+1, there will always be kids with no friends to talk with at lunch. |
+1 and for them, the phone may be making them feel less uncomfortable. They can bury their noses in it. |
Which is such a healthy coping mechanism to prepare them for being in the world
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In the 90s they’d be burying their nose in a book. Same difference, in this limited example. Just like people eating out alone for lunch- they used to read the paper or a novel and now they read their phones. |
I am a high school teacher too. I think there is a third group in the middle, who will use a phone if it’s available but otherwise will socialize. I teach at a school that started enforcing no phones at lunch in fall 2024, and there is also a lot more socialization, and fewer unconnected kids. I will also say that as a pretty shy kid who did eat alone a lot, what I did during lunch, which was mostly reading, and what I see solo kids doing at lunch now in my school which is homework, or reading, going to the open art studio to draw, is way healthier than social media or consuming inappropriate content online. |
| I’m a Langley parent and the teachers said they were thrilled with the new policy because the students were participating more in class. My kid might text during lunch, but he’s off his phone for the most part. OP, maybe say something to your DD’s teachers? |
Honestly, yes. I’m a huge introvert, social with friends and happily married. I spent a lot of lunches in the art room where I could get quiet and because the teacher let me go there. I’m the parent you see at the sports games sitting alone on my phone when I’m not cheering. Don’t take it personal. I just need alone time after work or on the weekend. I understand those kids. Let them have their phones. They might have friends but need alone time in their own world to recharge. School is overwhelming. |