can someone just tell me the dorm stuff to buy

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Anonymous wrote:there was a long thread last week about this - but for a DD shopping at PBTeen.
I also have a boy who says he doesn't care about bedding (but his frame of reference is very nice bedding). I did spring for the expensive topper because he sleeps very hot and I didn't want the off-gassing (the $50 ones are said to be heat sinks and need 3 days to "air out". And the college required the toppers be encased). I did put a mattress pad on the topper but that was unncecceary if you buy the expensive topper. Other than that, 1 sets of sheets (second came home up opened), he did use a couple sets of pillow cases and used 4 pillows (2 as a back rest I concluded). One blanket, one comforter. For towels, I send the oldest ones we have on hand. If you buy new, you need to wash them couple times first or at least ours shed for 3 drying cycles.

I agree.

If you have a boy, they only need 1 set of sheets, plus extra pillowcases.

The 2nd set of sheets will come back unused.

Unless your son is in a very cold climate (Chicago, Minnesota, etc) do NOT buy and send a comforter with them. It is an expensive purchase that will not get used and will just end up on the floor. Comforters are decorative for boys, not functional, and 99% of boys do not care about a cute instagram post worthy dorm room.

If your son does not sleep with a comforter on top of him at home, he will not sleep with one in a hot stuffy dorm room with no one to get after him to make his bed.

Send him with 2 nice fleece blankets. 1 to actually use, and one folded either at the foot of the bed or in a bin, so he has a 3nd layer of warm blankets to use the first time he gets a nasty virus from communal living.

If you have a son, the comforter is just for Mom to get nice facdbook photos and are otherwise a waste of space in s boy's dorm room.

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Anonymous wrote:Just an FYI, your son will not use any or most of the cleaning supplies you purchase.

If he makes it through an entire package of disinfectant wipes, or half a can of lysol, consider it a parenting victory.

For cleaning, your son just needs a package of wipes, a can of lysol, and something to get crumbs like a cheap handheld vac or a small brush and dustbin. Anything more than that will be returned to you untouched.

no handheld vacs! there's more handheld vacs per bed in dorms than any other place.

also lysol doesnt do what you think it does

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Anonymous wrote:The most important thing that my 3 kids all actually thanked me for a few weeks in to school was the cold medicine i sent with them

Get a plastic shoe box from Dollar Tree. Fill with the big bottles of Day and Nyquil. Plus band aids, Ibuprofen and Tylenol, Vicks vapor rub, chapstick.

I would update and include some liquid IV powders.

They rolled their eyes when i put it together. Yes, there are stores but once you need this stuff you don't want to go to a store.

The crud comes on fast.

Who uses Vick's Vapo Rub after the age of 2?

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Anonymous wrote:Just learned my freshman boy will be in quad with a private bathroom. What's the minimal cleaning stuff you'd send with him?

towel bowl brush with caddy!

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Anonymous wrote:there was a long thread last week about this - but for a DD shopping at PBTeen.
I also have a boy who says he doesn't care about bedding (but his frame of reference is very nice bedding). I did spring for the expensive topper because he sleeps very hot and I didn't want the off-gassing (the $50 ones are said to be heat sinks and need 3 days to "air out". And the college required the toppers be encased). I did put a mattress pad on the topper but that was unncecceary if you buy the expensive topper. Other than that, 1 sets of sheets (second came home up opened), he did use a couple sets of pillow cases and used 4 pillows (2 as a back rest I concluded). One blanket, one comforter. For towels, I send the oldest ones we have on hand. If you buy new, you need to wash them couple times first or at least ours shed for 3 drying cycles.

I agree.

If you have a boy, they only need 1 set of sheets, plus extra pillowcases.

The 2nd set of sheets will come back unused.

Unless your son is in a very cold climate (Chicago, Minnesota, etc) do NOT buy and send a comforter with them. It is an expensive purchase that will not get used and will just end up on the floor. Comforters are decorative for boys, not functional, and 99% of boys do not care about a cute instagram post worthy dorm room.

If your son does not sleep with a comforter on top of him at home, he will not sleep with one in a hot stuffy dorm room with no one to get after him to make his bed.

Send him with 2 nice fleece blankets. 1 to actually use, and one folded either at the foot of the bed or in a bin, so he has a 3nd layer of warm blankets to use the first time he gets a nasty virus from communal living.

If you have a son, the comforter is just for Mom to get nice facdbook photos and are otherwise a waste of space in s boy's dorm room.

