How would you feel if the person you dated had terrible credit and no license?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long ago was this? Unsecured debt is removed from your credit in 7 years. Have her check in report for outdated things that can be disputed.

Now, she needs to pay whatever fine to reinstate her license.

Is this still true? I've heard this but unsure of its accuracy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in her 30's with a suspended driver's license. She lives in the city so she does not drive. In her 20's, she racked up a ton of credit card debt and just decided to stop paying them. She disconnected her phone number and moved so the debt collectors could not hound her.

She has met a wonderful guy online. They've been dating for a few months. She is afraid he will be turned off by her irresponsible 20's. She can't rent an apartment without a consignor.

Oh fukkin well. Time to pay the piper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she's hot, I'd date and sleep with her anyway. But marry her? No way -- not with that background and that drama. Her problems would become my problems. No thanks.

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Exactly

[Anonymous]

I'd dump them. It's not that I wouldn't date someone who doesn't drive. It's that I wouldn't date someone irresponsible.

[Anonymous]

Is this guy a high earner? If so, she should hang in tight. It sounds like she needs somebody to help take care of her. Maybe he can also get her to address her serious mental illness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Turn and walk away. Don't look back.

+1

Huge red flags.

[Anonymous]

I think you're too focused on her bad decisions. Do you consider yourself to be a close friend of hers? 'Cause, you're not. If this is in fact a real post.

[Anonymous]

April and then again in December. Interesting. Be a friend or cut your losses, obviously you should choose the latter.

[Anonymous]

ADHD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:April and then again in December. Interesting. Be a friend or cut your losses, obviously you should choose the latter.

OP here. I forgot I posted before. Same friend. Same guy. Same details. Relationship more serious now. Friend got mad at me when I suggested that she fix her license situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell your "friend" that she can fix this now before he finds out how much of a deadbeat she is.

+100

[Anonymous]

Just continue to be a good friend let her make her own life decisions/mistakes and learn from it the hard way. Unless she seeks advice from you about what to do just leave her alone and let them figure it out. I've learned in my 34 years on earth that when it comes to giving life advice, people will only listen when they reach out. If her boyfriend is too stupid to vet his girlfriends properly he'll also learn the hard way.

[Anonymous]

I think the "friend " is OP herself.

[Anonymous]

Hell. No. If she was that irresponsible then, what's to say she'll be a responsible partner now?

I'm 28 and just bought my own house in DC. Qualified solo. Same for my car. I would not date a man who could not get his finances in order because that's no way to start a life together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the "friend " is OP herself.

Why would I post that my friend got mad at me for suggesting she fix her license situation?

She lives in the city and he lives in the suburbs. It's only a matter of time that he suggests and/or wants her to drive. She can't even drive to the grocery store without him driving her. it's one thing if she never drove and he could teach her. He is a stable responsible adult. I don't want her to lose him over something like this.

I know she hopes her debts just go away. I know she has been banking on the 7 years and it goes away on your credit report. I am not sure if this is myth or truth but I know she could not rent an apt without a cosigner. She didn't ask me directly but I asked DH and DH was like hell no.