The biggest fear a woman & man has when getting married.

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... is a grammatically incorrect thread title.

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Anonymous wrote:my biggest fear: the death of my spouse

+1

I cannot imagine a life without him.

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Women have to worry about men killing them.

Maybe not every woman worries about this, but given statistics, they absolutely should.

If men's biggest concern is their partner getting fat (which is an issue for women too, it's not like we're attracted to obesity) then count your blessings!!

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You are all pathetic, shallow people, with the exception of the person who fears the death of his/her spouse.

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Anonymous wrote:You are all pathetic, shallow people, with the exception of the person who fears the death of his/her spouse.

Speak for yourself.

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Um...I am speaking for myself. Your point?

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Am I the only one who never had any fears whatsoever that "the sex" would stop?

6 years married, turning 30 this year. Wife and I just celebrated valentine's day with a ridiculous threesome with a friend of ours. We have extremely open communication about sex and sexuality, so it's really not a concern that anything will 'sneak up on me'.

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Anonymous wrote:People rarely "turn" into something they are not initially, so keep your eyes open.

If you are fearful, don't get married. Problem solved.

Wish I hadn't.

Got married last September. Leading up to that, we had sex 3 times a week. Since September, we've has sex TWICE. Here I am newly married 5 months and I'm on this miserable message board with a bunch of crusty old broads.

I'm seriously considering cutting bait now, because my future seems bleak.

Cut and run, baby.

Yes, She's talking about kids, but there is no way (first not even sure how we could conceive them). I'm thinking I'll just consider this a starter marriage. I need to pull the plug, but I just need to get on it. I don't really care to work on this either. We shouldn't even be having this problem and even it if gets fixed temporarily, clearly sex is not a priority for her and I doubt it will change. I think her goal was just to get married.

Oh please, no blaming others for the shitty choices you made!

Who am I blaming? I was engaged to a woman who I had sex with 3 times a week untilt he day we married. We've been married now for 5 months and we've had sex 2xs. How could I have prevented this outcome, exactly?

I dunno, basic fucking communication? Therapy? Toys? You and your spouse being emotionally stunted children?

You've got a problem, yes.

So fucking diagnose the problem and figure out a way to fix it, like a fucking adult.

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who never had any fears whatsoever that "the sex" would stop?

6 years married, turning 30 this year. Wife and I just celebrated valentine's day with a ridiculous threesome with a friend of ours. We have extremely open communication about sex and sexuality, so it's really not a concern that anything will 'sneak up on me'.

Well, no wonder you weren't worried. I am sure the Trump kids don't worry about being poor. But neither situation is unique.

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That's all I have to do to be a good wife? Not get fat? I'm a smashing success then! That was easy.

lol...right? It's assumed that you will also clean the house and keep it running, prepare most of the meals, bring in at least 1/3 of the income, manage your social lives, and bear and care for any children that come along. And don't nag him if he doesn't "help you" with YOUR work.

I do all that. I still fucked up an had an affair. But I'm not a nag. I'm the opposite of a nag. I didn't ask for any help, and we kind of fell apart. I didn't have any fears going into marriage. Good man, good husband, good marriage -- until it wasn't.

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Anonymous wrote:People rarely "turn" into something they are not initially, so keep your eyes open.

If you are fearful, don't get married. Problem solved.

Wish I hadn't.

Got married last September. Leading up to that, we had sex 3 times a week. Since September, we've has sex TWICE. Here I am newly married 5 months and I'm on this miserable message board with a bunch of crusty old broads.

I'm seriously considering cutting bait now, because my future seems bleak.

Cut and run, baby.

Yes, She's talking about kids, but there is no way (first not even sure how we could conceive them). I'm thinking I'll just consider this a starter marriage. I need to pull the plug, but I just need to get on it. I don't really care to work on this either. We shouldn't even be having this problem and even it if gets fixed temporarily, clearly sex is not a priority for her and I doubt it will change. I think her goal was just to get married.

Oh please, no blaming others for the shitty choices you made!

Who am I blaming? I was engaged to a woman who I had sex with 3 times a week untilt he day we married. We've been married now for 5 months and we've had sex 2xs. How could I have prevented this outcome, exactly? I think my situation is unusual that it happened so quickly, for most couples it is a downward spiral over the course of years.

Regardless, I will cut and run and hopefully the next man she marries, is equally as uninterested in sex.

Sex to get the ring. Withhold so that you relent on the kids. Scheduled sex until she gets pregnant, than nothing until/unless she wants another.

Classic bait and switch. Get out while you can (i.e., before kids). Condom or vasectomy until then.

Agreed. Crusty old broad here, don't stay with this woman. It will only get much much worse.

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... is a grammatically incorrect thread title.

THANK YOU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my biggest fear: the death of my spouse

I'm one of those sick people from your other thread; I've been fantasizing about this for about 7 years ...