Not letting neighbors hand out candy at Halloween

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:But... the entire point is to go door to door! Otherwise it's a boring candy grab at a boring table. Unless there are activities and events in the central square?

Anyway, unless this is the binding decision of an HOA or a temporary police order to keep the peace, a mere neighborhood association cannot forbid people going door to door on Halloween.

Your parents should speak up on the listserve and say that they are opposed to the central candy grab idea, and that any trick-or-treater who comes to their door will be given candy.

Neighborhood associations do these things because they believe people agree or will at least not disagree. The only way to counter bad ideas from that quarter is to speak up and encourage others to do so. Courteously, of course.

Similar concept to the trunk or treat. Sooo BORING! The kids just kept circling around until the candy was gone.

Right? Trunk or Treat was started by churches as another way to control their members and it's sad that the idea has spread.

That's not true. It was a safery issue going to various homes plus Covid. Not a problem if you live in a safe area and know your neighbors.

Your position is that trunk or treat started with COVID?

Trunk or treat was stated long before Covid and was started by churches as a "safety" measure against candy that was tampered with as well as a way for church/religious control over parishioners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents have lived in a close in neighborhood for over 30 years. When we were kids and even after, my parents were heavily involved in the civic association, block parties, school events, and were always helping a hand. In the last few years they have been less involved but have always been "good neighbors." Last year, the people on their street decided they would have a joint trick or treating where kids cam to one central location to hand out treats. My parents have always enjoyed Halloween and seeing kids in their costumes. Last year the neighbors told kids not to go to any houses because candy was only available at one location. Some of the older kids came any way. My parents are not trying to be hostile but really would like to see the kids. My father is thinking of putting a sign in the lawn saying "treats are here."

They tried to explain to the organizing neighbor that they would like to have kids come to their house and were told "we are changing the rules and kids can't come to your house."

Any suggestions beyond the sign?

Hire goons to tune up the Karens doing that "oh we are in charge" kinda stuff?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They should get full size candy bars and hang out on their front lawn. The kids will figure it out.

This is the correct answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:My parents have lived in a close in neighborhood for over 30 years. When we were kids and even after, my parents were heavily involved in the civic association, block parties, school events, and were always helping a hand. In the last few years they have been less involved but have always been "good neighbors." Last year, the people on their street decided they would have a joint trick or treating where kids cam to one central location to hand out treats. My parents have always enjoyed Halloween and seeing kids in their costumes. Last year the neighbors told kids not to go to any houses because candy was only available at one location. Some of the older kids came any way. My parents are not trying to be hostile but really would like to see the kids. My father is thinking of putting a sign in the lawn saying "treats are here."

They tried to explain to the organizing neighbor that they would like to have kids come to their house and were told "we are changing the rules and kids can't come to your house."

Any suggestions beyond the sign?

Lead paint really did a number on Boomers.

Why are you calling 30-something parents Boomers?

You think it’s the young parents who created this ridiculous rule?

[Anonymous]

Who crowned them KING OF THE STREET? Do whatever you want.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I remember taking my kids to empty streets and the joy of the elderly homeowners to finally have treaters. They ended up giving them too much candy though. It was nice for the kids too to be received so warmly.

Yes - most of our neighbors are boomers and we only have maybe 10-15 trick or treaters every year and the older neighbors are just so incredibly generous and sweet to our kids, even the older kids come away with a ton of candy. Our HOA president sits on his lawn and gives out full size candy bars to the kids AND their parents.

My mom is in her 90s and has no kids on her street. It actually makes her sad she has no tot-ers. She used to visit me at Halloween to help.

I agree with pp. Op help your parents decorate their yard. They need lights - kids will notice. Kids will come.

What a sad community they live in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But... the entire point is to go door to door! Otherwise it's a boring candy grab at a boring table. Unless there are activities and events in the central square?

Anyway, unless this is the binding decision of an HOA or a temporary police order to keep the peace, a mere neighborhood association cannot forbid people going door to door on Halloween.

Your parents should speak up on the listserve and say that they are opposed to the central candy grab idea, and that any trick-or-treater who comes to their door will be given candy.

Neighborhood associations do these things because they believe people agree or will at least not disagree. The only way to counter bad ideas from that quarter is to speak up and encourage others to do so. Courteously, of course.

Similar concept to the trunk or treat. Sooo BORING! The kids just kept circling around until the candy was gone.

Right? Trunk or Treat was started by churches as another way to control their members and it's sad that the idea has spread.

That's not true. It was a safery issue going to various homes plus Covid. Not a problem if you live in a safe area and know your neighbors.

Your position is that trunk or treat started with COVID?

Trunk or treat was stated long before Covid and was started by churches as a "safety" measure against candy that was tampered with as well as a way for church/religious control over parishioners.

They did it to remove any mention of Halloween. It's always guised as a Fall celebration with no witches etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why must some Karen ruin the fun of Halloween???

Turn on all the lights at your house, put up some outdoor lights and a Halloween inflatable, and hand out candy.

If you build it, they will come.

Sexist fool. What makes you think a woman did this? When I lived in Burke it was the retired old guys who were control freaks.

[Anonymous]

OP—what did your parents end up doing last night?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But... the entire point is to go door to door! Otherwise it's a boring candy grab at a boring table. Unless there are activities and events in the central square?

Anyway, unless this is the binding decision of an HOA or a temporary police order to keep the peace, a mere neighborhood association cannot forbid people going door to door on Halloween.

