When you were 12, what did you think you wanted to me when you grew up, and how did it work out?

[Anonymous]

When I was 12, I wanted to be a veterinarian. In HS, I wanted to be an architect. Then I took calculus and it made me want to cry. Now I'm a business analyst.

[Anonymous]

a career woman with a family. basically, not my mom. sadly, I am my mom--no career, no real friends, and depression that seems like it will never end.

[Anonymous]

Fashion designer.

Which would make you laugh uproariously to see how this SAHM dresses...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:a career woman with a family. basically, not my mom. sadly, I am my mom--no career, no real friends, and depression that seems like it will never end.

I'm sorry. Please get professional help. Life shouldn't be that hard for you. You deserve more than this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:a career woman with a family. basically, not my mom. sadly, I am my mom--no career, no real friends, and depression that seems like it will never end.

I'm sorry. Please get professional help. Life shouldn't be that hard for you. You deserve more than this.

How do you know? How do you know she doesn't deserve exactly that?

[Anonymous]

I wanted to be a jockey. I can ride well, but at 5'11, I am not a jockey. Another one of those lawyers turned SAHM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:a career woman with a family. basically, not my mom. sadly, I am my mom--no career, no real friends, and depression that seems like it will never end.

I'm sorry. Please get professional help. Life shouldn't be that hard for you. You deserve more than this.

How do you know? How do you know she doesn't deserve exactly that?

Sorry but your frankness and rude comment made me laugh. Why would you say this?

[Anonymous]

I wanted to own a dude ranch and adopt a dozen kids. At other times I wanted to be a professional dancer. I am another lawyer and have two children and no desire for more. I did not consider law as a possibility until I was out of college and could not figure out what kind of real job I could get.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 12? I wanted to be Captain Kirk. Then I wanted to be Linda McCartney. Then I wanted to be Carole King. Then I wanted to be Angela Davis. Then I wanted to be anyone who Captain Kirk was kissing. Then I wanted to be the girlfriend of my 7th grade math teacher. Then I wanted to be Ali McGraw. Then I wanted to be Katherine Ross in Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid. I was all over the map and it was the late 70s.That was it pretty much it though for 12. Then around 10th grade I wanted to be me. Just me and only me, as anything seemed possible. I ended up being a lawyer. Never seriously contemplated being one until maybe sophomore year in college.

I heart you! Live long and prosper.

[Anonymous]

A comedian. I'm just a really funny lawyer.

[Anonymous]

At 12 I wanted to be "successful." I knew I wanted to be in a professional field but it didn't matter whether that success came in business, law, engineering etc. 2 ivy degrees later, I don't feel like it worked out - one of a billion biglaw attorneys who won't make partner. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

I wanted to be a storm chaser.

A tornado had skipped through my neighborhood when I was 7 years old, and destroyed most everything. Ever since then, I was obsessively fascinated by tornadoes. I read every book there was.

Then, in high school, I learned I needed math to chase storms. So I had to let that dream go.

I fulfilled my other expectations, though: I write, I teach, I have my family.

And I still chase storms, just unofficially

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:a career woman with a family. basically, not my mom. sadly, I am my mom--no career, no real friends, and depression that seems like it will never end.

I'm sorry. Please get professional help. Life shouldn't be that hard for you. You deserve more than this.

How do you know? How do you know she doesn't deserve exactly that?

Because everyone deserves a life free from debilitating depression.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 12 I wanted to be "successful." I knew I wanted to be in a professional field but it didn't matter whether that success came in business, law, engineering etc. 2 ivy degrees later, I don't feel like it worked out - one of a billion biglaw attorneys who won't make partner. Sigh.

So if it's that bad, do something else. It's your life. Take control of it or make your peace with the options you have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:a career woman with a family. basically, not my mom. sadly, I am my mom--no career, no real friends, and depression that seems like it will never end.

I'm sorry. Please get professional help. Life shouldn't be that hard for you. You deserve more than this.

How do you know? How do you know she doesn't deserve exactly that?

Because everyone deserves a life free from debilitating depression.

Thanks, PP. I really am trying. Unfortunately, years of therapy and anti-depressants, haven't made a dent.