Would you raise your house temps for a houseguest (that lost heat)?

[Anonymous]

I run warm and keep our house pretty cold, but this past week it’s only been around 64 because our Heating just couldn’t keep up with the cold temperatures. I was freezing all week. Like wearing two pairs of pants around the house cold. I would offer to turn it up for them. Unless you absolutely can’t afford it, it’s the kind thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. They should be thankful to stay with our. If they don't like it, they can go somewhere else.

This. You shouldn’t have to change your comfort in your home for a random guest. Your elderly mom, yes, but not for this person.

[Anonymous]

I keep mine at 62 (there is a reason, old house, electric boiler, heating bills are INSANE) and have learned to dress so I stay comfortable, but I know it would be horrible for someone not used to it. Once in college I spent a night at a friend's house. We had spent the day at an outdoor mural painting event in November and were chilled through by nightfall. Her mom was a single parent and had her house probably what mine is now but that was one tough night, not enough blankets.

My mom is deceased but she would stay with me for extended periods of time, so I would turn it up and also make sure her bedroom was up to 72; she was in her 80s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course you need to turn it up for them. Why are you such a miser?

Flashback to when my cousin was getting married, I was a teenager, people were spread out between my grandparents' home, my parents' camper, the bride's family (nobody used hotels in those days for extended family events). Took a bath at my cousin's house. Her parents' frugality was legendary but I did not expect my aunt to draw the bath--4 inches of lukewarm water.

They weren't poor (they were both feds their entire careers)--they were able to pay one of their son's a full time salary to be a companion for his dad when my uncle went to a nursing home in his 90s, they traveled a ton in their 70s-80s, they had a lovely home. But they sure knew how to save.

[Anonymous]

Offer the coach upstairs so they can appreciate th 63’

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you need to turn it up for them. Why are you such a miser?

Flashback to when my cousin was getting married, I was a teenager, people were spread out between my grandparents' home, my parents' camper, the bride's family (nobody used hotels in those days for extended family events). Took a bath at my cousin's house. Her parents' frugality was legendary but I did not expect my aunt to draw the bath--4 inches of lukewarm water.

They weren't poor (they were both feds their entire careers)--they were able to pay one of their son's a full time salary to be a companion for his dad when my uncle went to a nursing home in his 90s, they traveled a ton in their 70s-80s, they had a lovely home. But they sure knew how to save.

a four inch bath sounds fine - what is wrong with that? What js wrong with lukewarm water? Hot is not good for your skin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you need to turn it up for them. Why are you such a miser?

Flashback to when my cousin was getting married, I was a teenager, people were spread out between my grandparents' home, my parents' camper, the bride's family (nobody used hotels in those days for extended family events). Took a bath at my cousin's house. Her parents' frugality was legendary but I did not expect my aunt to draw the bath--4 inches of lukewarm water.

They weren't poor (they were both feds their entire careers)--they were able to pay one of their son's a full time salary to be a companion for his dad when my uncle went to a nursing home in his 90s, they traveled a ton in their 70s-80s, they had a lovely home. But they sure knew how to save.

a four inch bath sounds fine - what is wrong with that? What js wrong with lukewarm water? Hot is not good for your skin.

4" isn't a bath, that's just your a$$ in tepid water. smdh.

[Anonymous]

My MIL used to keep her house really cold. After the second visit we started staying in a hotel. She would always complain that none of her kids stayed with her. She also used the outside to store extra food. It would go bad. And she had money!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We keep our home at 63. When it warms up, we may bump it to 65, but it's 63 day/night for now. It keeps our bills down, pipes safe, and HVAC running well. Basement is 10 degrees colder. Sunny days will warm things up a few degrees in the daytime.

Friend lost heat and is awaiting a total system replacement early next week. I offered to let them stay with us (guest bedroom is in the basement), but disclosed our house temps, which are too cold for them. Is it crappy of me to not offer to raise our house temps? They're welcome to stay, but 63 is what we're sticking with, Mayyyybe 64.

Your house is no better than theirs.

[Anonymous]

OP you are nuts keeping it that low.

That aside I would raise it while my friend stays since it is just a few days. Unless you are barely scraping by of course.

[Anonymous]

I’d rather stay in a hotel than with your cheap a$$.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course you need to turn it up for them. Why are you such a miser?

Flashback to when my cousin was getting married, I was a teenager, people were spread out between my grandparents' home, my parents' camper, the bride's family (nobody used hotels in those days for extended family events). Took a bath at my cousin's house. Her parents' frugality was legendary but I did not expect my aunt to draw the bath--4 inches of lukewarm water.

They weren't poor (they were both feds their entire careers)--they were able to pay one of their son's a full time salary to be a companion for his dad when my uncle went to a nursing home in his 90s, they traveled a ton in their 70s-80s, they had a lovely home. But they sure knew how to save.

a four inch bath sounds fine - what is wrong with that? What js wrong with lukewarm water? Hot is not good for your skin.

4" isn't a bath, that's just your a$$ in tepid water. smdh.

it’s enough to get clean - it’s not a spa soak.

[Anonymous]

My sons favorite saying is “it’s wild to see how other people operate”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. They should be thankful to stay with our. If they don't like it, they can go somewhere else.

This. You shouldn’t have to change your comfort in your home for a random guest. Your elderly mom, yes, but not for this person.

Then dont even offer. 53 degrees is too cold for a bedroom. There is no reason to be thankful for someone offering you that.

[Anonymous]

Unless the friend is a 20-something outdoorsy survivalist type who can bring their own winter gear, you should offer them your bedroom and take the basement. If the friend is elderly or otherwise inclined to be cold, you should offer them your room AND turn the heat up to a minimum of 65.

I realize you’re trying to do them a favor by hosting them, but part of hosting is to make your guest as comfortable as possible, or at least not miserable.