Child got in on Appeal and I'm wondering If it's a good thing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had shielded my DD from AAP as much as possible. We parental referred, told her the WISC was to understand how she learned (which was true; I learned a lot about her from those results). When the letter arrived, we told her. She knew about AAP, and WOW, someone thinks I am smart! I should point out that getting into AAP would be obvious once we brought her to orientation.

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I asked my DC about AAP yesterday and he still does not know it. None of his friends talk about AAP. I know at least 2 of his friends are going but none of them discussed this topic nor did their parents. The boys just don't seem very into it. I guess they will find out in Sep.

I'm with both of you on this one. I wasn't trying to "shield" DS. I just didn't think he needed to know about something that wasn't a done deal. If he got in, fine. If not, fine. One we knew he was in, all we told him was he'd be doing harder math and more projects. He overheard another parent say "advanced academics" when we were talking about the school and asked me what that meant. I said "Harder math and more projects, remember?" There's a bunch of kids going from his base school (no LLIV option), but they all seem to be pretty matter of fact about it. We'll see how soon that changes.

[Anonymous]

PP, I think even though you were not trying to "shield" you DS, you were doing exactly that. You were trying to protect him from any potential negative feedback if he did not make the cut. I think that is the definition of "shielding". Why not just be upfront with him? Kids are not that fragile.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We had shielded my DD from AAP as much as possible. We parental referred, told her the WISC was to understand how she learned (which was true; I learned a lot about her from those results). When the letter arrived, we told her. She knew about AAP, and WOW, someone thinks I am smart! I should point out that getting into AAP would be obvious once we brought her to orientation.

Really? You went to such lengths to "protect" your child from the potential of a disappointment if not found eligible? If you treat your snow flake with a little more consideration as to their maturity you may find that they will learn to deal with good and bad outcomes in the future. Protecting them only sets them up for greater disappointment in the future when they have not learned coping skills like those others in their class whose parents don't over protect their kids. Both my kids play sports, understand about winning an losing, are in AAP and knew each step of the process not only from us, but from those in the school and their friends. Don't delude yourself, your DD would have found out day 1 of third grade all the smart kids were gone if she had not been admitted. Sounds like you need to 1. Have another baby as you are trying not to lose the one you have, or 2. Home school in a vacuum.

whoever posted this is an idiot. Don't come around here commenting on another person's parenting skills and provide unsolicited advice. if a parent chooses to "shield" a child from disappointment it's their choice. It's their child, after all. NOT YOURS! MORON!

This is a forum soliciting advice. I cannot help it you do not like the advice. There are differing views on the best ways to raise and shelter children from the bad world. Just because you feel one way does not make those with differing opinions MORONs. By the way, "Moron" is a derogatory term on par with "retard". You may not want to throw it around at dinner parties, it may hurt someone's feelings like that poster did to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We had shielded my DD from AAP as much as possible. We parental referred, told her the WISC was to understand how she learned (which was true; I learned a lot about her from those results). When the letter arrived, we told her. She knew about AAP, and WOW, someone thinks I am smart! I should point out that getting into AAP would be obvious once we brought her to orientation.

Really? You went to such lengths to "protect" your child from the potential of a disappointment if not found eligible? If you treat your snow flake with a little more consideration as to their maturity you may find that they will learn to deal with good and bad outcomes in the future. Protecting them only sets them up for greater disappointment in the future when they have not learned coping skills like those others in their class whose parents don't over protect their kids. Both my kids play sports, understand about winning an losing, are in AAP and knew each step of the process not only from us, but from those in the school and their friends. Don't delude yourself, your DD would have found out day 1 of third grade all the smart kids were gone if she had not been admitted. Sounds like you need to 1. Have another baby as you are trying not to lose the one you have, or 2. Home school in a vacuum.

whoever posted this is an idiot. Don't come around here commenting on another person's parenting skills and provide unsolicited advice. if a parent chooses to "shield" a child from disappointment it's their choice. It's their child, after all. NOT YOURS! MORON!

This is a forum soliciting advice. I cannot help it you do not like the advice. There are differing views on the best ways to raise and shelter children from the bad world. Just because you feel one way does not make those with differing opinions MORONs. By the way, "Moron" is a derogatory term on par with "retard". You may not want to throw it around at dinner parties, it may hurt someone's feelings like that poster did to you.

I'm the OP not the person who's child was referred to as a "snow flake" or the individual who was labeled as "deluded" or in need of another baby. Sincere posts are deserving of sincere responses not judgmental, self-gratifying B.S. I find it humorous that you with be so sensitive regarding the use of the term "moron" yet at the same time defend someone who is casting dispersions on another poster for "protecting" their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP, I think even though you were not trying to "shield" you DS, you were doing exactly that. You were trying to protect him from any potential negative feedback if he did not make the cut. I think that is the definition of "shielding". Why not just be upfront with him? Kids are not that fragile.

