Do you think a parent should fix a toddler girl's unibrow?

[Anonymous]

This is something that is up to the family. My son is 3 and if he had a very severe unibrow I would address it because I would not want people to react negatively to him. I can see that other parents might feel differently and leave it alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm guessing that none of you were little girls with a bad unibrow. Three is a little young, but if I were mom I'd start doing some plucking be early elementary school.

I am very hairy. I always said I'd take care of it early if I had a daughter - she comes to me complaining that kids are calling her names, we would just do something. I didnt have a daughter, but have a son who is also hairy. I don't think it bothers boys the same way, but if he's upset we'll figure out what to do.

It's nice for all you blondes to say "oh, you shouldn't even notice and every child is just adorable" but we all know that's a load of BS. Some features just stand out and draw your eyes to them. Why put your kid front and center for something that's easily dealt with?

I have a ton of facial hair. Dark, disgusting facial hair. And when I started to become self-conscious about it, my mom let me start tweeting and I got my lip threaded.

The key is that a 3 year old is not yet self-conscious. Let her be until it becomes an issue for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We know this one particular girl who would be adorable but has a severe unibrow

She would be?? No, she IS adorable, even with the unibrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it was so noticeable that people treated her differently, I'd take care of it. We don't live in a world of compassionate do-gooders who wouldn't judge the innocent child... Except DCUM world where the phonies come out in droves to preach their pretend altruism. Most of the people on here would be the first ones to poke their spouse and smirk if they saw the little girl walk by.

Are you nuts?? Do you really think people can't really be kind and compassionate? There is something wrong with you, if that's the case.

I'm a PP who said to leave it alone. My DD's friend from preschool has a huge birthmark on her forehead. Yes, I noticed it when we first met, but now, it's a complete non-issue. The two girls play well together. She's well-mannered (as much as expected from a 5 year old!), and loves to play Hungry, Hungry, Hippo, which makes her a perfect play partner for my DD.

My DD noticed the birthmark at first, but it doesn't interfere with their playing, so she doesn't care.

Why in the world does a 3 year old with a unibrow bother you? Ridiculous. Let her mom handle it when it bothers the girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it was so noticeable that people treated her differently, I'd take care of it. We don't live in a world of compassionate do-gooders who wouldn't judge the innocent child... Except DCUM world where the phonies come out in droves to preach their pretend altruism. Most of the people on here would be the first ones to poke their spouse and smirk if they saw the little girl walk by.

OP here. I was not trying to be mean. I stated in my original post that 3 is probably too young. I was asking when others thought it was the appropriate time. I would think before kindergarten. I would hate to be known as the unibrow girl in elementary school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm guessing that none of you were little girls with a bad unibrow. Three is a little young, but if I were mom I'd start doing some plucking be early elementary school.

I am very hairy. I always said I'd take care of it early if I had a daughter - she comes to me complaining that kids are calling her names, we would just do something. I didnt have a daughter, but have a son who is also hairy. I don't think it bothers boys the same way, but if he's upset we'll figure out what to do.

It's nice for all you blondes to say "oh, you shouldn't even notice and every child is just adorable" but we all know that's a load of BS. Some features just stand out and draw your eyes to them. Why put your kid front and center for something that's easily dealt with?

I have a ton of facial hair. Dark, disgusting facial hair. And when I started to become self-conscious about it, my mom let me start tweeting and I got my lip threaded.

The key is that a 3 year old is not yet self-conscious. Let her be until it becomes an issue for her.

Another brunette here, agreeing with this. Don't make her self-conscious about her appearance any earlier than necessary.

The good news is that a unibrow is easily fixed. Unlike the attitude of the OP, who looks at a three-year-old and can only see her most superficial flaw. That kind of ugly runs deep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But just think of all the ruined family portraits.

Photoshop it if its truly distracting on photos, but don't worry about it until she's older.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm guessing that none of you were little girls with a bad unibrow. Three is a little young, but if I were mom I'd start doing some plucking be early elementary school.

I am very hairy. I always said I'd take care of it early if I had a daughter - she comes to me complaining that kids are calling her names, we would just do something. I didnt have a daughter, but have a son who is also hairy. I don't think it bothers boys the same way, but if he's upset we'll figure out what to do.

It's nice for all you blondes to say "oh, you shouldn't even notice and every child is just adorable" but we all know that's a load of BS. Some features just stand out and draw your eyes to them. Why put your kid front and center for something that's easily dealt with?

I have a ton of facial hair. Dark, disgusting facial hair. And when I started to become self-conscious about it, my mom let me start tweeting and I got my lip threaded.

The key is that a 3 year old is not yet self-conscious. Let her be until it becomes an issue for her.

