Status clothes on kids

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We're French. We don't look French to Americans because we're not Caucasian. My kids have worn plenty of French items over the years.

My husband once worked for a certain well-known company and brought home apparel from it.

What you're missing is that in those circles there's no specific message attached to it. People wear what's available.

You sound embarrassingly insecure.

OP here and I am not bothered by this, but my husband told me that "many people" find it pretentious. I don't care either way.

But you also misread my post because I wasn't talking about wearing "French items". I was talking specifically about t-shirts, hats, and sweatshirts advertising the name of luxury vacation destinations. Not wearing something with French words or something. But something clearly purchased at a luxury destination indicating the person had been to that destination.

PP you replied to. Oh, I understood you perfectly. We go to certain places that your husband might consider fancy, and buy stuff there, in France or elsewhere.

Your husband is showing his class insecurities, OP. You need to educate him. Tell him he will always have more than someone else. Right now, somebody looked at your husband and thought he was pretentious. He has a car, he has a home, he dresses in normal clothes, right? Well, to a certain group of people, that's already rich and smug! Other people will always have more than he has. He needs to accept that and live his own life.

I find it hilarious that your husband would criticize the barely upper middle class, and not the staggeringly wealthy who own private jets, for ex. What does he mean by pretentious? Does he think people "plot" what logos they're going to display on any given day? Does he think they're not as rich as they want to signal? If it's a company shirt, that's stupid.

Your husband is just not making sense. It's his anxiety talking.

Lol, Madame -- I think you are showing your insecurities, actually. My husband is from a much wealthier background than I am, and attended an Ivy. This came up because we recently attended a reunion at his alma mater and bought our kid a sweatshirt, and my husband is embarrassed when the kid wears it because he thinks other people find it pretentious.

But by all means, do keep posting paragraph upon paragraph expounding on your feelings on this subject -- I've been reading these posts to him and every time you say "I am French" he gets a good laugh.

Au revoir mon cheri!

OP, you ASKED for opinions. Why are you criticizing this poster for sharing an opinion that missed the mark? Maybe you shoud have shared this context when you asked the question instead of dismissing a poster who guessed wrong based on the limited info you provided.

[Anonymous]

I have no opinion on this other than anyone wearing clothing from a specific location (whether it is a university or a fancy hotel in France) probably has ties to that location and it's a nice conversation starter.

[Anonymous]

Oh no, and this whole time I thought that the reason people scoffed at my children wearing Duke gear was because they hate our basketball team, but you're telling me it's because they think we're pretentious??

[Anonymous]

who cares about any of this stuff??

[Anonymous]

The work shirts are funny to think are elitist. I always think this swag is free advertising when gifted as a client gift. I have teased DH and BIL for wearing company swag. I never thought of it as elitist.

Also don’t think block island is elitist. I like to get a souvenir when we travel whether it be a Christmas ornament or a dress or other shirt. I may get a t shirt or sweatshirt. I very rarely wear these but I sometimes buy them.

School swag is fine. I used to wear Harvard gear in my twenties, not so much in my forties. Some people wear this just to wear, not necessarily because your parents went there. I remember seeing Harvard and Yale clothing at the mall at places like H&M or Gap.

[Anonymous]

what are the status clothing now ALO? can someone list out what all the status clothing are?

[Anonymous]

I don’t see a problem. Also my kid was taking part in some FAANG user studies and got some swag as part of their remuneration, so it’s not always what you think. I think it was a water bottle not a t shirt though.
Also one can buy a university t shirt at a gift shop so that’s also not super indicative of anything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what are the status clothing now ALO? can someone list out what all the status clothing are?

According to op, status clothing is work freebies, vacation souvenir shirts and collegiate clothing.

[Anonymous]

My kids have plenty of this. They’re all free from work or gifts from friends and relatives. The kids wear whatever is in the top of their drawers. Never thought twice about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're French. We don't look French to Americans because we're not Caucasian. My kids have worn plenty of French items over the years.

My husband once worked for a certain well-known company and brought home apparel from it.

What you're missing is that in those circles there's no specific message attached to it. People wear what's available.

You sound embarrassingly insecure.