I dont think we need to be this judgy about stuff. my kids have only used comforters their whole life. we sent them off to college with somewhat cheaper versions of what they have at home. probably the same price as two fleece blankets. for us, comforters are an easy way to keep a bed neat and a comfy. For your kids, maybe it's two blankets. Who cares?

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Anonymous wrote:don't send a boy to college with a duvet and cover. but a sleepyhead topper is great.

I get this position, but also it's kind of crazy to me. A comforter seems so hard to wash and a duvet cover so easy. (I get that putting a duvet cover on is hard!). maybe college laundry has big giant machines?

Boys don't need a comforter or duvet.

Get them 2 fleece blankets and call it a day.

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Anonymous wrote:I had to buy when we got to college (a plane ride away) and then washed at the college during move in day - which DS thought was humiliating, but nobody noticed and the laundry room was me and 2 other moms doing the same thing. Anyway - that turned out to be a good idea because I could show DS how to use the laundry they had there. That, despite what other kids insisted, throwing a weeks worth of everything in the biggest machine and then into the biggest dryer was fine! And then use that same big machine for comforter if it dirty

do not recommend mom hanging around on move in day (and we're also a plane ride away for 2 kids). mom should definitely not be in the laundry room.

Not sure what you mean by hanging around. We were in at around 10am and then at the parents event at 1 and then left with everyone else. Laundry takes 45 minutes. Some of us had to buy sheets when we go there.

drop off stuff. picture if he's willing. leave.

NP you know colleges handle this different, right? Yale was a two-day affair!

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Anonymous wrote:don't send a boy to college with a duvet and cover. but a sleepyhead topper is great.

I get this position, but also it's kind of crazy to me. A comforter seems so hard to wash and a duvet cover so easy. (I get that putting a duvet cover on is hard!). maybe college laundry has big giant machines?

Boys don't need a comforter or duvet.

Get them 2 fleece blankets and call it a day.

why are two fleece blankets superior to a comforter?

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Anonymous wrote:I had to buy when we got to college (a plane ride away) and then washed at the college during move in day - which DS thought was humiliating, but nobody noticed and the laundry room was me and 2 other moms doing the same thing. Anyway - that turned out to be a good idea because I could show DS how to use the laundry they had there. That, despite what other kids insisted, throwing a weeks worth of everything in the biggest machine and then into the biggest dryer was fine! And then use that same big machine for comforter if it dirty

do not recommend mom hanging around on move in day (and we're also a plane ride away for 2 kids). mom should definitely not be in the laundry room.

Not sure what you mean by hanging around. We were in at around 10am and then at the parents event at 1 and then left with everyone else. Laundry takes 45 minutes. Some of us had to buy sheets when we go there.

drop off stuff. picture if he's willing. leave.

NP you know colleges handle this different, right? Yale was a two-day affair!

you hang out in the kid's room for 2 days?! wow, Yale, you've changed

[Anonymous]

I've had 4 kids go to college and live in the dorm (youngest is a college sophomore now.)

I won't sleep on microfiber sheets, so I didn't buy them for my kids either. Each kid, I bought the nicest quality cotton sheets I could find in twin XL.
Buying more than one set was a waste though. Each of them told me they just washed the sheets and then put them right back on, and the spare set stayed completely untouched from move in day.

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Anonymous wrote:I had to buy when we got to college (a plane ride away) and then washed at the college during move in day - which DS thought was humiliating, but nobody noticed and the laundry room was me and 2 other moms doing the same thing. Anyway - that turned out to be a good idea because I could show DS how to use the laundry they had there. That, despite what other kids insisted, throwing a weeks worth of everything in the biggest machine and then into the biggest dryer was fine! And then use that same big machine for comforter if it dirty

do not recommend mom hanging around on move in day (and we're also a plane ride away for 2 kids). mom should definitely not be in the laundry room.

Not sure what you mean by hanging around. We were in at around 10am and then at the parents event at 1 and then left with everyone else. Laundry takes 45 minutes. Some of us had to buy sheets when we go there.

drop off stuff. picture if he's willing. leave.

NP you know colleges handle this different, right? Yale was a two-day affair!

you hang out in the kid's room for 2 days?! wow, Yale, you've changed

nope, nobody is hanging out in their kids rooms for 2 days. there's programming on campus. even my kid's college - not yale - had some great parenting presentations. We were there for two days - not in and out in 30 minutes. I know some are. Lehigh is notorious for not wanting parents out of the car. I dont think that's *better* to be honest.

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Anonymous wrote:I've had 4 kids go to college and live in the dorm (youngest is a college sophomore now.)

