If you had a babymoon/will go on a babymoon, how long were you married/a couple?

[Anonymous]

Married - 7 years
Babymooned in Barbados for 1 week.

Me and husband loves beaches in Caribbean.
Been to Jamaica, St. Tohmas, St. John, so wanted to test different island.
We'll probably go back to St. John when our DS is 1yr and half.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

jindc wrote:I have no problem calling it a babymoon because I never had a honeymoon. And frankly who cares what it's called? I don't believe it's "baby industry consumerism". I won't be having a babyshower (nor did I have a bridal shower or party). There's an industry around everything, an advantage to planning early is avoiding rip offs.

And sure, regardless of baby coming we could use a trip....But, when you have other financial needs (IVF was ours), it's difficult to rationalize planning a vacation when you might need more than one cycle and those costs add up. And 11:08 specifically called out my thread. I'm not pregnant enough to plan a vacation?

Many people here seem to suffer from "I did this, look how easy it was". Everyone is different. Everyone has different circumstances. My 2-week European honeymoon / post-latest deployment vacation got spent on IVF. My situation isn't normal, but it also isn't that rare on these boards.

So, I apologize if clicking on my thread annoyed people.

I don't think anyone is pointing back to you JinDC, they're talking about the people that have replied to you. You seem like a really reasonable and down to earth person and I truly hope you enjoy your babymoon/pre-baby trip/whatever the hell people want to call it. It sounds like you and your husband really deserve it!! And congratulations

11:08 here and no, I did not call you out specifically, or at all. I answered the original question, and gave my opinion on the term babymoon.

This. Just call it a vacation, because you want to take a vacation. Why does it have to have some special twee name?

This. Despite what you may like to believe, there is a lot of consumerism surrounding "babymoon" travel. I don't like it, and that's my prerogative. Have a nice vacation; it sounds like you need it.

[Anonymous]

Did not think of it as such, but we did travel to the UK, partly to see family, when I was a few months pregnant with our first. We had been together for 15 years at that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:11:08 - couldn't agree with you more! Absolutely cringe at the word. I can't believe the whole baby moon thread has gotten so long, especially since it was started by a person who is not even out of their first trimester!!!!!!

I also find it utterly ironic that this forum is full of threads dissecting the minutia of TTC and infertility issues in great detail, indicating a feverish desire to get pregnant, but also this burning need to get your last hurrahs in before the baby comes. Such a bi-polar group of folks.

Wow, something tells me if the two of you packed your bags and never came back to this forum, not a SINGLE poster (except maybe each other, since you're both jackasses) would be sorry to see you go. What a pair of assholes; truly epitomizing the worst of DCUM. What an honor!

I mean, how dare someone actually claim to be pregnant while still in the first trimester! Silly girl! Don't you know pregnancy starts in your second trimester? Seriously: what's it to you? I can think of far worse things in life than getting psyched about a much-wanted pregnancy and wanting to spend a few last moments indulging "no kids" couple time before the next stage of one's life. One example is being such a small person you have to take a verbal dump on someone's request for advice on where to go, locally, on a babymoon. So the heck what if she's in her first trimester. Pregnancy has a beginning and an end and you know what? It doesn't begin at the second trimester, dick.

Now, as to the second moron posting here, why do you care? Seriously? And did you trade the brain power you would ordinarily have used to filter a stupid comment like this to somehow ascertain that the same exact women posting the minutia of TTC are the ones seeking a last "hurrah" before baby comes? And since when are such things mutually exclusive, anyway? As if a person can't commit him or herself fully to the process of becoming a parent, even against great odds, and still want to take a moment as a couple?

What a pair of idiots.

And for those of you so up your own arse about how you travel with baby, so the hell what? So does everyone. I travel with my kids constantly - I'm in the airline industry so it's easy. I'm still glad that DH and I took some trips while I was pregnant so that we could mark that special time that was the closing of our lives as a family of two. We were not sad at the passing of our couple with no kids phase, but we wanted to pay last homage to those moments. Traveling with kids is AMAZING. I think it is easy and possibly even more fun than traveling as a couple. But it is not the same thing; it's so stupid to try to pretend that it is.

- P

PS. BABYMOON BABYMOON BABYMOON BABYMOON BABYMOON BABYMOON BABYMOON BABYMOOOOOOOOON! Just for you, PP1, hope you enjoyed.

