How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable

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Anonymous wrote:You should tell the relative to do whatever SHE is comfortable with. I would probably kill you if you tried to tell me "Well I polled the internet and a lot of people said they'd be fine after two weeks as long as you stopped every 2.5 hours."

It doesn't matter what other people are comfortable with - it matters what the mother and baby are cleared for and comfortable doing.

I am not planning on telling her anything. I am wondering in my own head and in the anonymous forum. She and her husband will make their own decision.

There was no C-section.

My guess is sometime between day 5 and 7.

It's not ideal. It won't be fun, not completely without risk, but it will be safe and practical. I was doing daily 90 minute trips (3 hr roundtrip) by myself each day for about 10 days to bring the baby to the hospital to see their mom. My wife made the trip on day 11. It wasn't pleasant, but she had been through an awful lot more than a normal c-section.

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I had an episiotomy with my first and she had jaundice and wouldn’t wake up to eat. We had to feed her every 2 hrs (setting alarms) and that involved pumping and then trying to use a syringe to get her to eat. She didn’t really nurse until 4 weeks and even then I was supposed to try nursing her every 2 hrs with one 3 hr stretch allowed. It was miserable. My mom wanted me to “come home” from DC to Boston for Thanksgiving - DD was 6 weeks - and I pointed out a 6 hr ride plus the traffic plus the nursing and changing stops would take forever. (DD really wasn’t taking a bottle yet.). Also I would have been in pain potentially but was probably feeling a little better at 6 weeks.

DD #2 was almost 2 lbs bigger at birth, nursed right away, was allowed to sleep as long as she wanted (which was often at least one 3-4 hr stretch right from the get go) and I didn’t have any tearing. We did a trip (2 hr plane ride) at 9 weeks and it was easy and I think I could have been fine sooner.

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Fly at 2 weeks

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Definitely not Week 1, but maybe some time that second week if she is without complications and cleared by doc. It will not be a fun drive but I hope it goes as well as possible. When I drove that with my 4 week old the biggest problem was just making the feedings and/or pumping work. We pulled over many times.

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Anonymous wrote:40 days.

I am Asian. My baby and I rested and were taken care of by 2 dedicated care givers. I was fed nutritious foods and drinks to promote healing and lactation, I was massaged and bathed, I did not have to lift a finger, I only nursed and played with my baby and just healed. My baby also was massaged, bathed, diapered, burped, soothed, rocked by these two ladies and my DH. All house chores were outsourced.

I did not have visitors for 40 days (except close family members). Baby and I always had someone close to us (my mom or DH), we were not left alone. I did not go out for 40 days. It was absolute peace, quite, comfort, support, various healing therapies and bonding with my baby.

You are so out of touch it's kind of hilarious. Most women in the U.S. are back at work within six weeks of giving birth and have no help from family or the auntie network.

Most women in "Asia" don't have this kind of luxury treatment either.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh gosh, ASAP.

I’d try to stay in the hospital as long as I could, and go home from there if at all possible. I would NOT want to stay at a relative’s house with a newborn waking every 2 hours, me bleeding all over, feeling like a guest.

If I had to stay a long time, I’d get an Airbnb to have my own space with my husband and baby.

This, for going home? ASAP. As soon as physically cleared to do so. I also wasn't fixated on breastfeeding in the slightest so I'd be in the backseat just hoping to gun it as fast as possible to be home, stopping for emergency restroom breaks and diaper changes only.

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Anonymous wrote:We did an normal 8 hour drive in 10 hours stopping every 2 hours at pediatrician advice. My father died 12 days after my son was born. We drove in day 11. Again pediatrician approved the trip. I pumped in car next to the baby and we stopped to feed and snuggle every 2 hours, change diaper. Ate in car.

Similar situation- my grandmother died within two weeks of my daughter's birth. The funeral was about 5 hours away, we drove up and back in one day. It wasn't ideal but we made it work. Lots of snacks in the car and I pumped in the car so we didn't have to stop often.

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Adoptive parents bring home newborn babies born out of state all the time. Is it fun to travel with and 2 week old newborn? No. But it totally is doable. It’s how we brought home our son from out of state.

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Anonymous wrote:Taking a 5 hour (maybe longer with stops) road trip as a passenger with a newborn?

4 weeks

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I’d want to get home ASAP. It will be tough but doable in the first week after delivery. It doesn’t get easier if you wait longer like say 3 weeks. Does mom have help once she gets home? Like for the following 24 hours? She is going to need to rest!