Independent Lower schools v UNW DCPS (Janney, Key, Lafayette, Murch) for K - 3 or 5

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thinking more, I would suggest Acorn Hill Waldorf Kindergarten. They have an outdoor program that would give a social boost. It’s a key age for social emotional development and they are great at this. The academics will come for your child no doubt, but these other aspects have a window of optimization.

All this said, my guess is that it’s a bridge too far for the OP. Nevertheless, I encourage a visit.

Waldorf is not great for kids like OP’s, too easy to stay in own world and not interact with same aged peers. We considered it for a similar profile.

I respectfully disagree about the outdoor “forest school” programs in Waldorf. There is a definite structure (or rhythm as they call) it to the day with both active and calm parts. It’s very predictable and the children know what to expect and feel secure. Far from being lost on their own, children learn to negotiate with their peers regarding who goes first, who is doing which part, what happens when X or Y. The children work out a lot between themselves without adults instructing. I think that this is very valuable. My friend’s gifted/high functioning autistic son responded to it well. I’m sure it’s different for different kids, but I wouldn’t write it off.

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OP here - thank you all for a bit of drama (bc what's this forum without it) and some more thoughtful responses. I agree it doesn't hurt to get him a test but personally I think may fall in the "may have some mild stuff and so I still can't figure him out" camp. He is also the youngest in his class - so that post was particularly interesting for our circumstances. I also think the 2nd language component was something we had not thought of yet.

The more we talk to independent school parents the more we understand that the concept of a more homogeneous (from an ability perspective) seems to be real and specifically solved for in those environments, whereas the PS environments are used to handling a bit more asynchrony. We are still chewing on the information we've gathered over the last few days/weeks and continuing to gather more.

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Yes, worth a test. My kid could be described in the same way, turns out she is AuDHD. Needs minimal support at school but it has been useful info to have in finding the right fit.

Montessori was wonderful for her in elementary, and she didn't start until K. It also worked very well when we needed to adjust her grade. She was the oldest in her class and ended up accelerating, but I think it would also smooth out that transition if your kid ends up needing an extra year in children's house or lower elementary.

She's now in a more standard progressive curriculum independent school for middle, but we would have happily stayed in a Montessori program if that had been available (her elementary school only went through upper elementary/6th grade).

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DP - FWIW, we also looked at a waldorf program with a heavy forest school component for her. I think it would have been great for K and maybe first, but once they started doing more academic work, it was clear that she was going to get bored pretty quickly. And my friend's kid who went to that program through 8th ended up way behind in math.

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For Montessori, I know a lot of places won't take new students for K because it's the final year of the children's house cycle. If there's a school you are interested in, consider starting there in preK so your kid gets two years in CH. You can always re-evaluate placement either at the end of one year, or later on. Maybe the school ends up thinking that he's ready to move up to Lower El after one year after all; maybe he ends up doing the Lower El cycle in two years instead of three. Or maybe you end up deciding that being in the cohort where he's the oldest rather than the youngest is the best fit for him. The point is, there's lots of flexibility, and making the adjustments is generally NBD because there are always both some kids in the class moving up to the next level each year, and some kids staying in the same class for another year. That dynamic means that it's not weird or stigmatizing for a kid to skip or do an extra year in a classroom.

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You could absolutely have describe my own DS around the same age. I don't think you'll be able to find everything you're looking for in a single school setting. So, once you've picked a school carefully, I recommend you also find some good, substantive extracurricular activities that will keep him challenged no matter what's happening in school.

Also, based on how you describe your child in your third paragraph, you should be on the lookout for something called "rejection sensitive dysphoria" in a few years. I wish someone had clued me into it sooner.