Why are some single women attracted to married men?

[Anonymous]

DH here. The short answer is that if you are attractive, male or female, you are going to draw attention from the opposite sex regardless of whether you are married. You don't become invisible when you are married.

Of the women who make themselves "available" to me, they really aren't any different than those who were available pre-marriage, except that most women are just not going to get involved at all with married men. Of the ones that will, I don't see any type of character defect, just the fact they don't really see it as their issue whether someone's husband cheats.

For the record, I have never cheated on DW. But I did sleep with older married women when I was in my early 20s (totally hot!) and I get this line of thinking from the single side. It's not my issue if a married woman wants to cheat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not all married men wear their wedding rings or talk about their wives or are honest about being married. Some married men act single.

Married women should be way more concerned about their DHs commiserating with and having sex and affairs with MARRIED women instead of single women.

Most affairs are between two married people, commiserating with each other and helping each other out of their miserable marriages.

Smart single women are usually single for a reason. They have high standards, and they would not put up with the bull most women put up with just to have a man in their lives. Why would those women have to settle or share a married man, and put up with his bratty kids and crazy ex wife? No thank you!

DH here, at the risk of being immodest, I am attractive and professionally successful. I actually disagree with this. Most of the women who hit on me are single. It is about 10-1 single versus married women who make themselves available.

I know there are obvious exceptions, but it generally seems true that women cheat on their husbands when they are unhappy but men cheat because they have a penis.

Maybe in the D.C. area married men have disposable income they can use to attract single women. In most other cities, married middle aged men have no left over money, and they would be lucky to find another married woman to commiserate with and have sex with outside of their miserable marriages. I doubt that 20% of single women would want your sorry married behind and your bills and your bratty kids and your crazy ex wife.

Yes, yes, DC is sooo unique and special.

It is. DC is the most affluent and educated large city on the planet.

Soo so special. Wow.

[Anonymous]

Cheaters on both sides ..the married person and the person they are porking...like the excitement of illicit naughtiness that cheating brings. Its like a drug to them.

And its so true that there are some women who have emotional issues so deep that they get an ego boost from "stealing" someone's man. Daddy issues I guess?

Sad.

[Anonymous]

The same women that stole other girls' boyfriends in HS.

They have low self-esteem and this an ego boost.

Whores.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't be so sure there's no end game. My married man is now getting a divorce.

Does he have kids?

2nd marriages have 75% chance of ending in divorce.

Dumb whores. If he cheated on his first wife- he will eventually cheat in you as well.

Who wants somebody else's used meat for their first marriage?

[Anonymous]

They aren't attractive and successful enough to land an I married man in their 20s so they look for the guys tied down and now financially well-off. Gold diggers.

[Anonymous]

Lol. ROFL

[Anonymous]

I seriously doubt there's a large segment of single women whose panties get wet at the mere sight of a wedding ring on a man's finger - I think for the most part they women see a man and find him attractive and then either decide to ignore the fact that he's married in light of their overwhelming attraction or they delude themselves into thinking that his status as "taken" is merely a temporal setback and that ultimately they can have him all to themselves. In any case, women are initially and primarily attracted to a man not a marital status.

[Anonymous]

Why are some single women attracted to married men?

Easy: Social validation. Why many women are attracted to attached men, but not unattached men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are attracted to men who seemed to be desired by other women. Being married means that at least one other person found you attractive enough to marry.

Bingo

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OW here. I'd never been attracted to a married man before meeting this particular man. In fact, I, too, used to judge and criticize women who were in relationships with married men. In my case, I met a man to whom I found myself extremely attracted. It seems it was mutual. I know there's no future here, but he gives me something other men haven't in a long time.

I think you are lying to yourself when you say you know there is no future here. You hope for a future with him.
You are hoping he will leave his family for you.

OW again. You don't me or how I think. To be honest, I wouldn't want him permanently because I don't want to date or marry a cheater!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Insecure and it's validation for them.

Yes. They all have issues. I have many women I call friends who sleep with married men. They all have issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I seriously doubt there's a large segment of single women whose panties get wet at the mere sight of a wedding ring on a man's finger - I think for the most part they women see a man and find him attractive and then either decide to ignore the fact that he's married in light of their overwhelming attraction or they delude themselves into thinking that his status as "taken" is merely a temporal setback and that ultimately they can have him all to themselves. In any case, women are initially and primarily attracted to a man not a marital status.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I seriously doubt there's a large segment of single women whose panties get wet at the mere sight of a wedding ring on a man's finger - I think for the most part they women see a man and find him attractive and then either decide to ignore the fact that he's married in light of their overwhelming attraction or they delude themselves into thinking that his status as "taken" is merely a temporal setback and that ultimately they can have him all to themselves. In any case, women are initially and primarily attracted to a man not a marital status.

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Agreed. Women see attractive men and want to sleep with them. All of the claims of malicious intent and scheming aren't true. Some women may do that, but most just want to nail the guy.

[Anonymous]

Low self esteem. Lack of boundaries. Probably being sexually abused as a child.