Middle age married zero sex

[Anonymous]

Late forties. Just to be open about it.

I can envision a relationship with conflict and disagreements complemented with periods of torrid sex.

I am living that but without any sex. And there is no desire on the other part to correct it. I am a family person and don’t want a divorce for my kids.

So I was wondering what are my realistic options. A celibate life? For those of you that cheating is off the table, I would appreciate realistic responses.

[Anonymous]

You should ask them. My spouse and I are in a no sex phase of marriage for several reasons (relationship, life phase, pharma), and I would seriously consider granting a hall pass. I don’t think my partner wants one, but if they asked for one, I’d be very open to the conversation and not mad about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late forties. Just to be open about it.

I can envision a relationship with conflict and disagreements complemented with periods of torrid sex.

I am living that but without any sex. And there is no desire on the other part to correct it. I am a family person and don’t want a divorce for my kids.

So I was wondering what are my realistic options. A celibate life? For those of you that cheating is off the table, I would appreciate realistic responses.

Okay, so you and your wife are in open conflict, not having sex, and have no desire to fix it. You’re a family person who doesn’t care about creating a peaceful home life for your kids.
And you want to know if it’s also okay to cheat?

I don’t know, sure man. Do what you want. Don’t work on yourself or your marriage. Keep fighting with your wife. Have an affair.
Don’t say you are doing this for the kids though. That’s pretty twisted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:hahaha I did not see the cancer thing coming. Genuine lol.

Did not see it either.

Medical issues are when the “for better or worse, til death” kicks in. It is the ONE and only one time, when it’s excused not to have sex with the spouse you married.

You just have to tough it out, OP. And masturbate a whole lot, to keep your marriage intact.

Man here.

This. It’s temporary OP. She is either going to get better, recover, go in remission. Or she won’t and she will die. Either way, your sexless period will be temporary. Tough it out.

[Anonymous]

My stbx husband cheated on me in a similar circumstance. I had a an 8 month stretch which I was very very sick and out if commission, in the hospital for a large portion of that. He started an affair during that time and holy sh-t it has all but killed me. I, along with both of our families and all of our friends, have lost respect for him and have dumped him. Divorce will be final soon, affected our little kids for the rest of their lives. I hate him so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She has cancer. She needs to be on my health insurance, so we can’t get divorced. There is nothing to talk about in therapy. I will just sound like an a$$hole.

What happened to "in sickness and in health"?

I'm sorry. Things must be really tough for you and your wife. But, cheating on her when she is ill is definitely an ahole move. Get a sex doll or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her saying she doesn't want therapy does not equal a gag order against you saying, "I can't go without sex any longer."

You just say those words out loud. That's what you do.

Anything else means that you are willing to rob her of her autonomy. Two wrongs don't make a right.

You want OP to tell their cancer stricken wife that they need sex so they are going to cheat on them? Wow. If the chemo doesn't make them feel like sh*te this surely would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should ask them. My spouse and I are in a no sex phase of marriage for several reasons (relationship, life phase, pharma), and I would seriously consider granting a hall pass. I don’t think my partner wants one, but if they asked for one, I’d be very open to the conversation and not mad about it.

That one hall pass will turn into many. FYI

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use sex workers.

yeah that will always be controversial

[Anonymous]

No need to cheat. Open the marriage

[Anonymous]

Talk to your hands.