Where are my DCUM snarky parents

[Anonymous]

I love reading the college posts. I do a lot of eye rolling and laughing. But my kid has been at boarding school for the last 4 years. I'm taking her to move in because it's what society expects but honestly, neither of us understand why I'm going. She moved herself in to her dorm by herself for the last 3 years. What's so different about moving into a college dorm?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I set up my kid in under 2 hours. It went like a military operation. We already knew the dimensions of the room, closet etc. Everything got dusted, wiped, lysoled, vacuumed, put away and the beds were made.

You could have dropped him off at the dorm, gone for a coffee, and met him for lunch after he set up his own dorm room.

Isn’t the whole point of this exercise to spend those last few hours with your kid before saying goodbye? Agree that the coddling/helicoptering of Gen Z is out of control but this is a bit much. Even my parents helped get this cold, unfeeling Gen X latch key kid settled in when they dropped me off at school.

Except that it's Not. About. You.

Sorry, friend. If you think wanting to spend a couple final hours with my kid on college drop off day is too selfish or self-indulgent, we’ll just have to agree to disagree. That time isnt taking away from their moment at all. But do enjoy the firm but warm handshake you get from your kid on drop off day. Boundaries seem important to you.

[Anonymous]

When my first child went to college, I didn’t know about the parent FB page. When I discovered it in the Fall of their sophomore year I was so thankful I had a year of doing things and figuring things out on my own - it really was surprising how overly involved and stressed some parents were over the littlest things. It’s not that hard to navigate sending a kid to college- and honestly my kids did their own navigating once they were there - it’s okay to keep things simple.

[Anonymous]

I WANT to be snarky about it, but I agree, it's mainly international families, or those who just don't seem to have any real cultural understanding of how things work, not your garden variety of helicopter parents.

But I will be snarky about one thing, just checking out the parents' page for my DD, the parents are all SO OLD! or at least really old looking.

I'm 48, but I look a lot better compared to most of the other parents on FB.

-DCUM snark delivered....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I WANT to be snarky about it, but I agree, it's mainly international families, or those who just don't seem to have any real cultural understanding of how things work, not your garden variety of helicopter parents.

But I will be snarky about one thing, just checking out the parents' page for my DD, the parents are all SO OLD! or at least really old looking.

I'm 48, but I look a lot better compared to most of the other parents on FB.

-DCUM snark delivered....

You must have had your daughter really young. Most DCUM parents had their kids in their 30’s or later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I WANT to be snarky about it, but I agree, it's mainly international families, or those who just don't seem to have any real cultural understanding of how things work, not your garden variety of helicopter parents.

But I will be snarky about one thing, just checking out the parents' page for my DD, the parents are all SO OLD! or at least really old looking.

I'm 48, but I look a lot better compared to most of the other parents on FB.

-DCUM snark delivered....

Of course you do, dear.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I set up my kid in under 2 hours. It went like a military operation. We already knew the dimensions of the room, closet etc. Everything got dusted, wiped, lysoled, vacuumed, put away and the beds were made.

You could have dropped him off at the dorm, gone for a coffee, and met him for lunch after he set up his own dorm room.

Isn’t the whole point of this exercise to spend those last few hours with your kid before saying goodbye? Agree that the coddling/helicoptering of Gen Z is out of control but this is a bit much. Even my parents helped get this cold, unfeeling Gen X latch key kid settled in when they dropped me off at school.

Except that it's Not. About. You.

Sorry, friend. If you think wanting to spend a couple final hours with my kid on college drop off day is too selfish or self-indulgent, we’ll just have to agree to disagree. That time isnt taking away from their moment at all. But do enjoy the firm but warm handshake you get from your kid on drop off day. Boundaries seem important to you.

Oh, we know what you want. But what does your DS want? It is HIS room. He might not want mama making a fuss over the curtains.

[Anonymous]

My DD went to a school known for a close-knit community. There is a local nonprofit where local moms help out of state students - it's so organized that someone carries the cell phone 24x7 in case your kid lands in the ED, has an accident, or gets really sick, there is a local person that can help. They also sell and deliver care packages to dorms. coordinate birthday gifts, you get the picture.

Well, the leader of the group had a housefire that destroyed the whole top level of her home, including her office.

She posted on the Facebook group that everything in her office is gone, she will be offline a bit finding a place to live, etc.

A parent posted "Will you still be delivering the finals care packages?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I set up my kid in under 2 hours. It went like a military operation. We already knew the dimensions of the room, closet etc. Everything got dusted, wiped, lysoled, vacuumed, put away and the beds were made.

You could have dropped him off at the dorm, gone for a coffee, and met him for lunch after he set up his own dorm room.

