Are you more likely to judge a family based off what the parents are wearing or what the children/teenagers are wearing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some examples:
If a teenager is in all designer clothes but mom is in obvious inexpensive Walmart clothing or has rips or fades in her clothes.

If the parents are in designer clothing but the kids are in torn, ripped or too small clothing.

Do outsiders, people not within the immediate family, judge a family based on what the parents are wearing or what the children or teenagers are wearing?

I only judge someone who is wearing MAGA attire.....that says everything about who a person is. Other than that I don't judge.

- do you mean the red MAGA hat?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I do. I know some parents think the kids should have free rein, but I see kids in really inappropriate outfits and I believe parents should offer some instruction. Learning the rules of what to wear to what event is important.

[Anonymous]

I don’t really notice unless someone is looking particularly stylish or particularly terrible. And even then it’s not about where the clothing may have been purchased.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my country, poor people dress in poor clothing; everyone can see this.

If you are not poor then you buy the best clothing. The poor people would do this too but they cannot afford good clothing.

This is obvious. What question is asked here?

In North America many of the wealthiest people wear average clothing at best. It’s a part of the culture of thrift that many very wealthy people practice. This can be traced back to the effects of the great depression and immigration.

I think the thrifty impulse comes from Christianity - Puritans, the legacy of vow of poverty by monks, Jesus and heavenly wealth vs worldly wealth.

[Anonymous]

I have no doubt major brands (not designers) sell products with different quality fabric for Walmart and similar retail outlets. My sister concluded that about underwear decades ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just remember as a poor Latin kid with a free lunch that other kids black and Latin too would judge me and others on what we wore. My stuff was from Payless and Montgomery Ward so I was laughed at. Then and now I just can't judge kids or adults by their clothing.

Same, but a poor white kid.

Ditto. And home sewn.

Now, I had a classmate whose family struggled (her dad was skilled machinist who made decent money but also a drunk and they'd run out of food). But she had an uncle who was a TV personality and married to Betty White. They got amazing hand me downs and her mom was a skilled seamstress and home decorator. We became close friends later and she said everyone thought her family had a lot of money because of the clothes and house. But I had been at her house just once in high school with a woman who was picking up her mom for an event I was invited to and noticed the kids all had half a hot dog and a small pile of macaroni on their plates, and her mom laughed lightly and said last day before payday. My clothes got laughed at but I never knew when payday was and was never aware of money being particularly short just before.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t recognize expensive clothing. I would notice fit, though. If something is ill-fitting, it doesn’t look great. Reasonably priced or “cheap” clothing can fit well, if you’re willing to do some trial and error.

I’m not a fan of big, obvious labels and brands. Turns you into a walking billboard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just remember as a poor Latin kid with a free lunch that other kids black and Latin too would judge me and others on what we wore. My stuff was from Payless and Montgomery Ward so I was laughed at. Then and now I just can't judge kids or adults by their clothing.

Same, but a poor white kid.

Ditto. And home sewn.

Now, I had a classmate whose family struggled (her dad was skilled machinist who made decent money but also a drunk and they'd run out of food). But she had an uncle who was a TV personality and married to Betty White. They got amazing hand me downs and her mom was a skilled seamstress and home decorator. We became close friends later and she said everyone thought her family had a lot of money because of the clothes and house. But I had been at her house just once in high school with a woman who was picking up her mom for an event I was invited to and noticed the kids all had half a hot dog and a small pile of macaroni on their plates, and her mom laughed lightly and said last day before payday. My clothes got laughed at but I never knew when payday was and was never aware of money being particularly short just before.

My clothes mostly came from K-mart (we didn't get a Walmart until I was an adult) and I was chunky, so I was ripe for ridicule.

I don't care what other people are wearing.

[Anonymous]

Teens wear ripped and worn designer clothes and look like homeless people across the wealth spectrum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just remember as a poor Latin kid with a free lunch that other kids black and Latin too would judge me and others on what we wore. My stuff was from Payless and Montgomery Ward so I was laughed at. Then and now I just can't judge kids or adults by their clothing.

Same, but a poor white kid.

Ditto. And home sewn.

Now, I had a classmate whose family struggled (her dad was skilled machinist who made decent money but also a drunk and they'd run out of food). But she had an uncle who was a TV personality and married to Betty White. They got amazing hand me downs and her mom was a skilled seamstress and home decorator. We became close friends later and she said everyone thought her family had a lot of money because of the clothes and house. But I had been at her house just once in high school with a woman who was picking up her mom for an event I was invited to and noticed the kids all had half a hot dog and a small pile of macaroni on their plates, and her mom laughed lightly and said last day before payday. My clothes got laughed at but I never knew when payday was and was never aware of money being particularly short just before.

She could have been a successful interior designer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some examples:
If a teenager is in all designer clothes but mom is in obvious inexpensive Walmart clothing or has rips or fades in her clothes.

If the parents are in designer clothing but the kids are in torn, ripped or too small clothing.

Do outsiders, people not within the immediate family, judge a family based on what the parents are wearing or what the children or teenagers are wearing?

OMG who cares

MYOB

We care if you wear maga shit or confederate crap

[Anonymous]

Meh. Im an older mom. IDK care what the heck I wear as long as its comfortable; when I was young I loved designer things. My child is still too young to care about designer stuff but when she is old enough I am sure she will be in fancy stuff while Im in yoga pants. Its fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some examples:
If a teenager is in all designer clothes but mom is in obvious inexpensive Walmart clothing or has rips or fades in her clothes.

If the parents are in designer clothing but the kids are in torn, ripped or too small clothing.

Do outsiders, people not within the immediate family, judge a family based on what the parents are wearing or what the children or teenagers are wearing?

OMG who cares

MYOB

We care if you wear maga shit or confederate crap

Guess you don’t visit the National Mall? All the street vendors sell MAGA hats and obviously people buy it up.

[Anonymous]

I feel turned off by people who wear status-signalling clothing, since I'm just trying to live my life and not impress strangers or win some imaginary competition.

Ultimately how we style ourselves is a method of signalling tribal affiliation, and if "we spent 10x as much on this clothing as we had to in order to impress you" is your tribe, good for you. I just don't see the appeal. I'd rather spend my money on saving for the future and charitable donations and vacations with my kids. You'd probably think I am "frumpy" because I wear glasses and don't dye my hair or wear makeup or designer clothing. I would just call it practical and unconcerned.

[Anonymous]

I don't really notice unless something really stands out like truly ill-fitting or loud colors, really nice and put together. Then I might have a thought about it but move on.