Your parents should speak up on the listserve and say that they are opposed to the central candy grab idea, and that any trick-or-treater who comes to their door will be given candy.

Neighborhood associations do these things because they believe people agree or will at least not disagree. The only way to counter bad ideas from that quarter is to speak up and encourage others to do so. Courteously, of course.

Similar concept to the trunk or treat. Sooo BORING! The kids just kept circling around until the candy was gone.

Right? Trunk or Treat was started by churches as another way to control their members and it's sad that the idea has spread.

That's not true. It was a safery issue going to various homes plus Covid. Not a problem if you live in a safe area and know your neighbors.

Your position is that trunk or treat started with COVID?

Trunk or treat was stated long before Covid and was started by churches as a "safety" measure against candy that was tampered with as well as a way for church/religious control over parishioners.

In the past 15 years I've been to Trunk or Treats none has been on Halloween, they are always some other night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents have lived in a close in neighborhood for over 30 years. When we were kids and even after, my parents were heavily involved in the civic association, block parties, school events, and were always helping a hand. In the last few years they have been less involved but have always been "good neighbors." Last year, the people on their street decided they would have a joint trick or treating where kids cam to one central location to hand out treats. My parents have always enjoyed Halloween and seeing kids in their costumes. Last year the neighbors told kids not to go to any houses because candy was only available at one location. Some of the older kids came any way. My parents are not trying to be hostile but really would like to see the kids. My father is thinking of putting a sign in the lawn saying "treats are here."

They tried to explain to the organizing neighbor that they would like to have kids come to their house and were told "we are changing the rules and kids can't come to your house."

Any suggestions beyond the sign?

Lead paint really did a number on Boomers.

Why are you calling 30-something parents Boomers?

+1 The Boomers in this story are the nice elderly grandparents still wanting to hand out candy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents have lived in a close in neighborhood for over 30 years. When we were kids and even after, my parents were heavily involved in the civic association, block parties, school events, and were always helping a hand. In the last few years they have been less involved but have always been "good neighbors." Last year, the people on their street decided they would have a joint trick or treating where kids cam to one central location to hand out treats. My parents have always enjoyed Halloween and seeing kids in their costumes. Last year the neighbors told kids not to go to any houses because candy was only available at one location. Some of the older kids came any way. My parents are not trying to be hostile but really would like to see the kids. My father is thinking of putting a sign in the lawn saying "treats are here."

They tried to explain to the organizing neighbor that they would like to have kids come to their house and were told "we are changing the rules and kids can't come to your house."

Any suggestions beyond the sign?

Lead paint really did a number on Boomers.

Why are you calling 30-something parents Boomers?

You think it’s the young parents who created this ridiculous rule?

Yes. If we're doing generational stereotypes, older people like to do things the way they've always been done. And young parents of a certain vintage want all family activities to involve drinking and corn hole.

I'd love an update from OP on how it went down on Halloween.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents have lived in a close in neighborhood for over 30 years. When we were kids and even after, my parents were heavily involved in the civic association, block parties, school events, and were always helping a hand. In the last few years they have been less involved but have always been "good neighbors." Last year, the people on their street decided they would have a joint trick or treating where kids cam to one central location to hand out treats. My parents have always enjoyed Halloween and seeing kids in their costumes. Last year the neighbors told kids not to go to any houses because candy was only available at one location. Some of the older kids came any way. My parents are not trying to be hostile but really would like to see the kids. My father is thinking of putting a sign in the lawn saying "treats are here."

They tried to explain to the organizing neighbor that they would like to have kids come to their house and were told "we are changing the rules and kids can't come to your house."

Any suggestions beyond the sign?

Decorate to the extent they can, put up signs saying trick or treaters welcome at address then without in the yard and hand out candy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents have lived in a close in neighborhood for over 30 years. When we were kids and even after, my parents were heavily involved in the civic association, block parties, school events, and were always helping a hand. In the last few years they have been less involved but have always been "good neighbors." Last year, the people on their street decided they would have a joint trick or treating where kids cam to one central location to hand out treats. My parents have always enjoyed Halloween and seeing kids in their costumes. Last year the neighbors told kids not to go to any houses because candy was only available at one location. Some of the older kids came any way. My parents are not trying to be hostile but really would like to see the kids. My father is thinking of putting a sign in the lawn saying "treats are here."

They tried to explain to the organizing neighbor that they would like to have kids come to their house and were told "we are changing the rules and kids can't come to your house."

Any suggestions beyond the sign?

Sounds like the neighbors found out your parents are Republicans, & they are afraid your parents are handing out candy laced with common sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents have lived in a close in neighborhood for over 30 years. When we were kids and even after, my parents were heavily involved in the civic association, block parties, school events, and were always helping a hand. In the last few years they have been less involved but have always been "good neighbors." Last year, the people on their street decided they would have a joint trick or treating where kids cam to one central location to hand out treats. My parents have always enjoyed Halloween and seeing kids in their costumes. Last year the neighbors told kids not to go to any houses because candy was only available at one location. Some of the older kids came any way. My parents are not trying to be hostile but really would like to see the kids. My father is thinking of putting a sign in the lawn saying "treats are here."

They tried to explain to the organizing neighbor that they would like to have kids come to their house and were told "we are changing the rules and kids can't come to your house."

Any suggestions beyond the sign?

Sounds like the neighbors found out your parents are Republicans, & they are afraid your parents are handing out candy laced with common sense.

If only that could happen.