Isn’t the whole point of this exercise to spend those last few hours with your kid before saying goodbye? Agree that the coddling/helicoptering of Gen Z is out of control but this is a bit much. Even my parents helped get this cold, unfeeling Gen X latch key kid settled in when they dropped me off at school.

Except that it's Not. About. You.

Sorry, friend. If you think wanting to spend a couple final hours with my kid on college drop off day is too selfish or self-indulgent, we’ll just have to agree to disagree. That time isnt taking away from their moment at all. But do enjoy the firm but warm handshake you get from your kid on drop off day. Boundaries seem important to you.

Oh, we know what you want. But what does your DS want? It is HIS room. He might not want mama making a fuss over the curtains.

And if he does? I imagine you would then call him a mama’s boy. Why are you so aggressive on this?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I set up my kid in under 2 hours. It went like a military operation. We already knew the dimensions of the room, closet etc. Everything got dusted, wiped, lysoled, vacuumed, put away and the beds were made.

You could have dropped him off at the dorm, gone for a coffee, and met him for lunch after he set up his own dorm room.

Isn’t the whole point of this exercise to spend those last few hours with your kid before saying goodbye? Agree that the coddling/helicoptering of Gen Z is out of control but this is a bit much. Even my parents helped get this cold, unfeeling Gen X latch key kid settled in when they dropped me off at school.

Except that it's Not. About. You.

Sorry, friend. If you think wanting to spend a couple final hours with my kid on college drop off day is too selfish or self-indulgent, we’ll just have to agree to disagree. That time isnt taking away from their moment at all. But do enjoy the firm but warm handshake you get from your kid on drop off day. Boundaries seem important to you.

Oh, we know what you want. But what does your DS want? It is HIS room. He might not want mama making a fuss over the curtains.

And if he does? I imagine you would then call him a mama’s boy. Why are you so aggressive on this?

It’s the same troll. Poor woman has no life. She hangs out here a lot.
Kids are grown. Past college.
She has a tell-tale aggressive style.
Her counseling advice is horrible too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD went to a school known for a close-knit community. There is a local nonprofit where local moms help out of state students - it's so organized that someone carries the cell phone 24x7 in case your kid lands in the ED, has an accident, or gets really sick, there is a local person that can help. They also sell and deliver care packages to dorms. coordinate birthday gifts, you get the picture.

Well, the leader of the group had a housefire that destroyed the whole top level of her home, including her office.

She posted on the Facebook group that everything in her office is gone, she will be offline a bit finding a place to live, etc.

A parent posted "Will you still be delivering the finals care packages?"

Omg I hope she took all that OOS kid stuff and cashed it in for herself and never looked back.

[Anonymous]

Just wait until classes start and you’ll see the “I’m tracking my child’s phone and I can see that they aren’t in their 8:00 am class- who should I call to go wake them up?”

[Anonymous]

Wow, have things changed!

I drove by myself, with my dog, to college. Because I had a dog, I rented a room in a house off campus and moved in with three roommates. I called my dad and mom when I arrived, but they didn't make the drive to visit until fall break, because they were working.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I set up my kid in under 2 hours. It went like a military operation. We already knew the dimensions of the room, closet etc. Everything got dusted, wiped, lysoled, vacuumed, put away and the beds were made.

You could have dropped him off at the dorm, gone for a coffee, and met him for lunch after he set up his own dorm room.

In my case, you joyless crone, it will be DD’s room, not DS. And I have no interest in fussing over anything, just being an extra pair of hands and drinking in those last hours before departure. But please, tell me again how the right move is to drop my kid off at the curb with all her stuff and head for coffee. You are deranged.
Isn’t the whole point of this exercise to spend those last few hours with your kid before saying goodbye? Agree that the coddling/helicoptering of Gen Z is out of control but this is a bit much. Even my parents helped get this cold, unfeeling Gen X latch key kid settled in when they dropped me off at school.

Except that it's Not. About. You.

Sorry, friend. If you think wanting to spend a couple final hours with my kid on college drop off day is too selfish or self-indulgent, we’ll just have to agree to disagree. That time isnt taking away from their moment at all. But do enjoy the firm but warm handshake you get from your kid on drop off day. Boundaries seem important to you.

Oh, we know what you want. But what does your DS want? It is HIS room. He might not want mama making a fuss over the curtains.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I set up my kid in under 2 hours. It went like a military operation. We already knew the dimensions of the room, closet etc. Everything got dusted, wiped, lysoled, vacuumed, put away and the beds were made.

so he needs to call to ask you where his extension cord is or if he has another blanket somewhere.