Carolyn Hax

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She had 3 kids. Three boys. Set of twins and a singleton. Her 2nd husband, she met in New England, where she moved back after her Mom was succumbing to ALS. I think her current husband (Kenny?) was some sort of teacher/professor. Even if she weren't legally divorced, she wasn't with Nick when those kids were conceived.

I grew up reading her, too. Since the very first columns/chats. Back when there were two chats a week.

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Anonymous wrote:She was always too quick to suggest divorce. And then she lost her moral authority when she cheated on her husband.

How on earth do you know this?

Her kids with her now-second husband were born too early (but not premature) for them not to have been conceived before the end of her first marriage. It was public knowledge at the time.

They had been separated and were no longer together before she announced it to the column. I thought that was public knowledge too.

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I used to love her when I was in my 20's, but I haven't read her lately.
But no one is worse than the current Dear Prudence. Good Lord her advice is terrible.

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What are you saying, poster 12:10? she got pregnant by her first husband (I assume with twins, because you said kidS), separated and divorced and remarried in the course of her 40 week pregnancy, and claimed her second husband as the father of the kids- and that was okay with her first husband, the bio dad, and her second husband? i really am not following what you are implying.

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Anonymous wrote:What are you saying, poster 12:10? she got pregnant by her first husband (I assume with twins, because you said kidS), separated and divorced and remarried in the course of her 40 week pregnancy, and claimed her second husband as the father of the kids- and that was okay with her first husband, the bio dad, and her second husband? i really am not following what you are implying.

The PP is saying that even though Hax was separated form her first husband, had started the process of dissolving the marriage, had moved back to New England, and both parties had moved on, because the twins were conceived before the divorce was finalized she "cheated" on her first husband. Or, shorter version, the PP is twisting facts to align with her fundie view of the world, and is a nitwit.

http://www.sptimes.com/2003/01/12/Floridian/In_her_own_defense.shtml

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Anonymous wrote:What are you saying, poster 12:10? she got pregnant by her first husband (I assume with twins, because you said kidS), separated and divorced and remarried in the course of her 40 week pregnancy, and claimed her second husband as the father of the kids- and that was okay with her first husband, the bio dad, and her second husband? i really am not following what you are implying.

The PP is saying that even though Hax was separated form her first husband, had started the process of dissolving the marriage, had moved back to New England, and both parties had moved on, because the twins were conceived before the divorce was finalized she "cheated" on her first husband. Or, shorter version, the PP is twisting facts to align with her fundie view of the world, and is a nitwit.

http://www.sptimes.com/2003/01/12/Floridian/In_her_own_defense.shtml

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Anonymous wrote:I prefer Amy Dickinson "Ask Amy".

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Much more concise and to the point. She doesn't rely on those circular arguments that Hax uses which make reading her so tiresome.

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Anonymous wrote:I always wonder how she and her ex are supposed to be such good friends and why it comes up frequently how great they are but with no back story on what happened.
I know he does the cartoons but seems odd that they wouldn't separate a little more. I seem to recall that her kids call him "uncle".

No back story? Are you kidding? It's been hashed and rehashed. They did a joint chat with that as the sole subject. They did a radio show together recently and the subject came up (again). It's all over the internet. As a PP said, you need to get out more.

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Oh geez. Another longtime reader of Carolyn. I agree with her more than I disagree with her. Like a pp said, she was a breath of fresh air when she started compared to Ann Landers and Dear Abby. She explained pretty openly (and unnecessarily, if you ask me) that she and Nick had been separated for awhile. She was caring for her mother who was dying of ALS at the time she reconnected with her now husband. She acknowledged that she became pregnant with her twins before they were married but in the link posted she said that the pregnancy was planned. So they had clearly decided to start a family together. If she and Nick hadn't officially signed the papers, they had clearly moved on from each other so you can hardly call it cheating.

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Anonymous wrote:She was always too quick to suggest divorce. And then she lost her moral authority when she cheated on her husband.

You don't actually need moral authority to give sound advice. Doctors smoke, lawyers lie, preachers cheat, and comedians are depressed.

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Anonymous wrote:She was always too quick to suggest divorce. And then she lost her moral authority when she cheated on her husband.

You don't actually need moral authority to give sound advice. Doctors smoke, lawyers lie, preachers cheat, and comedians are depressed.

+ 1.

I find her advice spot on. Not necessarily what the advice-seeker may want to hear but sensible advice. And I think it is pretty low-class to discuss her personal life and connect it to what she writes.

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Anonymous wrote:I think she is smart and honest and human. I always gain something from reading her column.

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+100.
I feel like I learn something. without snark.

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I've never liked her.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't read her for years, I think she's a quack.

A quack would imply she is claiming medical/mental health training, like Dr Laura (a quack). Hax is a journalist.

Journalist? Like she keeps a journal?

I thought she was a divorced columnist who wrote "advice columns" on, you guessed it, relationships, for the Post's style section.

Journalist, indeed.

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Anonymous wrote:I used to love her when I was in my 20's, but I haven't read her lately.
But no one is worse than the current Dear Prudence. Good Lord her advice is terrible.

Agreed, Dear Prudence is terrible! I don't follow Carolyn as much anymore but generally like her and agree with her advice.