RHOC - Last night's episode

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I felt bad for her, but that was tempered by my disgust at how freaking narcissistic she is. My God, everything is about HER. Watch it again... Every sentence out of her mouth is about herself. She can't leave ME. How can she do this to ME. I need her. I can't have no parents, who has no parents?

She reacted the same way when her daughter got married and when her daughter had cancer. It is always all about Vicki, 100% of the time. She didn't even ask her brother if he was ok. She is incapable of caring about others.

but she acts like she is THE one who cares for everyone with her constant controlling behavior. She is a narcissist without a doubt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I felt bad for her, but that was tempered by my disgust at how freaking narcissistic she is. My God, everything is about HER. Watch it again... Every sentence out of her mouth is about herself. She can't leave ME. How can she do this to ME. I need her. I can't have no parents, who has no parents?

She reacted the same way when her daughter got married and when her daughter had cancer. It is always all about Vicki, 100% of the time. She didn't even ask her brother if he was ok. She is incapable of caring about others.

This is so true. I felt bad for her, and I cried watching it..but for this to be her IMMEDIATE first thoughts seemed bizarre to me. I had those thougts about my own parents deaths..but not right away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Vicky's phone call with her brother " Make her wake up!" I am sorry her mother dies, but keep it together lady.

Yeah, this was weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I felt bad for her, but that was tempered by my disgust at how freaking narcissistic she is. My God, everything is about HER. Watch it again... Every sentence out of her mouth is about herself. She can't leave ME. How can she do this to ME. I need her. I can't have no parents, who has no parents?

She reacted the same way when her daughter got married and when her daughter had cancer. It is always all about Vicki, 100% of the time. She didn't even ask her brother if he was ok. She is incapable of caring about others.

This is so true. I felt bad for her, and I cried watching it..but for this to be her IMMEDIATE first thoughts seemed bizarre to me. I had those thougts about my own parents deaths..but not right away.

Agree. She's very self centered. I have no idea how I will react when this time comes, but I have a hard time seeing myself react the way she did. I thought about it while I was watching as I didn't want to judge her -- grief is personal, but some of the reactions/comments were strange to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I felt bad for her, but that was tempered by my disgust at how freaking narcissistic she is. My God, everything is about HER. Watch it again... Every sentence out of her mouth is about herself. She can't leave ME. How can she do this to ME. I need her. I can't have no parents, who has no parents?

She reacted the same way when her daughter got married and when her daughter had cancer. It is always all about Vicki, 100% of the time. She didn't even ask her brother if he was ok. She is incapable of caring about others.



This is so true. I felt bad for her, and I cried watching it..but for this to be her IMMEDIATE first thoughts seemed bizarre to me. I had those thougts about my own parents deaths..but not right away.



Agree. She's very self centered. I have no idea how I will react when this time comes, but I have a hard time seeing myself react the way she did. I thought about it while I was watching as I didn't want to judge her -- grief is personal, but some of the reactions/comments were strange to me.

Another thing she kept saying was "Who is going to worry about me now?" I just can't get over how self centered she is. Even when Brianna had cancer, Vicki made it all about her. "I can't believe you are doing this to me. I can't handle this."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As for Vickie overreacting:

Have you watched her? She screams when she has any emotion at all. Whether it's a WOOHOO! or screaming at Gretchen or Tamara, or whatever, she is over the top.

She is also extremely needy and has often admitted to being unable to be alone and needing someone to care for her. (Note: the perfect formula for someone to end up in an abisive relationship, which she has more than once.) Did you guys catch when she was sobbing about "who is going to worry about me now? My mom always worried about me." Or somehing like that.

I also think the sudden shock (she just had spoken with her mom that morning and everything was fine) plays a role. Unlike an ill parent dying.

I don't know why I'm defending her so much. I think she is very flawed and can be a complete bitch and was horrible to heather last season. However, I think last night's scene was very in line with the real Vickie.

PS, Meghan blows.

Good point. It was the constant screaming/crying combo that threw me, but some people react that way. Reminded me of keening, in a way.

It *was* keening. It struck me as over-the-top, too. I've been in the same situation, but certainly didn't fall on the floor wailing. I actually found it off-putting. I get that her mother died suddenly, but she was in her 80s. I could see a reaction like that if your child dies-that's totally against the natural order of things.

