Evite is for one kid, she RSVPs for 2, WTF?

[Anonymous]

This happened a couple times at parties we planned. I decided not to say anything unless we were surpassing the limit (both times we were ok because of cancellations).

I think often it's people who haven't thrown a big party at an outside venue and don't really realize there are restrictions. When I do a birthday at home, it's always the more the merrier.

[Anonymous]

Unless you specifically states "no siblings" I don't think it's crazy at all. We did an evite and once we found out how many kids were coming (well under our max) I sent a follow up message via evite that siblings were welcome, to just please update their RSVP's so we had an accurate count.

[Anonymous]

When DS was too young for drop off parties, we always included siblings. Still, it always amazes me how entitled some parents are. First to assume that the sibling is invited and second to be put off if they aren't. Some people don't have the space or money, and frankly their kid should be able to invite their 10 friends vs choosing 5 friends because you have to account for 5 siblings.

But I think a lot of people almost look for reasons to be offended. Either that or I'm the weird one who is rarely offended by stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My father was career military and my mother never used the feeble "my husband is deployed" excuse for bad manners, e.g., my children are a package deal. My DH is foreign service and when family could not accompany him, I didn't use the "deployed" excuse. I am sI'm of military families expecting everyone else to kiss their posteriors because of "their service." it is a job that you chose knowing the risks and hardships.

My best friend's husband is currently military and he is on his third tour of duty. I also grew up on a military family. My father was deployed once. And they were back in 4 months. That was in 25 years of service. Perhaps your dad was gone more frequently, but that still doesn't qualify you to judge others and what they are capable of handling. Every person/mother/wife is different. For some woman, the stress of having their husbands away in a war zone in which suicide bombings (and the use of women and children as human shields) is common is just overwhelming.

[Anonymous]

Given how often this happens, people need to plan accordingly. I always clearly state either "siblings welcome" or "due to space restrictions, unfortunately we cannot include siblings" in invites.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are a package deal, but people who know us know this. I do usually ask if siblings are welcome, but for some people it is assumed. Unless you specified siblings were not invited, I don't think it's rude.

So when one gets married will the other get the benefits? How package have you made them? Are they unable to be separated?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My father was career military and my mother never used the feeble "my husband is deployed" excuse for bad manners, e.g., my children are a package deal. My DH is foreign service and when family could not accompany him, I didn't use the "deployed" excuse. I am sI'm of military families expecting everyone else to kiss their posteriors because of "their service." it is a job that you chose knowing the risks and hardships.

My best friend's husband is currently military and he is on his third tour of duty. I also grew up on a military family. My father was deployed once. And they were back in 4 months. That was in 25 years of service. Perhaps your dad was gone more frequently, but that still doesn't qualify you to judge others and what they are capable of handling. Every person/mother/wife is different. For some woman, the stress of having their husbands away in a war zone in which suicide bombings (and the use of women and children as human shields) is common is just overwhelming.

Oh come on...no way would anyone in a military family type what you just did. We are much less dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My father was career military and my mother never used the feeble "my husband is deployed" excuse for bad manners, e.g., my children are a package deal. My DH is foreign service and when family could not accompany him, I didn't use the "deployed" excuse. I am sI'm of military families expecting everyone else to kiss their posteriors because of "their service." it is a job that you chose knowing the risks and hardships.

+1

Package deal mom better toughen up or she has a tough military wife life ahead of her.

[Anonymous]

You're neighbors, which means your kid's friend's sibling is closer to your kid than a normal friend would be. Don't be a jerk. You should've explicitly invited both kids. Let them come and be more generous next time.

[Anonymous]

Reason #361 that I am glad I have an only child!

[Anonymous]

I personally don't understand why sometimes BOTH parents will go with their toddler to a kids party space. Isn't one person being tortured for 2hrs enough?

Also the parents who will bring the extra child are a mystery to me. If your SO was out of town, which happens to me sometimes, you do have to lug both kids to a party. But, if both parents are there, really not sure why they feel like it's a whole family gathering thing for them. These are not close friends, I'm talking about parents/kids from preschool who are cordial with everyone but don't normally hang out.

Yup, semi-off topic but just always wondered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When DS was too young for drop off parties, we always included siblings. Still, it always amazes me how entitled some parents are. First to assume that the sibling is invited and second to be put off if they aren't. Some people don't have the space or money, and frankly their kid should be able to invite their 10 friends vs choosing 5 friends because you have to account for 5 siblings.

But I think a lot of people almost look for reasons to be offended. Either that or I'm the weird one who is rarely offended by stuff.

Reread your post, pp. I think you are looking for a reason to be offended, and you clearly are offended. Oh, the irony!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I personally don't understand why sometimes BOTH parents will go with their toddler to a kids party space. Isn't one person being tortured for 2hrs enough?

Also the parents who will bring the extra child are a mystery to me. If your SO was out of town, which happens to me sometimes, you do have to lug both kids to a party. But, if both parents are there, really not sure why they feel like it's a whole family gathering thing for them. These are not close friends, I'm talking about parents/kids from preschool who are cordial with everyone but don't normally hang out.

Yup, semi-off topic but just always wondered.

I've always wondered why some parents believe their precious snowflake's toddler party at a bounce house is so important that other parents (including perfect strangers from preschool or daycare) are expected to rearrange their Saturday to attend--leaving their spouse and other kids behind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I'm not sure why "package deal" was construed aggressively ... although it was not intended to be off-putting. I thought I was clear that I DO ask if siblings are okay.

Asking for an invitation is rude. Aggressively rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I personally don't understand why sometimes BOTH parents will go with their toddler to a kids party space. Isn't one person being tortured for 2hrs enough?

Also the parents who will bring the extra child are a mystery to me. If your SO was out of town, which happens to me sometimes, you do have to lug both kids to a party. But, if both parents are there, really not sure why they feel like it's a whole family gathering thing for them. These are not close friends, I'm talking about parents/kids from preschool who are cordial with everyone but don't normally hang out.

Yup, semi-off topic but just always wondered.

I've always wondered why some parents believe their precious snowflake's toddler party at a bounce house is so important that other parents (including perfect strangers from preschool or daycare) are expected to rearrange their Saturday to attend--leaving their spouse and other kids behind.

Um, because it's also a fun, nice thing for your child as well? Who should have the opportunity to socialize with peers and be encouraged to celebrate their special days? But you are free to decline (and I suspect, in your case, the host hopes you will).