of someone trained in europe or latin america. the stereotype is true - even taylor twellman remarked that if pulisic didn't move to dortmund at 16/17 and went into a mls academy, he doesn't think he would be at the level with the same opportunities that he has today. | 
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 as a u10 coach, it depends on how many training sessions we get with a team. at the premier/academy level, when there are 4x sessions, we can incorporate some positional awareness and understanding of tactical 'triggers' but with teams that train 2x a week where the kids aren't getting enough technical development on their own (i.e. the only time they are touching the ball during the week is practice), I need to maximize technical training. One can develop positional sense and tactical understanding later in mid-late teens but it is very hard to improve technically after 16 or 17. If I knew kids I trained played street/pickup all the time and had a very high technical base, I can use my limited time to drill positional awareness. Otherwise, at that age, I have to maximize their technical development first and foremost because the window for that closes faster. | 
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 in my experience bunch-ball at that age isn't so much a function of kids not getting the concept of space but kids not having technical skill to take one two touches to extract themselves into space and hit sharp passes over a medium distance on the ground. teams with low technical ability get frustrated and start bunching. I coached a u10 team once that struggled with bunching - midway through the season I had two italian brothers come to my team midway through the season (his dad transferred via work and the kid was in torino's youth academy). Bunching markedly dropped when I paired the kids together in midfield in 7 a side. Why? Because the other kids realized those two could get out of pretty much any pressure and hit passes accurately at will and within about 4 training sessions, the whole teams understanding of space and positioning went up immeasurably. |