Restaurant bill splitting question

[Anonymous]

Update op?

[Anonymous]

Bump!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have said nah and pushed backs at that time. Once you paid you paid. Grow a pair next time

This.
+ Never ever do dinner with her again.

Lesson Learned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went out to an extravagant (at least for me!) dinner with a friend, my 1 kid and her 2 kids. The kids behaved beautifully and the dinner was a great success. The bill came ($500!) and I said to my friend, let’s just split it. The kids had ordered the exact same things ($60 per kid) and the adult tabs were similar. My friend said no and asked the waiter to split the bill by what we ordered.

Waiter must’ve thought all 3 kids were mine and came back with the kids meals on my bill, so now my “half” of the bill is practically $200 more than my friend. I said something to my friend (waiter wasn’t there) and friend was basically like “oh well, no biggie, it’s kids meals”). I am/was pi$$ed! But paid and did not make a deal of it.

What would you have done/how should I have handled.

First world problems. If you are rich enough to be splurging on fancy overpriced dinners, then don't be cheap and tightwad about the bill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went out to an extravagant (at least for me!) dinner with a friend, my 1 kid and her 2 kids. The kids behaved beautifully and the dinner was a great success. The bill came ($500!) and I said to my friend, let’s just split it. The kids had ordered the exact same things ($60 per kid) and the adult tabs were similar. My friend said no and asked the waiter to split the bill by what we ordered.

Waiter must’ve thought all 3 kids were mine and came back with the kids meals on my bill, so now my “half” of the bill is practically $200 more than my friend. I said something to my friend (waiter wasn’t there) and friend was basically like “oh well, no biggie, it’s kids meals”). I am/was pi$$ed! But paid and did not make a deal of it.

What would you have done/how should I have handled.

First world problems. If you are rich enough to be splurging on fancy overpriced dinners, then don't be cheap and tightwad about the bill.

Huge difference between this and getting walked all over by a friend, who did not want to "split" the bill, yet was happy to stick OP will all the kids once the incorrectly split, bill arrived.

[Anonymous]

How does a friend flip from being fair to grossly unfair in a matter of minutes? I call troll.

[Anonymous]

You should have used your words on the spot and asked for the correct bill. Why keep quiet just to stew later?

[Anonymous]

So you paid $340 for 2 and your friend paid $160 for 3? You should have said something immediately and been more insistent.

Not much to do now.

She could’ve been rude or just slow where it comes to figuring these things out.

[Anonymous]

Send her a Venmo request 😂 for the fun of it. Better than stewing on an anonymous site.

[Anonymous]

That's a classic "you" problem, OP. Additionally that person doesn't sound like much of a friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update op?

+2

And I dont understand all the posts where an OP complains about getting suckered into paying for other people.

There was a post in the Teen Forum where OP paid for hotel/food/gas for her kid and 2 others tag-along kids (teammates) so they could all attend out of town sports camp. Then she got upset to not get reimbursed...um, do you not figure this out prior?
Or follow-up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I'd follow up and tell her: I need you to know that I'm pretty pissed about how payment was handled for our evening out. I volunteered to split the bill even though you have two kids and I have one, knowing that I would pay more. That was ok. Instead of simply splitting the bill, you insisted on having the waiter divvy out by item, which was a little embarrassing and resulted in me being charged for all three kids' $60 meals. When I noted that I was essentially paying $200 more than you dismissed it. You should have most certainly offered to pay me back. Again, I'm pissed and if not actual money, I am owed an apology.

I love this and, indeed, this is what transpired, but it is likely friendship ending unless the friend is the rare bird who is thick skinned and direct herself. So ask yourself if it’s worth it to you to get back $150.

Friendship ending maybe if you use the word "pissed" a couple of times. That doesn't leave much room for the friend to have made an error or change of heart. You can get this point across just as well without sound quite so...pissy about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you can't actually afford to pay $60 for your kid to eat at a restaurant, so quit taking them to eat out at expensive places. Also, stop being a doormat in the moment and then complaining to online strangers later.

Actually it sounds like the friend can't afford it, not OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you can't actually afford to pay $60 for your kid to eat at a restaurant, so quit taking them to eat out at expensive places. Also, stop being a doormat in the moment and then complaining to online strangers later.

Actually it sounds like the friend can't afford it, not OP.

Both, actually, you're right.

[Anonymous]

We were scammed. OP and the post was fake.