I won't sleep on microfiber sheets, so I didn't buy them for my kids either. Each kid, I bought the nicest quality cotton sheets I could find in twin XL.
Buying more than one set was a waste though. Each of them told me they just washed the sheets and then put them right back on, and the spare set stayed completely untouched from move in day.

same for my boy. my girl with heavy periods wanted an emergency set for any accidents. moms can get judgmental about choices about *everything* and it's weird.

we also washed the sheets at the college and it was fine. lots of parents did that. if you're picking up from the local target, it's what you do. I was laughing at how many parents were showing their kids how to do laundry for maybe the first time!

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Anonymous wrote:I had to buy when we got to college (a plane ride away) and then washed at the college during move in day - which DS thought was humiliating, but nobody noticed and the laundry room was me and 2 other moms doing the same thing. Anyway - that turned out to be a good idea because I could show DS how to use the laundry they had there. That, despite what other kids insisted, throwing a weeks worth of everything in the biggest machine and then into the biggest dryer was fine! And then use that same big machine for comforter if it dirty

do not recommend mom hanging around on move in day (and we're also a plane ride away for 2 kids). mom should definitely not be in the laundry room.

Not sure what you mean by hanging around. We were in at around 10am and then at the parents event at 1 and then left with everyone else. Laundry takes 45 minutes. Some of us had to buy sheets when we go there.

drop off stuff. picture if he's willing. leave.

NP you know colleges handle this different, right? Yale was a two-day affair!

you hang out in the kid's room for 2 days?! wow, Yale, you've changed

nope, nobody is hanging out in their kids rooms for 2 days. there's programming on campus. even my kid's college - not yale - had some great parenting presentations. We were there for two days - not in and out in 30 minutes. I know some are. Lehigh is notorious for not wanting parents out of the car. I dont think that's *better* to be honest.

but hanging out in the dorm laundry room doing the kid's laundry? 👌

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Anonymous wrote:I had to buy when we got to college (a plane ride away) and then washed at the college during move in day - which DS thought was humiliating, but nobody noticed and the laundry room was me and 2 other moms doing the same thing. Anyway - that turned out to be a good idea because I could show DS how to use the laundry they had there. That, despite what other kids insisted, throwing a weeks worth of everything in the biggest machine and then into the biggest dryer was fine! And then use that same big machine for comforter if it dirty

do not recommend mom hanging around on move in day (and we're also a plane ride away for 2 kids). mom should definitely not be in the laundry room.

Not sure what you mean by hanging around. We were in at around 10am and then at the parents event at 1 and then left with everyone else. Laundry takes 45 minutes. Some of us had to buy sheets when we go there.

drop off stuff. picture if he's willing. leave.

NP you know colleges handle this different, right? Yale was a two-day affair!

you hang out in the kid's room for 2 days?! wow, Yale, you've changed

yep. two days. I guess you would be gone by 10:30AM on the 17th and judge others - you do you!

AUG 17
Move-in day
Events for families
AUG 18
Morning events for families
Suggested departure time for families (2:00 p.m.)
Afternoon and evening orientation events

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Anonymous wrote:I had to buy when we got to college (a plane ride away) and then washed at the college during move in day - which DS thought was humiliating, but nobody noticed and the laundry room was me and 2 other moms doing the same thing. Anyway - that turned out to be a good idea because I could show DS how to use the laundry they had there. That, despite what other kids insisted, throwing a weeks worth of everything in the biggest machine and then into the biggest dryer was fine! And then use that same big machine for comforter if it dirty

do not recommend mom hanging around on move in day (and we're also a plane ride away for 2 kids). mom should definitely not be in the laundry room.

Not sure what you mean by hanging around. We were in at around 10am and then at the parents event at 1 and then left with everyone else. Laundry takes 45 minutes. Some of us had to buy sheets when we go there.

drop off stuff. picture if he's willing. leave.

NP you know colleges handle this different, right? Yale was a two-day affair!

you hang out in the kid's room for 2 days?! wow, Yale, you've changed

nope, nobody is hanging out in their kids rooms for 2 days. there's programming on campus. even my kid's college - not yale - had some great parenting presentations. We were there for two days - not in and out in 30 minutes. I know some are. Lehigh is notorious for not wanting parents out of the car. I dont think that's *better* to be honest.

but hanging out in the dorm laundry room doing the kid's laundry? 👌

oh geez stop perseverating on this.
I've moved four kids into dorms. No one would have blinked at a mom in the laundry room in any of them.