Am I the only one in the area who married a poor guy?

[Anonymous]

My husband doesn't make a lot at all (about $60K base and about $10K in freelance work). I make $112K so we bring in about $170-180K a year, which is not great for this area. He is fairly ambitious in his field though and is talented at what he does. He has been having more opportunities lately so hopefully he will start bringing in more in the next few years. We are also fortunate that we both come from family's that are pretty comfortable financially, and they were able to help us out with the down payment on our house, and could help us out if we were ever really in a bind.

[Anonymous]

Define "poor guy". So many people in this area are clueless about what being truly poor is.

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Anonymous wrote:Real-world poor or DCUM poor?

My thoughts exactly.

Kinda midway between the two. Enough to pay the bills and keep our ten year old cars running. Not enough for vacations or luxuries beyond cable & internet.

There are people on this website making 500k who say this is their lifestyle.

DCUM has taught me so much about the world.

Really? Because I'm in the bracket and flush with cash. Don't think I've read a single post where someone says they make 500k and are struggling. We must be reading something different or you have a special narrative running in your head.

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I'm the kind of idiot who believes that you don't divorce kids; step parenting is a commitment for life.

Sorry, the child's real father can pay for college.

"Real" father is deceased and has been for 4 years. My fiancé stepped up voluntarily.

He sounds like a great guy. A true mensch.

"poor" but happy here too. Been married 10 years and still bless fully happy. I dumped an investment banker for my "poor" guy. He just wasn't a kind person and didn't treat me well.

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Anonymous wrote:Define "poor guy". So many people in this area are clueless about what being truly poor is.

DCUM "poor" = no au pair. DCUM "dirt poor" = must attend public school.

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Anonymous wrote:Does he have ambition? My husband had no money, but he is smart and works hard, now we are just fine.

This is important. Not the OP but my husband is broke with ZERO ambition. Not a good combination. He sucks.

[Anonymous]

No, but since I stay home I don't complain about the money he earns.

[Anonymous]

In another thread here about careers someone said they're getting by with $700K. Really? If that's the scale then maybe I should apply for food stamps.

[Anonymous]

Jealous of my friends who are marrying ambitious dudes in business and engineering.

I'm marrying a sweet and amazing guy who only makes 65k at 26.

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of my friends who are marrying ambitious dudes in business and engineering.

I'm marrying a sweet and amazing guy who only makes 65k at 26.

Which is well-above average, nationally speaking.

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Anonymous wrote:Define "poor guy". So many people in this area are clueless about what being truly poor is.

DCUM "poor" = no au pair. DCUM "dirt poor" = must attend public school.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of my friends who are marrying ambitious dudes in business and engineering.

I'm marrying a sweet and amazing guy who only makes 65k at 26.

If that's something you know you're not happy with its not too late to back out of your marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of my friends who are marrying ambitious dudes in business and engineering.

I'm marrying a sweet and amazing guy who only makes 65k at 26.

If that's something you know you're not happy with its not too late to back out of your marriage.

I love him. I'm not marrying him for money but I find myself feeling pangs of jealousy when I hear about a friend who married a well to do guy and are buying a nice house or going on a nice international vacation.

Just wish my love was sweet AND rich or ambitious.

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Over the past 4-5 decades my finances had 'rollercoastered'. I made good money. Then didn't. Then did. Then didn't. But have been making good money for quite a while and will never go back to not having enough.

It's not the income that counts early on. It's the work ethic, intelligence, goals and drive. A woman can marry a man who doesn't have a lot of money but he should have other qualities that make him a match. If financial security is one of those then make sure he has what it takes to gain that.

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Anonymous wrote:Jealous of my friends who are marrying ambitious dudes in business and engineering.

I'm marrying a sweet and amazing guy who only makes 65k at 26.

If that's something you know you're not happy with its not too late to back out of your marriage.

I love him. I'm not marrying him for money but I find myself feeling pangs of jealousy when I hear about a friend who married a well to do guy and are buying a nice house or going on a nice international vacation.

Just wish my love was sweet AND rich or ambitious.

Your friend who married a well to do guy, I have seen plenty of those go bankrupt.