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"Your baby is such a lil chub!"
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Anonymous
| You are such a troll. Everyone knows that "your baby is such a lil chub" is totally a phrase of endearment. Go back under your bridge. |
Anonymous
| OMG OP you are lucky to have a chub! My guy was 10 pounds 13 ounces at birth and did I get the comments. He's going to be a linebacker, etc. I loved it! I love chubby cherubs. A little chub is a total term of endearment. If this bothers you, develop a thicker skin! |
Anonymous
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Well, I'm insecure about my DD being long and skinny, and although the doctor says she looks great and encourages me to continue what we're doing, I feel downright ANGRY when my in-laws see her and, every time without fail, ask, "Oh, did she lose weight? Are you feeding her?"
So I understand your bear claws, OP, and comments like "babies are supposed to be chubby" and "chubby babies are cute, the others are alien" bring mine out. |
Anonymous
| Seriously, as your child gets older, you should seriously think about the message you are sending to your daughter. My ds was a preemie and was always on the thin side, although very healthy and tall. I have a relative who would compare her daughter, who was just barely normally chubby to ds, worrying about whether she was overweight, and saying she wished she was more like my ds. I, of course, would insist that her daughter was completely normal, and that ds was skinny. I've never heard the mother say it in front of her daughter, but I'm sure the attitude comes across. I really fear for that child's body image. |
Anonymous
Bad day, huh? It's ok it happens to all of us. Still, name calling and trying to make others feel bad never helps. Hope you have a better night. |
Anonymous
Why am I not allowed to be proud? It wasn't meant to put anyone down or pass judgment. I work really hard to keep up what I am doing while working full time at a demanding job and commuting an hour each way with DC and taking care of most things around our house. It sounds like you might be projecting your issues on me. |
Anonymous
Honestly? I'm not the "oh brother" PP and am totally supportive of BFing and did myself for 18 mos but I have to agree with her. This thread is about chunky babies and whether that's healthy. there's something a little smug in your post that is not responsive to OP's question. It sounds very self congratulatory. |
Anonymous
Are you kidding me? It's completely relevant. I felt the same way (though I didn't share it here). I worked hard to breastfeed and was so proud to think that she grew based on what I worked hard to give her. This mom is saying that after some fear that her milk wasn't coming in / daughter wasn't doing so well on her milk, her daughter ended up doing great on breastmilk. That's a relief and something to be proud of. I think it is perfectly fine to share that sentiment here and there is nothing wrong with saying so. Good for the mom above. Bad for the people who can't let anyone else be happy or proud of something. Sour grapes don't taste nice to anyone. |
Anonymous
I am not going to hijack this post but the OP asked if she was overreacting and myself, and most other's, responded that we are not bothered by having our babies called chubby and in fact love it. I did not mean to be self-congratulatory but why can't I take pride in my contribution to DD's healthy chubbiness? Why can't the OP take pride in her baby's healthy chubbiness no matter how he/she got that way? My DD is super happy and sleeping through the night and I claim NO responsibility for any of that - it is just who she is and I lucked out but the eating thing, both BF and solids, is something I work at for her. I am really surprised by the reactions. Sorry to the OP for getting off topic and if I did not sufficiently respond to your post. |
Anonymous
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Talk about hijacking a thread to attack a random poster, and for what? For being proud of breastfeeding??
with my first I breastfed until 18 mo. and save one incidence of mastitis it was toast. With my second a year ago? Emergency c section and 12 months bfing later with multiple breast infections, nipples torn up first 6 weeks despite 3 LC's help, pediatricians having me come in every other day for six weeks even though she was born almost 9 lbs, I LOVE how I helped her get chubby and am so proud of it. It was hell and when she got chubby I reveled in it like the PP working full time with commutes....chub is GOOD. feeling proud you contributed is a beautiful natural thing especially for people who breastfeed.....sheesh. |
Anonymous
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I can relate, OP. My DS had really chubby cheeks as an infant and toddler and he got lots of comments (I think well-meaning) from strangers and friends alike. Things like "look at that little chunker", "what a nice, fat baby", etc. I can only imagine that these were given as compliments but we are so primed to hear anything about weight and perceive it as negative. For babies, I think these are compliments. Just when these kinds of comments are no longer compliments and when they become judgmental, who knows. No one would want to hear this about their 5 year old.
On the flip side, I have a close friend whose daughter is in the 5th percentile for weight and strangers frequently comments on how "tiny", "small", etc her baby was. She got plenty of unsolicited advice about how to feed her baby to fatten her up. Moral of the story: adults say the darndest things. |