[Anonymous]

14:44, can we be friends? I've posted too damn much on this thread (arguing with most likely one of the two above), but I just had to add that.

Why anyone who hates the word babymoon would click on a thread with that word in the title is beyond me. Well, it's not. Some people get twisted pleasure out of dumping all over others. Sad.

Babymoon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:14:44, can we be friends? I've posted too damn much on this thread (arguing with most likely one of the two above), but I just had to add that.

Why anyone who hates the word babymoon would click on a thread with that word in the title is beyond me. Well, it's not. Some people get twisted pleasure out of dumping all over others. Sad.

Babymoon.

You bet!

[Anonymous]

Jindc,
You are not the only one who had to spend money on ivf. I did 4 ivfs, so it is not about not understanding where your honeymoon funds went. There are others of us as well who had to spend lots of money on getting pregnant too.

[Anonymous]

Currently in the home stretch of our first pregnancy: together 8 years and married for 2. We had taken a fancy (for us) Caribbean vacation about 6 months before TTC -- so about a year ago now. For our "babymoon" we just did a weekend away, within driving distance, at 32 weeks. We purposely waited that late so that I could get maximum benefit of the hotel's heated indoor pool while I was big and heavy. We did not do a spa or babymoon package or anything like that, although I did rent a nice maternity dress to wear to dinner.

Primary goals of the babymoon were to not talk about or do work, household chores, or baby prep stuff: we read novels and ate great food and had adult conversations that weren't about what needed to get done that weekend, or whether the dog's bowel habits merited a trip to the vet. It was fantastic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:14:44, can we be friends? I've posted too damn much on this thread (arguing with most likely one of the two above), but I just had to add that.

Why anyone who hates the word babymoon would click on a thread with that word in the title is beyond me. Well, it's not. Some people get twisted pleasure out of dumping all over others. Sad.

Babymoon.

You bet!

It's not even a particularly clever or enjoyable dump. What's wrong with the word babymoon, except that it makes PPs feel sad about their own bitter, trend-hating lives? Sad for them. Back to travel planning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate it when people think that having kids means they can never go on vacation again. You can still go on vacation, even to exotic places, with your children!! They actually travel very well when they're tiny and breastfeeding, and you can stick them in a carrier or backpack while wandering a city or hiking or whatever.

Newsflash: A "babymoon" is a romantic vacation that a couple takes to focus on their relationship before the baby arrives and requires large amounts of their attention. Travel with children is not a "babymoon." I'm not opposed to travel with kids, but that is an entirely different type of trip, and not responsive to OP's post.

Newsflash: You're missing the point. I was replying to the people who said "oh we definitely took a babymoon because we're not going to be able to take a vacation again for 18 years".

Nobody said that. 9:30 said that she and her husband won't have another romantic trip "sans kids" for another 18 years. Even if you don't recognize she's speaking tongue in cheek, telling her she can travel with kids is obviously off topic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jindc,
You are not the only one who had to spend money on ivf. I did 4 ivfs, so it is not about not understanding where your honeymoon funds went. There are others of us as well who had to spend lots of money on getting pregnant too.

So what's your point?

[Anonymous]

PP - Jindc brought up how she never got a honeymoon b/c it was spent on ivf. And how she's not having a baby shower and didn't have any wedding parties, etc, etc.

She made it a point to mention all this stuff so I thought she should know she's not the only one who had to spend money on a pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP - Jindc brought up how she never got a honeymoon b/c it was spent on ivf. And how she's not having a baby shower and didn't have any wedding parties, etc, etc.

She made it a point to mention all this stuff so I thought she should know she's not the only one who had to spend money on a pregnancy.

Right, she obviously thinks she's the only one who had to spend money on IVF. Come on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP - Jindc brought up how she never got a honeymoon b/c it was spent on ivf. And how she's not having a baby shower and didn't have any wedding parties, etc, etc.

She made it a point to mention all this stuff so I thought she should know she's not the only one who had to spend money on a pregnancy.

Oh my goodness, what is wrong with you, seriously? You're a huge bitch.

The poster you're quoting brought those things up in response to questions. She was explaining why she could only vacation locally and why this meant so much to her and why she needed to plan ahead. You thought you should be a huge bitch, is what you thought.

[Anonymous]

Y'all are all ridiculous. If you don't want to answer the thread question or you just want to be rude, just don't click on the stupid thread topic. By clicking it and typing a response you're just keeping the thread popular.