Beoming a SAHM

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05/29/2013 23:02

Subject: Beoming a SAHM

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Anonymous wrote:We were in a similar situation and I left work when the kids were 7, 5 and 1. How much does DH work? In our case, making 500k plus was a 70 hour a week job plus travel, often for the entire week. It is a partnership and our family is much better off with one person working 70 hours than 2 people stressed out trying to work 110 hours a week.

I have watched some of my friends with lower HHI's have trouble surviving on one job. So I would weigh how secure is DH's job and how secure is your marriage. Did you marry after college or grad school? Are both sets of parents are still together? If those two things are true and confident of things after two kids, you are most likely just fine.

Why does her parents' marriage have to do with her marriage? Stuff like this makes my blood boil. I had a boyfriend who gave me a hard time because my parents were divorced. Ironically, his parents divorced a few years later. Me I'm happily married 14 plus years.

Stats, my friend. Don't hate the messenger.

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05/29/2013 23:31

Subject: Re:Beoming a SAHM

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Anonymous

I am in the exact same situation as you. I earn 120-200k depending on bonus and DH earns $500-800k per year. I am currently bored at my job but I have flexible hours and feel I spend plenty of quality time with the kids (ages 2 and 4). I tried being a SAHM though and it was not for me. I already work less (about 35 hrs per week) and plan to cut my hours further when my older child starts kindergarten next year.

I posted a similar post a few months ago. Almost everyone said I should work PT.

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05/30/2013 08:03

Subject: Beoming a SAHM

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Anonymous

If you want to stay at home, and your husband isn't going to give you shit about it, you stay at home. That simple.

I suspect many, if not most, men will support their wives' decisions, it's just the endless agonizing they oppose.

Given your husband's income, if you/your hubby don't have the money/equity to buy a TH in Frederick with cash and make $50-$100k as an office drone in Rockville (substitute appropriate locations) to pay the other bills, then shame on you.