WFH and appearance

[Anonymous]

Wash hair, comb, brush teeth, put on a nice blouse with shorts. Not hard

[Anonymous]

I run a consulting biz with some colleagues and we all dress professionally for all calls. I'm a woman and I do my hair and make up anytime there's a chance I will be on a Zoom call (we are fully remote). I haven't experienced what you're describing.

[Anonymous]

WFH slobs with dirty hair, no makeup or even moisturizer, horrible camera angles, baggy sweatshirts with bad backgrounds are soooo horrible for morale. Ew.

[Anonymous]

I'm 100% remote, and how I dress up depends on who else is on the call. If it's just an internal call with my team, I'm fine wearing a hoodie/t-shirt/something similar. If it's with a client or a higher up at my company, I'll wear something a little more presentable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wash hair, comb, brush teeth, put on a nice blouse with shorts. Not hard

So you want me to take a shower and wash my hair every morning? And you want me to own five blouses? I own zero blouses, and my hair looks best only being washed 2-3 times a week. Lastly, why would I wear your special work outfit at home, when nobody sees me? I rarely have meetings and when I do I'm just an audience member, not presenting or talking. Nobody needs to see me in those.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wash hair, comb, brush teeth, put on a nice blouse with shorts. Not hard

So you want me to take a shower and wash my hair every morning? And you want me to own five blouses? I own zero blouses, and my hair looks best only being washed 2-3 times a week. Lastly, why would I wear your special work outfit at home, when nobody sees me? I rarely have meetings and when I do I'm just an audience member, not presenting or talking. Nobody needs to see me in those.

Is it really such a burden to take a shower every day? You don’t own five presentable tops? You don’t have to wash your hair but do something with it. Why is looking nice such a challenge.

[Anonymous]

I have a white oxford button down next to my computer and I change into it whenever doing a 'professional' meetings. I don't usually change for internal-colleagues meetings, but always if I'm meeting with someone I don't know well.

I meet a fair number of CEOs of small/medium-ish enterprises (thousands of employees but not tens of thousands) and NONE of them are ever dressed up. Not baseball caps, but definitely sweatshirts. I think their meetings with me are always on their WFH days, which they consider very-casual days.

I'm also the less important person in the exchanges, so I'm fine looking a bit more professional than them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wash hair, comb, brush teeth, put on a nice blouse with shorts. Not hard

So you want me to take a shower and wash my hair every morning? And you want me to own five blouses? I own zero blouses, and my hair looks best only being washed 2-3 times a week. Lastly, why would I wear your special work outfit at home, when nobody sees me? I rarely have meetings and when I do I'm just an audience member, not presenting or talking. Nobody needs to see me in those.

A solid color shirt looks fine on zoom. I wear solid color v-neck tops all the time and they look professional on camera or in the office. It’s not that big of an ask to dress in a business casual manner during the workday.

[Anonymous]

I'm in tech so we've always been on the casual side of things. When we had an office, the only time we were ever required to dress up was when we had important clients visiting or investors. We're now 100% WFH and we never dress up.

My pet peeve is people on-cam with messy backgrounds. Like, piles of dirty laundry or unmade beds in the background. Or super stained, dirty carpets. Use a background filter!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wash hair, comb, brush teeth, put on a nice blouse with shorts. Not hard

So you want me to take a shower and wash my hair every morning? And you want me to own five blouses? I own zero blouses, and my hair looks best only being washed 2-3 times a week. Lastly, why would I wear your special work outfit at home, when nobody sees me? I rarely have meetings and when I do I'm just an audience member, not presenting or talking. Nobody needs to see me in those.

Yep, owning 5 nice shirts and showering regularly is a requirement for success in my book.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m with you, OP. It’s not hard to wear a real shirt and brush your hair.

Today a new junior colleague was in a Zoom meeting between people in our office and people in a different department, and he spent the whole meeting chomping away on his lunch. Nobody else was eating but him, and I just couldn’t get over the fact that even if he had the bad judgment to start eating during this meeting, he didn’t notice that nobody else was eating and then stop himself. People are clueless how they come across.

When I read that, it makes me think your junior colleague was working so much that he didn't have time to each lunch aside from that meeting.

That’s a reasonable thought. However, he’s new and has very little work so far. He’s also the only one who used one of those zany Zoom backgrounds. His office is right across from mine, so it’s not like he HAD to because he was WFH and didn’t want to show his bedroom or whatever. And he didn’t have to use a goofy background.

Now you're just being absurd. You have an issue with his zoom background? You sound obsessed with your younger colleague. Jealous much? Are you his boss? If not, MYOB and unclench.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wash hair, comb, brush teeth, put on a nice blouse with shorts. Not hard

So you want me to take a shower and wash my hair every morning? And you want me to own five blouses? I own zero blouses, and my hair looks best only being washed 2-3 times a week. Lastly, why would I wear your special work outfit at home, when nobody sees me? I rarely have meetings and when I do I'm just an audience member, not presenting or talking. Nobody needs to see me in those.

Is it really such a burden to take a shower every day? You don’t own five presentable tops? You don’t have to wash your hair but do something with it. Why is looking nice such a challenge.

I own five t-shirts. My hair is very difficult and generally barely looks presentable. I never look nice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wash hair, comb, brush teeth, put on a nice blouse with shorts. Not hard

So you want me to take a shower and wash my hair every morning? And you want me to own five blouses? I own zero blouses, and my hair looks best only being washed 2-3 times a week. Lastly, why would I wear your special work outfit at home, when nobody sees me? I rarely have meetings and when I do I'm just an audience member, not presenting or talking. Nobody needs to see me in those.

Is it really such a burden to take a shower every day? You don’t own five presentable tops? You don’t have to wash your hair but do something with it. Why is looking nice such a challenge.

I own five t-shirts. My hair is very difficult and generally barely looks presentable. I never look nice.

And I bet you smell worse!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Button down collar Brooks Brothers shirt. It's pretty simple.

Is Brooks Brothers still a thing?

Yes. Why wouldn’t it be?

If you're a fat white man, then sure.