Would you date someone of a different race?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, not to hijack...but it is related. If you are someone who would NOT date outside of your race...would you care if your son/daughter/relative did?

The honest truth?

Yes, if it were an African-American. Call me what you want (I don't think I am). Flame away. But that's how I feel. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

I'm just simply not attracted to people of other races. Sometimes here and there I'll find someone slightly appealing, but it is not the norm.

If my child dated outside our race, I would not care, as long as he/she were in a healthy relationship. I actually prefer that my child date outside our race, wife beating is quite accepted and common in my culture. Interracial mixing is NOT accepted and causes major problems and for some families complete disownment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm just simply not attracted to people of other races. Sometimes here and there I'll find someone slightly appealing, but it is not the norm.

If my child dated outside our race, I would not care, as long as he/she were in a healthy relationship. I actually prefer that my child date outside our race, wife beating is quite accepted and common in my culture. Interracial mixing is NOT accepted and causes major problems and for some families complete disownment.

Wife beating is accepted in your culture? What culture is that?

[Anonymous]

I have dated people of other races, but it never really works for me in terms of attraction. Don't know why, feel kind of guilty about it. But there it is. I have no issues whatsoever about other people, including family members, having relationships with people of other races.

I will admit, however, that I would prefer to know upfront if I were set up with someone who was not of my race, just so I wouldn't be surprised. More an issue of my being likely to assume (for some reason) that the default would be someone of my race and I wouldn't want to start a blind date off feeling stupid for having assumed that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm just simply not attracted to people of other races. Sometimes here and there I'll find someone slightly appealing, but it is not the norm.

If my child dated outside our race, I would not care, as long as he/she were in a healthy relationship. I actually prefer that my child date outside our race, wife beating is quite accepted and common in my culture. Interracial mixing is NOT accepted and causes major problems and for some families complete disownment.

Wife beating is accepted in your culture? What culture is that?

No comment. What would be the purpose?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, not to hijack...but it is related. If you are someone who would NOT date outside of your race...would you care if your son/daughter/relative did?

The honest truth?

Yes, if it were an African-American. Call me what you want (I don't think I am). Flame away. But that's how I feel. Sorry.

I appreciate your candor and I am not flaming you. It makes me sad though. This is true of lots of people. Again, it saddens me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, not to hijack...but it is related. If you are someone who would NOT date outside of your race...would you care if your son/daughter/relative did?

The honest truth?

Yes, if it were an African-American. Call me what you want (I don't think I am). Flame away. But that's how I feel. Sorry.

I appreciate your candor and I am not flaming you. It makes me sad though. This is true of lots of people. Again, it saddens me.

I feel the same way. My parents thought like you did, until they met my husband. Now they could care less that he is African American. So maybe you will change your mind as well if your child happened to find his/her one true love with an African American.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it was wrong of OP to set them up if they were both willing to go on a blind date. She could've potentially opened a door for them, or their minds to something they hadn't given thought to before. Obviously didn't work, but it could have. For most of my life I was not attracted to white men, but I ended up marrying one anyway. And even though I still drool over Will Smith and Blair Underwood, I wouldn't trade my DH's flat white butt for anything.

[Anonymous]

I never dated someone of a different race (well, I did date a hispanic guy...but I don't really consider that different--especially since he was about as hispanic as I am Irish--100%, but a couple generations ago). My mom literally sat me down when I was 12 and strongly discouraged me from dating people of different races. She insisted she didn't care if all of my friends were of different races, and that she wasn't racist, but that it would be too hard for children I could have to be biracial. Again, I was TWELVE. Seriously??? I honestly don't think my mom is racist, but I am SO close to her (and I'm pretty sure most of my family feels the same way) that it just wouldn't have been worth it. As it turned out, I didn't have a chance to test that; I met my husband right out of college and he's the same race as I am.

To answer the post about my kids dating outside our race, I would have no problem with it. As long as my kids date/marry someone who shares the same values and treats them well, I couldn't care less what race the person is. In fact, I think biracial kids are some of the most beautiful kids out there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, not to hijack...but it is related. If you are someone who would NOT date outside of your race...would you care if your son/daughter/relative did?

The honest truth?

Yes, if it were an African-American. Call me what you want (I don't think I am). Flame away. But that's how I feel. Sorry.

I appreciate your candor and I am not flaming you. It makes me sad though. This is true of lots of people. Again, it saddens me.

I feel the same way. My parents thought like you did, until they met my husband. Now they could care less that he is African American. So maybe you will change your mind as well if your child happened to find his/her one true love with an African American.

saddens me too. I broke it off with an African American man in college because of parent's racist attitude. None of my friends cared. Nobody at work cared. Only my parents...and I resented them for a long time.

[Anonymous]

I will say that anyone who is uncomfortable should not do it. That would not be fair to the other person involved. Especially if there is too much family pressure. A friend of mine who is Korean, was dropped by her boyfriend of 12 years because his family disapproved. What a waste of her time. He used her and showed no respect.

[Anonymous]

I faced this scenario in college. I was set-up on a date and I showed up to discover the guy was of a different race. I wasn't "offended," but I was certainly shocked. It took me a little while to regain my composure. I never discussed it with my friend, but I was just floored that this basic fact had not been disclosed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, not to hijack...but it is related. If you are someone who would NOT date outside of your race...would you care if your son/daughter/relative did?

The honest truth?

Yes, if it were an African-American. Call me what you want (I don't think I am). Flame away. But that's how I feel. Sorry.

I appreciate your candor and I am not flaming you. It makes me sad though. This is true of lots of people. Again, it saddens me.

I feel the same way. My parents thought like you did, until they met my husband. Now they could care less that he is African American. So maybe you will change your mind as well if your child happened to find his/her one true love with an African American.

saddens me too. I broke it off with an African American man in college because of parent's racist attitude. None of my friends cared. Nobody at work cared. Only my parents...and I resented them for a long time.

My in-laws did not care for me, for years, because I am white. I learned to cook Korean foods, and learned a little Korean, and over time, they have grown to accept me.

My own parents were very excited, I was in love, and they assumed my children would be as stunning (which they are).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, not to hijack...but it is related. If you are someone who would NOT date outside of your race...would you care if your son/daughter/relative did?

The honest truth?

Yes, if it were an African-American. Call me what you want (I don't think I am). Flame away. But that's how I feel. Sorry.

Are you referring to Black Americans or children of African immigrants? Or you just don't like blacks?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, not to hijack...but it is related. If you are someone who would NOT date outside of your race...would you care if your son/daughter/relative did?

The honest truth?

Yes, if it were an African-American. Call me what you want (I don't think I am). Flame away. But that's how I feel. Sorry.

I appreciate your candor and I am not flaming you. It makes me sad though. This is true of lots of people. Again, it saddens me.

I feel the same way. My parents thought like you did, until they met my husband. Now they could care less that he is African American. So maybe you will change your mind as well if your child happened to find his/her one true love with an African American.

saddens me too. I broke it off with an African American man in college because of parent's racist attitude. None of my friends cared. Nobody at work cared. Only my parents...and I resented them for a long time.

My in-laws did not care for me, for years, because I am white. I learned to cook Korean foods, and learned a little Korean, and over time, they have grown to accept me.

My own parents were very excited, I was in love, and they assumed my children would be as stunning (which they are).

I never ceased to be amazed how the Asian - Caucasian mix consistently turns out stunning children. I'm white. DH is Asian-American. No doubt stunning baby is due in December! Grandparents on both sides are about to explode with anticipation.