You find it offputting that a woman had a visceral reaction to her elderly yet otherwise healthy mother died suddenly? How nice of you.

Can you even believe the cold souls on this board? Scary, vapid women. Find some empathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I felt bad for her, but that was tempered by my disgust at how freaking narcissistic she is. My God, everything is about HER. Watch it again... Every sentence out of her mouth is about herself. She can't leave ME. How can she do this to ME. I need her. I can't have no parents, who has no parents?

She reacted the same way when her daughter got married and when her daughter had cancer. It is always all about Vicki, 100% of the time. She didn't even ask her brother if he was ok. She is incapable of caring about others.

but she acts like she is THE one who cares for everyone with her constant controlling behavior. She is a narcissist without a doubt.

My mother is exactly like this. And she has been very similar in her reaction to deaths of family members.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As for Vickie overreacting:

Have you watched her? She screams when she has any emotion at all. Whether it's a WOOHOO! or screaming at Gretchen or Tamara, or whatever, she is over the top.

She is also extremely needy and has often admitted to being unable to be alone and needing someone to care for her. (Note: the perfect formula for someone to end up in an abisive relationship, which she has more than once.) Did you guys catch when she was sobbing about "who is going to worry about me now? My mom always worried about me." Or somehing like that.

I also think the sudden shock (she just had spoken with her mom that morning and everything was fine) plays a role. Unlike an ill parent dying.

I don't know why I'm defending her so much. I think she is very flawed and can be a complete bitch and was horrible to heather last season. However, I think last night's scene was very in line with the real Vickie.

PS, Meghan blows.

Good point. It was the constant screaming/crying combo that threw me, but some people react that way. Reminded me of keening, in a way.

It *was* keening. It struck me as over-the-top, too. I've been in the same situation, but certainly didn't fall on the floor wailing. I actually found it off-putting. I get that her mother died suddenly, but she was in her 80s. I could see a reaction like that if your child dies-that's totally against the natural order of things.

You find it offputting that a woman had a visceral reaction to her elderly yet otherwise healthy mother died suddenly? How nice of you.

Can you even believe the cold souls on this board? Scary, vapid women. Find some empathy.

I don't think most people are without empathy, most of us have had a hard time relating to her reaction and can't imagine reacting this way. Who knows? I may act exactly the same, but I don't think so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As for Vickie overreacting:

Have you watched her? She screams when she has any emotion at all. Whether it's a WOOHOO! or screaming at Gretchen or Tamara, or whatever, she is over the top.

She is also extremely needy and has often admitted to being unable to be alone and needing someone to care for her. (Note: the perfect formula for someone to end up in an abisive relationship, which she has more than once.) Did you guys catch when she was sobbing about "who is going to worry about me now? My mom always worried about me." Or somehing like that.

I also think the sudden shock (she just had spoken with her mom that morning and everything was fine) plays a role. Unlike an ill parent dying.

I don't know why I'm defending her so much. I think she is very flawed and can be a complete bitch and was horrible to heather last season. However, I think last night's scene was very in line with the real Vickie.

PS, Meghan blows.

Good point. It was the constant screaming/crying combo that threw me, but some people react that way. Reminded me of keening, in a way.

It *was* keening. It struck me as over-the-top, too. I've been in the same situation, but certainly didn't fall on the floor wailing. I actually found it off-putting. I get that her mother died suddenly, but she was in her 80s. I could see a reaction like that if your child dies-that's totally against the natural order of things.

You find it offputting that a woman had a visceral reaction to her elderly yet otherwise healthy mother died suddenly? How nice of you.

Can you even believe the cold souls on this board? Scary, vapid women. Find some empathy.

I know. It's kind of shocking.

Oh well- karma, baby. It gets everyone in the end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have any of y'all lost your mother yet? I have, and I also thought her reaction was over dramatic. My mom and I were super close and I was devastated by her loss. But I did/do not grieve out loud and so Vicki's expression of her pain and grief was way too much in my view. But at the same time- I hurt for her and am so sorry for her loss. I react to pain and loss differently.

Everyone grieves differently and not everyone loses it that outward way.

This 100%. I lost my young mother unexpectedly, we were very close and yet would NEVER have reacted this way. It was so over the top and self centered and lengthy. I found it distasteful but SO Vicky.