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PP here -- I see your child is already in preschool -- my post got delayed and I didn't see those posts....
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One parent could also work part-time. It doesn't seem odd to me. |
PP here that you are quoting. What you are reporting does not sound plausible or even reasonable. K classrooms have bathrooms in the classroom so why would they not be allowed to use the bathroom in almost the entire day? I have actually visited my child's classroom for a reading event and other various events and see how the day is structured. We also have a schedule, so I know how often they move about. There is library time, something called lab(??), music, PE and art. They do reading time in groups and also math and morning meeting. How do you expect that all of that is accomplished throughout the week without some fair amount of moving about and frequent changes in the current activity. It sounds like you are angry that your child can't sit still and is having a horrible time in K. I am sorry for that. I knew my child is not the best with sitting still so we put her in a daycare with some academics and she has done great academically and loves K. OP< for better or worse K has changed and my child is not special or great (except to me of course) and she is doing just fine. We prepared her for K and she went in confident with basic knowledge and that has helped. Even low performing schools in inner cities (I know because of family living there) have seriously raised the bar for K and those kids are learning to read in K and learning basic math like addition and subtraction. Everyone has a fit about it as I would have had I not seen how it is done. While it is tough for some to learn impulse control and not just walk away from the circle time or stay on task, sending your child to any kind of preschool or daycare setting should help your child understand the routine and ease the transition. I did not learn how to read until the end of 1st grade and I would have never thought that my child would be expected to be learning in K. BUT you would be surprised at how capable they are. Your child will be fine. |
Wow, that was not our experience at all. My kids in K had a lot of different hands on activities and rarely sat and did worksheets. It sounds like your kid got a terrible teacher. What you describe is not what goes on at our FCPS in K at all. |
I'm pretty sure 2 days a week PE is a standard across all FCPS schools. Some even have 3 days. |
It is so upsetting to hear people constantly negate our experience because they did not experience the same. My child has no problem sitting still, and he never got in trouble, but he was bored to tears (literally) and stressed by the tedium. They were not allowed to use the bathroom without permission, even though it was in the classroom. They could not leave their seats for any reason. They sometimes sat on a small carpet instead, but were expected to sit absolutely still, with no fidgeting. And then straight back to the seats. There was no group work. The teacher refused to do it, even though several parents brought it up. They did have one special a day, lunch, and a 20 minute recess (which could be taken away for not completing worksheets). I observed the class myself, and this is fact. I wish we had had a good experience. I was expecting to. But this was the experience we had. Those who had something better should consider themselves lucky. Fairfax doesn't seem to have any standards for what is appropriate in Kindergarten, and it's luck of the draw whether you get a good teacher or something like what we got. |
That is because these aren't preschools, they are daycares with a school component. Most preschools don't have rest time and even if they ARE play based they work in some academics - letters, gross and fine motor, etc. Just because they're not sitting doing worksheets doesn't mean there are no academics. If they really are just playing all day and napping - well, again, that's a daycare, not a preschool (play based or otherwise.) |
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We've sent our kids to several different local preschools and of course none had nap time! The preschool day is usually 3-4 hours long.
If my kids went to daycare like pp's, I would be very unhappy about a forced nap for 4-5 year olds, especially for two hours!!! That's absurd, most children don't even regularly nap by 4. |
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Our K has daily recess, PE twice a day, snack every afternoon, and rest time through basically Christmas (after that they don't really need it). Plus, give the K teachers a little credit here, they are not military sergeants. They know what rules and structure are appropriate for K kids. The kids get a lot of wiggle time, in my view.
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First, you can always stay put, but send your child to a private kindergarten, if you have the means. You should definitely talk to parents in your neighborhood and ask about their experiences with kindergarten at your school.
I have three kids who went to FCPS kindergartens, at three different schools. The worst one actually had half-day kindergarten. The teachers have a lot of academics to fit into the day, and half-day isn't enough, because there's a lot of time taken up with "cat herding" in kindergarten. The half-day kindergarten ends up being the worst in terms of having to skip recess time and stressing the kids by forcing them to sit a lot to get the academics covered. They skip the fun stations/centers where they'd otherwise get learn-by-play time, too. If you have a child who's already reading, writing, adding and subtracting, or picks those things up quickly, FCPS kindergarten is incredibly boring for them, because they sit around a lot doing busy work while the teachers work with others. There are lots of normal developmental variations in where everyone is with the academics at this age, so kindergarten teachers have their hands full. |
But that is what you or that PP did. By responding with "bull", you negated my and a lot of other people's experiences because it didn't match you particular experience. If you are the same poster, you went from very angry and rude to almost victim like. Very odd |
Not odd at all. You all believe that your experience is the norm, and it is not. It is lucky. And my experience is not that unusual. As for being angry - wouldn't you be if that was your child's kindergarten experience? And as for being a victim, yes, I do feel that both I and my child were victimized by the school in many ways. I think I am absolutely justified in all of those attitudes. |
Actually, the PP's expereince seems to be the norm as many other PP's have posted similar things and your seem to be the only poster who has had a different expereince. I think perhaps, you should consider that your experience is the outlier. Which school did your DC attend and have this honorific kindergarten experience? |
Yes, this is all true. The main problem here is that you thinking about how your 3yo would do in this environment. But you won't be sending a 3yo to K, you will be sending a 5yo. Your child will change A LOT in the next 2 years. The only thing that bugs me so far is the lack of recess. I wish they had more of that. I am SOOOOO relieved they don't do naps. My DD was in a preschool/daycare program and forcing 3 and 4yos who have no desire to nap to lay there quietly for 2 hours seemed like torture. And yeah, my DD is wayyyy beyond where I was in my half day K program back in the 80s. My DD is reading. Saturday she pulled out a piece of paper and wrote a story about what we did Friday night. Please don't worry so much, it will all be fine. This is a big transition for kids, but we all go through it and survive. My DD is thriving in her FCPS K! |
I should add that during the course of the day, they go to the lunchroom for lunch, outside for recess, and go to a special class at least once during the day: art room, music room, steam lab, computer lab, story time, and PE. So they are not chained to a desk all day! They keep them moving. |