I am the PP that initially used the word shielding. I can not help it if you are such a witch that you would label 83% of the second graders as failure. I just did not see why DD needed to have any information on the process. I want her to be a happy child.

No one in my area of Vienna talked about AAP, the kids did not know who applied. We only found out who was in based on the class rooms.

If you think that it is not appropriate to shield a 7 yo from some things in the world, that is your problem.

[Anonymous]

I am in Vienna, too, and AAP was the talk of my group of friends. I guess it depends where in Vienna

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in Vienna, too, and AAP was the talk of my group of friends. I guess it depends where in Vienna

And all the parents prepped?

[Anonymous]

What does that mean - the parents prepped? The PP said that none of her friends talked about AAP, and I replied, that I, too, live in Vienna and AAP was the talk of the town.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We had shielded my DD from AAP as much as possible. We parental referred, told her the WISC was to understand how she learned (which was true; I learned a lot about her from those results). When the letter arrived, we told her. She knew about AAP, and WOW, someone thinks I am smart! I should point out that getting into AAP would be obvious once we brought her to orientation.

Really? You went to such lengths to "protect" your child from the potential of a disappointment if not found eligible? If you treat your snow flake with a little more consideration as to their maturity you may find that they will learn to deal with good and bad outcomes in the future. Protecting them only sets them up for greater disappointment in the future when they have not learned coping skills like those others in their class whose parents don't over protect their kids. Both my kids play sports, understand about winning an losing, are in AAP and knew each step of the process not only from us, but from those in the school and their friends. Don't delude yourself, your DD would have found out day 1 of third grade all the smart kids were gone if she had not been admitted. Sounds like you need to 1. Have another baby as you are trying not to lose the one you have, or 2. Home school in a vacuum.

whoever posted this is an idiot. Don't come around here commenting on another person's parenting skills and provide unsolicited advice. if a parent chooses to "shield" a child from disappointment it's their choice. It's their child, after all. NOT YOURS! MORON!

This is a forum soliciting advice. I cannot help it you do not like the advice. There are differing views on the best ways to raise and shelter children from the bad world. Just because you feel one way does not make those with differing opinions MORONs. By the way, "Moron" is a derogatory term on par with "retard". You may not want to throw it around at dinner parties, it may hurt someone's feelings like that poster did to you.

I'm the OP not the person who's child was referred to as a "snow flake" or the individual who was labeled as "deluded" or in need of another baby. Sincere posts are deserving of sincere responses not judgmental, self-gratifying B.S. I find it humorous that you with be so sensitive regarding the use of the term "moron" yet at the same time defend someone who is casting dispersions on another poster for "protecting" their kids.

I could not care less if one uses the term "Moron", I was simply pointing out the hypocrisy of the poster lecturing on the use of disparaging terminology and then either intentionally or unintentionally using the word "Moron", which is itself an antiquated and historically cruel term used to describe those who are now referred to as "intellectually challenged".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in Vienna, too, and AAP was the talk of my group of friends. I guess it depends where in Vienna

We live in McLean and my son, who was admitted told us that "all" the kids in his class were discussing AAP at recess and who was going to Haycock and who was staying at his school next year. Seems almost impossible to shield everyone from the process when it is so commonly discussed by the kids.

[Anonymous]

Agree with PP. Particularly given how much parents in this area seem to care about it. Some kids will remain oblivious, but elaborate attempts to shield or mislead them about where they're going are silly.

[Anonymous]

Congrats OP. We did the same. You might want to keep this to yourself for dds sake. Once in the program there was not a lot of overlap between gen Ed and AAP. There was an attitude from the gen Ed crowd. "you think you are smarter , etc " but that is the system it is not very inclusive. At our school g e was so very very slow that we just had to live with it. We felt that dc Gita a better education but there was a price Certainly is not a perfect system and has trade offs. I wish it were different.

[Anonymous]

^^ I mean keep that you appealed not that you are going

[Anonymous]

Why? We appealed as my DC was in pool based on scores but not in 1st round. I told everyone that we appealed and told them to appeal for their own if they felt their kid would do better in AAP. No human is perfect and the selection cmte made a mistake with my DC Why lie about it - that's odd!

My DC knows we appealed. DC knew about the entire process of in the pool, not accepted (folks make mistakes), appealed, accepted into AAP. DC knew the process and I said if you don't get in with the appeal, don't fret - you'll just be top dog in Gen. Ed.

[Anonymous]

My DC did a nice job passing the NNAT and FxAT but was rejected by the selection committee. We did not tell him the rejection because it has nothing to do with him. He did his job. I took him to the psychologist to WISC and did not tell him the real reason. He again did a nice job. He is in after we appealed but we did not tell him that either. I have not seen a reason why we need to tell him about the process. We keep telling him to work hard on tests or sport-matches, but how adults view and grade his efforts and abilities have nothing to do with him. I personally believe that 7 or 8 year old should not be worrying about how adults view them.