OP here and I am not bothered by this, but my husband told me that "many people" find it pretentious. I don't care either way.

But you also misread my post because I wasn't talking about wearing "French items". I was talking specifically about t-shirts, hats, and sweatshirts advertising the name of luxury vacation destinations. Not wearing something with French words or something. But something clearly purchased at a luxury destination indicating the person had been to that destination.

PP you replied to. Oh, I understood you perfectly. We go to certain places that your husband might consider fancy, and buy stuff there, in France or elsewhere.

Your husband is showing his class insecurities, OP. You need to educate him. Tell him he will always have more than someone else. Right now, somebody looked at your husband and thought he was pretentious. He has a car, he has a home, he dresses in normal clothes, right? Well, to a certain group of people, that's already rich and smug! Other people will always have more than he has. He needs to accept that and live his own life.

I find it hilarious that your husband would criticize the barely upper middle class, and not the staggeringly wealthy who own private jets, for ex. What does he mean by pretentious? Does he think people "plot" what logos they're going to display on any given day? Does he think they're not as rich as they want to signal? If it's a company shirt, that's stupid.

Your husband is just not making sense. It's his anxiety talking.

Lol, Madame -- I think you are showing your insecurities, actually. My husband is from a much wealthier background than I am, and attended an Ivy. This came up because we recently attended a reunion at his alma mater and bought our kid a sweatshirt, and my husband is embarrassed when the kid wears it because he thinks other people find it pretentious.

But by all means, do keep posting paragraph upon paragraph expounding on your feelings on this subject -- I've been reading these posts to him and every time you say "I am French" he gets a good laugh.

Au revoir mon cheri!

OP, you ASKED for opinions. Why are you criticizing this poster for sharing an opinion that missed the mark? Maybe you shoud have shared this context when you asked the question instead of dismissing a poster who guessed wrong based on the limited info you provided.

I asked what people thought of kids wearing clothes like this, that all. French lady decided to make a bunch of assumptions based on that question (which no one else did). She didn't "guess wrong," she assumed a bunch of stuff because she was dying to judge and condescend. That's her problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bit wanky but I'll give them a pass on the corporate logo clothes. My husband works biglaw and if we're getting clothes for free I'll put my kids in them. Saving money! #costoflivingcrisis

Hahaa no one cries for you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're French. We don't look French to Americans because we're not Caucasian. My kids have worn plenty of French items over the years.

My husband once worked for a certain well-known company and brought home apparel from it.

What you're missing is that in those circles there's no specific message attached to it. People wear what's available.

You sound embarrassingly insecure.

OP here and I am not bothered by this, but my husband told me that "many people" find it pretentious. I don't care either way.

But you also misread my post because I wasn't talking about wearing "French items". I was talking specifically about t-shirts, hats, and sweatshirts advertising the name of luxury vacation destinations. Not wearing something with French words or something. But something clearly purchased at a luxury destination indicating the person had been to that destination.

PP you replied to. Oh, I understood you perfectly. We go to certain places that your husband might consider fancy, and buy stuff there, in France or elsewhere.

Your husband is showing his class insecurities, OP. You need to educate him. Tell him he will always have more than someone else. Right now, somebody looked at your husband and thought he was pretentious. He has a car, he has a home, he dresses in normal clothes, right? Well, to a certain group of people, that's already rich and smug! Other people will always have more than he has. He needs to accept that and live his own life.

I find it hilarious that your husband would criticize the barely upper middle class, and not the staggeringly wealthy who own private jets, for ex. What does he mean by pretentious? Does he think people "plot" what logos they're going to display on any given day? Does he think they're not as rich as they want to signal? If it's a company shirt, that's stupid.

Your husband is just not making sense. It's his anxiety talking.

Lol, Madame -- I think you are showing your insecurities, actually. My husband is from a much wealthier background than I am, and attended an Ivy. This came up because we recently attended a reunion at his alma mater and bought our kid a sweatshirt, and my husband is embarrassed when the kid wears it because he thinks other people find it pretentious.

But by all means, do keep posting paragraph upon paragraph expounding on your feelings on this subject -- I've been reading these posts to him and every time you say "I am French" he gets a good laugh.

