Talking nonstop on a flight rude?

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Anonymous wrote:I once sat on the front row of two people who talked without a stop for hours and hours on a cross-Atlantic red eye flight. They also had their lights on, and finally, after my little kid woke up repeatedly because of the light, I asked them to turn off the light. Perhaps because of that they started paying attention to where they were and what other people were trying to do (sleep). An hour before landing they asked me if I was bothered by their talking and after that they finally shut up.

I’m sorry, I’m not turning my light off or not talking because of your kid.

During a red eye? Talking nonstop through the sleeping portion of a redeye is super rude.

I paid for my seat. I wouldn’t talk loudly, but I’m not worrying about a sleeping kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am always stunned that the DCUM response to people being rude is "they can do whatever they want, you have to plan for that." Classic example is the people who shine spotlights into other people's homes at night in the name of "security." DCUM says "Get blackout curtains" rather than the obvious answer: "shot the lights out."

OP, talking on a plane is not illegal, but it's asinine. I once turned around and told a woman to please be quiet, because she had been asking her kid "do you want this or that" questions for almost an hour, and the kid never responded to any of them. I said, "Your kid is fine. She doesn't want apples or goldfish, she doesn't want to read Care Bear or Paw Patrol, she doesn't want to put on her sweater or take off her shoes. She's fine. Please, let her -- and all of us -- be. Shut. Up."

The spotlight example is crazy but you're wrong about this one. You actually told a woman on a plane to shut up because she was talking to her kid? Yes she sounds mildly annoying but YOU were the rude one there. You can't police other people's behavior like that. Unless she was pestering *you* with questions, you need to learn to ignore something like that. Or, yes, bring noise canceling headphones.

I've heard people talking in much more annoying ways than that on planes many times and I've never once told any of them to shut up. Just wow.

Funny how your preferred person can say whatever she wants all flight, but no one else has that freedom of speech.

No one said other people can say whatever they want. For instance, if the mom had been berating her kid the entire flight, swearing, or telling her kid to shut up, I would fully endorse you speaking up and asking her to stop. But she was just offering her kid food and activities. That's a normal thing to do and it was insanely rude for you to tell her to shut up.

I think some of you are highly sensitive to sounds or distractions and expect everyone around you to accommodate that sensitivity. It's not reasonable. I say this as someone with a lot of sensitivities as well -- I hate bright lights, loud noises, the sound of people eating, and scratchy or irritating fabrics near my skin. Also when people with long hair toss it around so it touches everything. But I recognize these are personal sensitivities and not Rules for Society. When I fly, I always have an eye mask, ear plugs, and headphones to minimize how much these things bother me. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. But I have the self awareness to realize, even when I'm annoyed, that I'm not entitled to tell people to shut up, stop eating, or close the shade on their window because it's bothering me. In some cases I will *politely* request an adjustment for my own comfort, but I'll be super nice about it and accept it if they say no.

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There's so much white noise on a plane - surely she was capable of speaking quietly, and surely you were capable of tuning her out if you wanted to. Sometimes people have to work during a flight. This is her work.

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If it is a daytime flight, not rude. But an overnight, red eye flight? Inconsiderate.

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Anonymous wrote:Just start talking to yourself so your voice is captured along with the other person's. She'll quickly get the idea.

That's too much work, why should OP have to do that? -DP

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Anonymous wrote:I am with the poster that said noise canceling headphones. Certain things is a must when you are going on a flight; a water bottle (for those delays of exiting the plane or take off and the cabin can get extremely hot), tylenol, noise canceling headphones, a hoodie

But don't take it if you are pregnant?

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Anonymous wrote:That’s what noise canceling headphones are for

They cancel background noise not people's voices.

Nope. They work on planes. Blessed silence.