Crying to Dr. Drew because son got waitlisted
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Anonymous
| I actually listened to this and it made me sad for her. I think Dr. Drew hit the nail on the head. This sort of "craziness" has much more to do with the moms empty life and social insecurities than her kids future. I don't think confident, well adjusted, happy individuals have these concerns or agonize over this sort of nonsense. I really don't - it's pitiful for an adult to feel this way and judge people and the institutions they attend as if they know what they are talking about. |
Anonymous
What really struck me about the caller was how much energy she was pouring into her son, when she said she also had two daughters (a freshman in college and a freshman in high school). Did the one already in college get into an Ivy, or does the caller just care more about her son's education. It was weird. |
Anonymous
| Agreed. She muttered that she quit her job to her son into an ivy. I too wondered if the daughter was in an ivy or that was only her goal for the son. The whole thing is bizarre. |
Anonymous
| I wonder what her marriage is like? Poor woman -- this is obviously about something else going on in her life. |
Anonymous
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"I'd be thrilled if my very smart but lazy kid could somehow get into BC."
Sounds like someone who needs a year at a CC to see what they are wasting. |
Anonymous
| Well, I think it is sad. There is a lot of pressure to get your kids "on the right path". And since 2008, the hob market has sucked and is just now kind of recovering. So, it makes sense to me that the mom wants the best for her kid. BC is ok, but not great. If she paid a ton for private school, then she is going to be bummed the kid ended up at BC. My guess is she did. Otherwise, BC is fine coming from a public high school. |
Anonymous
| meant "job" market above |
Anonymous
| The people on this thread who think that BC is just an 'alright' school are just as warped as the call-in woman. Feel free to criticize her for having a hang up about a certain school, or set of schools. But first look into the mirror. I read somewhere that the top 50 colleges in America have enough slots for only 2% of US high school graduates. The sense of entitlement that permeates this thread is case and point for why this woman feels under so much pressure. |
Anonymous
Me too, and I grew up about 3 miles from BC. It was my safety. |
Anonymous
To be fair, it was 1984. |
Anonymous
Good lord, people. Go back and read the previous post about the irony. The point of this thread is NOT to debate whether BC is or is not a good school. It's to point out how ridiculous it is that parents in this area focus so much on the prestige (or lack thereof) of their children's college. When you debate whether you think BC is a prestigious school, you're being just as competitive and superficial as the woman who called in to Dr. Drew. |
Anonymous
Yeah. I coulc understand his mom being a little disappointed if he couldn't get into West Virginia U, after going to good NOVA private schools. But three years of being upset about it is nuts. |
Anonymous
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OMG I listened and I know her. Very identifiable personal details. She really very nice. Yikes!
And fyi BC is now very difficult to get into. If you think your kid is going to waltz in there because it was your "safety" in the 80s - think again! |
Anonymous
THIS. Anyone with younger children who hasn't gone through the college process yet will be in for an eye-opening experience if they think schools are at the same level as they were in the 1980's...don't be surprised that the schools that were your safeties are out of reach for your child and you find yourself looking at schools you didn't even think about years ago. Schools change and there has been a HUGE change in a lot of schools that were considered lower-tier back in the 80's. |
Anonymous
Ok so is the daughter in an ivy and that's why she's not mourning her college choice? Or was she only obsessed w the son getting into an ivy? |