Au revoir mon cheri!

OP, you ASKED for opinions. Why are you criticizing this poster for sharing an opinion that missed the mark? Maybe you shoud have shared this context when you asked the question instead of dismissing a poster who guessed wrong based on the limited info you provided.

I asked what people thought of kids wearing clothes like this, that all. French lady decided to make a bunch of assumptions based on that question (which no one else did). She didn't "guess wrong," she assumed a bunch of stuff because she was dying to judge and condescend. That's her problem.

You seem like the judgemental one, seeing as you have a bee in your bonnet over this days / weeks later. Unclench!

[Anonymous]

My employer gave free sweaters or some clothing with institutions brand on it for new year/ Christmas to its employees.

I wear them sometimes. Or given them to our Ds. Never thought to show off, just free shirt or sweater etc.

However I don’t understand people who spend money buying these clothes with brands name ( ivy collage, big law s name, big employer s. Name) to show off. It’s different if you are tourist or student to buy them for keepsake etc.

Why did you pay money to advertise for them?
If you were given for free, use these cloths. Great. But buy to show off…. Poor taste I think.

When I see people wearing these clothes, I don’t really think much. As I said they maybe getting them for free and just put them on to have something to wear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're French. We don't look French to Americans because we're not Caucasian. My kids have worn plenty of French items over the years.

My husband once worked for a certain well-known company and brought home apparel from it.

What you're missing is that in those circles there's no specific message attached to it. People wear what's available.

You sound embarrassingly insecure.

OP here and I am not bothered by this, but my husband told me that "many people" find it pretentious. I don't care either way.

But you also misread my post because I wasn't talking about wearing "French items". I was talking specifically about t-shirts, hats, and sweatshirts advertising the name of luxury vacation destinations. Not wearing something with French words or something. But something clearly purchased at a luxury destination indicating the person had been to that destination.

PP you replied to. Oh, I understood you perfectly. We go to certain places that your husband might consider fancy, and buy stuff there, in France or elsewhere.

Your husband is showing his class insecurities, OP. You need to educate him. Tell him he will always have more than someone else. Right now, somebody looked at your husband and thought he was pretentious. He has a car, he has a home, he dresses in normal clothes, right? Well, to a certain group of people, that's already rich and smug! Other people will always have more than he has. He needs to accept that and live his own life.

I find it hilarious that your husband would criticize the barely upper middle class, and not the staggeringly wealthy who own private jets, for ex. What does he mean by pretentious? Does he think people "plot" what logos they're going to display on any given day? Does he think they're not as rich as they want to signal? If it's a company shirt, that's stupid.

Your husband is just not making sense. It's his anxiety talking.

Lol, Madame -- I think you are showing your insecurities, actually. My husband is from a much wealthier background than I am, and attended an Ivy. This came up because we recently attended a reunion at his alma mater and bought our kid a sweatshirt, and my husband is embarrassed when the kid wears it because he thinks other people find it pretentious.

But by all means, do keep posting paragraph upon paragraph expounding on your feelings on this subject -- I've been reading these posts to him and every time you say "I am French" he gets a good laugh.

Au revoir mon cheri!

OP, you ASKED for opinions. Why are you criticizing this poster for sharing an opinion that missed the mark? Maybe you shoud have shared this context when you asked the question instead of dismissing a poster who guessed wrong based on the limited info you provided.

I asked what people thought of kids wearing clothes like this, that all. French lady decided to make a bunch of assumptions based on that question (which no one else did). She didn't "guess wrong," she assumed a bunch of stuff because she was dying to judge and condescend. That's her problem.

You seem like the judgemental one, seeing as you have a bee in your bonnet over this days / weeks later. Unclench!

What? This thread was started yesterday afternoon. It hasn't even been a day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are your opinions on kids wearing stuff like: clothes with elite college branding (Ivies, Stanford), clothes from elite or luxury vacation destinations (especially non-obvious places like Block Island or like a specific hotel in the French Riviera, not like a Paris tshirt you can buy at H&M), and clothes with elite job branding from parents' work (BigLaw, consulting, elite tech companies).

I am trying to settle an argument with my spouse.

I mean, whatever?