Wife snaps a lot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow everyone has no tolerance on snappiness. I admit I snap a lot. I work 2 FT jobs and get about 5 hours a sleep a night. I'm barely hanging in there but it's what it takes for our family to survive right now. So there's a bawling kid trying to latch, and I'm cooking dinner before I run to my next job, and hen DH asks me if his shirt matches his khaki pants (he changes into that when he's relaxing at home after work)...I just can't. "LITERALLY everything matches khaki," I snap. Thank goodness DH gets it and doesn't leave me. My fuse is short these days and I think both partners need to cut each other some slack.

You need to change your behavior or your marriage will not last.

In a few years, when that bawling kid of yours starts snapping back at you, you'll see the damage you've done.

Because she said everything matches khaki? That's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife is an inveterate snapper. She snaps with flashes of anger every other day. Soon after she apologizes and claims she is working on breaking the snapping habit and that she's sorry. Then she snaps again, over petty stuff. And says sorry again. The cycle never ends (her mother is the same way and my wife hates it). This is becoming a big issue; any advice on dealing with it? I can't stand it.

How much is on her plate versus on yours? I ask because many husbands take a backseat in the family and then wonder how it is that the person who is carrying the weight of their shirking also can't manage to be sweet and smiling too. You can have a wife who does all the little things that make a family run and thereby makes your life ultra easy, but is tired and cranky OR you can pull your weight and have a happy, nice wife. Choose wisely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow everyone has no tolerance on snappiness. I admit I snap a lot. I work 2 FT jobs and get about 5 hours a sleep a night. I'm barely hanging in there but it's what it takes for our family to survive right now. So there's a bawling kid trying to latch, and I'm cooking dinner before I run to my next job, and hen DH asks me if his shirt matches his khaki pants (he changes into that when he's relaxing at home after work)...I just can't. "LITERALLY everything matches khaki," I snap. Thank goodness DH gets it and doesn't leave me. My fuse is short these days and I think both partners need to cut each other some slack.

You need to change your behavior or your marriage will not last.

In a few years, when that bawling kid of yours starts snapping back at you, you'll see the damage you've done.

Because she said everything matches khaki? That's ridiculous.

Tone is everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:she may also just be exhausted -- when I'm tired, I snap at DH & vice versa (so as parents of young children, more often than I'd like!) - often over things that are 'no biggie' otherwise. I'm just kind of at the end of my rope sometimes.

You make it sounds like that's a legitimate excuse or a valid reason for her atrocious behavior. It's not.

That was me when my kids were younger - I was exhausted and lonely - basically miserable . I got frustrated easily and really came down hard on my kids when they didn't behave. I have huge regrets but what helped me was reading some mommy blogs about how childhood is so short and how my children looked up to me and with so much love even though I really didn't deserve it.

DW has to figure it out on her own but see if you can help in some way.