I didn't get my unibrow until closer to middle school, but I had a mustache from about fourth grade, and I have to say, I wish that my mother would have done something about it BEFORE all the teasing started. People, including other kids, are going to notice, and they are going to be mean. Period. There was no need for me to be tortured as I was for something that was not my fault. My mother never said or did anything. I had to figure out from reading YM what creme bleach was and ask for it. I got hold of a pair of tweezers too, I don't remember whether they were specifically given to me or not, but I had to figure everything out on my own and I hold that against my mother to this day. But I was 10-12 years old and was able to take care of it. A young child is not going to know how to deal with hair in socially unacceptable places -- it is our job as parents to help them out with that, just like it is our job to teach them how to keep their bodies clean, comb their hair, and brush their teeth. Three is young, yes, but I wouldn't be surprised if she starts getting teased as early as four. It's nice to be idealistic and say we should not judge people by appearance but that is not the world we live in. As someone who has been through this, I can tell you that I knew from an early age that I had more hair than others (I remember trying to cut my leg hair with scissors at age 5) and that it was considered abnormal. I don't see the need to wait until it "becomes an issue" because by then, the damage from the harassment is done.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm guessing that none of you were little girls with a bad unibrow. Three is a little young, but if I were mom I'd start doing some plucking be early elementary school.

I am very hairy. I always said I'd take care of it early if I had a daughter - she comes to me complaining that kids are calling her names, we would just do something. I didnt have a daughter, but have a son who is also hairy. I don't think it bothers boys the same way, but if he's upset we'll figure out what to do.

It's nice for all you blondes to say "oh, you shouldn't even notice and every child is just adorable" but we all know that's a load of BS. Some features just stand out and draw your eyes to them. Why put your kid front and center for something that's easily dealt with?

I have a ton of facial hair. Dark, disgusting facial hair. And when I started to become self-conscious about it, my mom let me start tweeting and I got my lip threaded.

The key is that a 3 year old is not yet self-conscious. Let her be until it becomes an issue for her.

Another brunette here, agreeing with this. Don't make her self-conscious about her appearance any earlier than necessary.

The good news is that a unibrow is easily fixed. Unlike the attitude of the OP, who looks at a three-year-old and can only see her most superficial flaw. That kind of ugly runs deep.

What world do you live in?

If you met a new person and the person had an obvious hairy unibrow, you would not notice? The unibrow is distracting.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would fix it and not feel bad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This has got to be a troll. Seriously.

Definitely not a troll. The little girl has a hideous unibrow! It is the only thing you can notice when you look at her face.

Hideous? You're on here calling a 3 year old girl's face hideous? Are you teaching your boys to judge girls/women by they eyebrows?

How about you make the effort to notice other things about this girl the next time you see her? Ignore the eyebrows.

I would want my sons to date and marry well groomed ladies.

How old are your sons? I'm assuming they don't plan on dating 3 year olds, so it should not be an issue.

And, I hope you realize that the same rules apply for your sons. Please ensure that all chest hair is removed right away. Wax that shit for your young men. It's just as hideous as a unibrow.

[Anonymous]

If you met a new person and the person had an obvious hairy unibrow, you would not notice? The unibrow is distracting.

Are you for real??

you want a 3 year old to wax her unibrow because it's distracting?? You're crazy.

[Anonymous]

I mean, on the one hand, as a parent I can understand wanting to prevent your kid from being mocked.

HOWEVER, I do not think the answer to potential mockery from other children is to quickly make sure your child conforms to whatever superficial cultural assumption those other kids have (or their parents!--Jesus, thinking about eyebrow shape for a three year old!)! I like the idea of the "Fear the Brow" shirt, actually.... But I don't think preschoolers are thinking about other people's eyebrows at all, so why bring it up or even think about it. I can't imagine being like OP and saying this is all that one would notice about a little girl or boy!!! OP, seriously! I don't even know what to say.

As a kid gets older, I am not sure how parents should handle stuff like this. I had a big unibrow and my parents did and said nothing. I believe a friend's mother plucked my eyebrows in middleschool as part of a general make-over play activity when I was over at her house that involved make-up, etc. Now that I think back on it it seems nuts that she was plucking the eyebrows of someone else's kid. Or maybe I had tried to do it myself and she was just evening it out? ANYWAY, my point is, my parents neither said nor did anything and I figured it out myself. My parents rarely commented on my appearance except to sometimes say I looked nice or express amusement about some crazy style I was wearing.

So...eyebrows...I think a better thing might be, as a parent, to talk about this stuff openly. Don't just assume your kid would want to look a certain way. Think about Frida Kahlo. I would try to expose my kids to many different kinds of beauty and talk about the arbitrariness of many kinds of social conventions and leave it at that. They'll know where to find the tweezers if and when they ever want to take action.

[Anonymous]

Madonna's daughter had a unibrow all throughout her childhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Madonna's daughter had a unibrow all throughout her childhood.

And how much was she mocked for that.