Dirty Little Secret-Financial Aid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not nasty. Its the truth and people deserve to know. They also always apply for FAFSA and get it. Divorce is a social problem. Maybe I do have a chip on my shoulder but so what?? You can't get along with your husband and it becomes everyone else's problem? Give the money to a deserving minority, not someone who's parents used to have a $300K+ HHI. I'm not giving to the financial aid fund anymore.

You are so wrong and have indulged in so many stereotypes it is both pathetic and foul. You are obviously in need of a great deal of pity to live ins such a dark and ugly place.

First, in a divorce the children suffer the most. Why do you want to make it even worse for the children by making them switch schools as well as their home environment - basically take away everything they know? Why do you want to punish the children? They had nothing to do with the divorce and their lives have probably been pretty crappy lately.

How can you possibly characterize every divorce as "the wife not getting along with her husband"? What a disgusting, misogynistic and scarily naive statement.

Also, minorities are NOT the only ones or "every ones" who get financial, not by a long shot. There are LOTS of non-white people who do not need financial aid in ur private schools. There are also many high earning and even (gasp) inherited wealth non-white families in the Washignton, DC area. Financial aid at privates trends toward creating some economic diversity in this city and, frankly, children of divorce are usually vastly more underpriviledged economically than children in a two parent houshold. Just because a child lived at a higher socio-econ level earlier does not have anythign to do with current circumstances (when FA is applied for).

I am married and my parents are still married. I have no personal bias in favor of children of divorce. I do, howeveer, have a great deal of sympathy for them. "There but for the grace of God" and all, OP. Think about that for a while.

I love you. Thank you for your post.

[Anonymous]

Married, highly educated, low income (by DC standards), white parent of a FA recipient here, shaking my head and reading this thread with sadness and bemusement.

[Anonymous]

You people are delusional. Married parent gets divorced and now claims poverty despite getting house, car, and the grandparents are still paying the private school tuition. One thing I've noticed is that all the poor kids all have IPhones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people are delusional. Married parent gets divorced and now claims poverty despite getting house, car, and the grandparents are still paying the private school tuition. One thing I've noticed is that all the poor kids all have IPhones.

Stop being bitter and suck it up. Life isn't fair. What are you, 10 years old?!

[Anonymous]

OP,

Don't worry. Divorced parents often remarry, and remarry well, and the new spouses incomes means they are no longer eligible for FA.

To the PP who commented that divorce is a social problem: So are all the millions of miserably married people who stay together for the lifestyle and social status!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people are delusional. Married parent gets divorced and now claims poverty despite getting house, car, and the grandparents are still paying the private school tuition. One thing I've noticed is that all the poor kids all have IPhones.

You seem to have an ax to grind against one particular person, yet you post on this forum and generalize to all. Are you hoping that your target reads this thread? Is that your way of challenging something you disagree with: triangling( sp) not to a third person, but the entire DCUM forum. Are you actually and adult woman ? My guess is you are the new arm candy of this woman's EX and resent the hell out of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am guessing the PP was objecting to the term "freeloaders" which implies kids on FA (in any school) are a drain on the institution while contributing nothing of value. FA kids often contribute to the academic reputation of a school while adding a different perspective and set of life experiences to classroom discussions. Of course there is a monetary pricetag on this, but many schools feel there is a real value to offering FA.

Yes, like when your child single handedly skews the test results ( in the schools favor) against the independent school norm and this is shown to all parents at the school as a reflection of the success of the curriculum .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You people are delusional. Married parent gets divorced and now claims poverty despite getting house, car, and the grandparents are still paying the private school tuition. One thing I've noticed is that all the poor kids all have IPhones.

You seem to have an ax to grind against one particular person, yet you post on this forum and generalize to all. Are you hoping that your target reads this thread? Is that your way of challenging something you disagree with: triangling( sp) not to a third person, but the entire DCUM forum. Are you actually and adult woman ? My guess is you are the new arm candy of this woman's EX and resent the hell out of her.

I agree that this is obviously something very very personal for OP. And very very strange and dark. First of all, she obviously has an ax to grind about another WOMAN. Second, what kind of adult goes around "noticing" that "all the POOR KIDS have IPhones."

Disgusting. And probably mentally ill.