Then it follows we should eliminate all awards, certificates. |
I understand everything you are saying, but what I am saying is that a parent has to turn stuff like this into a teachable moment. This is an opportunity to talk to your kids about hard work, achievement, what "smart" actually means, and what your values are. I just think you are really under-estimating kids by thinking that they cannot handle these concepts and will label themselves and be scarred for life. That is just not healthy. And it is not healthy to live in a world where you have to contort yourself to that extent to avoid your children's discomfort. |
| And no law firm should have partners unless everyone can be one. And there should be no pro teams because really good players are still not being chosen. And definitely no sales bonuses or performance awards. |
| I have a child in a FCPS elementary school where awards are given to 3 kids in each class at the end of each grading period. The categories are achievement, character and personal best. I have no problem with this. Good motivation and the categories make receiving an award attainable for everyone not just the kids who get good grades. Each child can only receive an award one during the school year. So when DC comes home upset that he/she didn't receivevan award, tell them to work on improving their character or trying THEIR personal best. |
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I don't recall any awards in grade school. I believe they started in middle school. I also found it strange that they had "student council" in grade schools here. |
That is a different kind of reward. It is frequent, and presumably every gets a chance to be recognized. If, however, there are a few kids who persistently are not recognized because they are badly behaved, you can be sure that the promise of the weekly reward is NOT working for them and the notion of the reward as incentive has failed. Time to talk with those students and question why the heck you're using these rewards as a behavior management system when it's not reaching the kids you want to reach. |
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We've had some European exchange students stay with us, and they all find our American reward and certificate obsession completely weird and alien. So those of you here who are saying "that's life," well, it's not life everywhere. Even in countries that are doing a helluva lot better than we are on any number of metrics.
As one kid put it, if a teacher's student isn't winning awards, isn't it really the fault of the teacher? Ha! |
Yes, this must be exactly why America is doing worse than other countries. Never mind that they don't have the drastic educational inequality, or that their culture probably respects intellectuals more, or that their teachers are highly qualified, highly paid, and highly respected, or that their curriculum is more developed, uniform, and organized nation-wide, it must be our "obsession" with certificates.
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Straw man. If we are so much worse, why do so many wish to come here? |
This is well put. Thank you PP.
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You are arguing against a point I did not make. Please turn your attention to the words and try again. I'll give you a little trophy if that helps. |
No need to be rude, it just emphasizes the fundamental weakness of your argument. It IS life. Maybe kids don't get certificates everywhere, but people are rewarded for their work and accomplishments everywhere. And sometimes that reward is not fair. Like I said, if you have to contort yourself so much for the sake of avoiding your kids' discomfort, something is wrong with the way you are thinking. You are not going to be hovering over your kid forever, keeping them from feeling disappointment. |
| At those ages, academic awards are completely subjective and mostly about who the teacher likes and who is slightly more developed or a year older than the rest of the class. There is very little basis for 2nd grade awards that actually gives each kid a fair chance based on how hard they work. |
No, the point is that adults create the school environment and decide what will go on there and how children will be recognized, motivated, and rewarded for what they do. For some reason, adults think this is an appropriate thing to do to children, when actual real research on children's experience of this stuff for the short and long term tends to be either "meh" or, overall and quite predictably, the OPPOSITE of what we want to have happen. So what I am saying is: (a) It is not a universally accepted part of "life"--other cultures think it is a bizarre and alien practice. (b) There is no reason to contort yourself or your child into accepting a practice that is completely optional and done at the whim of adults who think it is fun to see children stand with awards. Children do not care--at least, not in the ways we think and hope they do. (c) As mentioned, actual data suggests this is a countermotivational thing to do in education--seek out the highest achieving young kids and give them awards at an assembly. And therefore, as mindful and cognizant adults who construct the worlds of school where our children grow up and presumably develop important understandings of what learning is, why they learn, why they try hard, who they are, and what others value of them, we can decide to do it. Or not. And I say not. |
| So much of this thread makes clear that much of what happens on school is about the adults. Who cares is academic awards are counterproductive if they make the adults feel good. Screw research and evidence, this is about our cherished myths about rewarding academic achievement and preparing kids for the real world. Who cares if awards actually do this - research says not - if they make adults feel good. |