Teacher Signs emails with They / She what does this mean how should we and our child and we address her

[Anonymous]

What has she been calling her for the entirety of the school year? How could this be a February issue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you give an example of a sentence where you address someone in person using the third person pronoun?

"Ms. Smith, this is my mom. Mom, this is Ms. Smith. She's my history teacher."

“Mom, I’d like. You to meet my history teacher, Mrs. Smith.”

There’s always a way, at least when you are respectful, polite and creative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say Ms. Carlson.

“Good morning, Ms. Carlson.”
“Hi, Ms. Carson, I have a question.”

If you are talking about her, you can say Ms. Carlson.

“Ms. Carlson asked me to let you know we’re picking Billy up as a walker today.”

“She” is an option that Ms. Carlson lists as a pronoun, so you may say “she.” But you don’t really need to use pronouns when you can simply use someone’s name.

You inadvertently undermined your whole argument by using a pronoun. The whole reason our language has pronouns is because constantly using a proper name is awkward and tedious. So it’s not a great answer to breezily dismiss this question with “oh, don’t use pronouns. Who needs them, anyway?”

Referring to Ms. Carlson is not my quandary, it is OP’s. You seem confused by that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say Ms. Carlson.

“Good morning, Ms. Carlson.”
“Hi, Ms. Carson, I have a question.”

If you are talking about her, you can say Ms. Carlson.

“Ms. Carlson asked me to let you know we’re picking Billy up as a walker today.”

“She” is an option that Ms. Carlson lists as a pronoun, so you may say “she.” But you don’t really need to use pronouns when you can simply use someone’s name.

You inadvertently undermined your whole argument by using a pronoun. The whole reason our language has pronouns is because constantly using a proper name is awkward and tedious. So it’s not a great answer to breezily dismiss this question with “oh, don’t use pronouns. Who needs them, anyway?”

Ms. Carlson literally said it was fine to call her she. It’s a choice given. Are you OK?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say Ms. Carlson.

“Good morning, Ms. Carlson.”
“Hi, Ms. Carson, I have a question.”

If you are talking about her, you can say Ms. Carlson.

“Ms. Carlson asked me to let you know we’re picking Billy up as a walker today.”

“She” is an option that Ms. Carlson lists as a pronoun, so you may say “she.” But you don’t really need to use pronouns when you can simply use someone’s name.

You inadvertently undermined your whole argument by using a pronoun. The whole reason our language has pronouns is because constantly using a proper name is awkward and tedious. So it’s not a great answer to breezily dismiss this question with “oh, don’t use pronouns. Who needs them, anyway?”

Ms. Carlson literally said it was fine to call her she. It’s a choice given. Are you OK?

The problem with a choice is that people will worry they are making the “wrong” one and offend the person, even if the person is telling them that either is fine. Because it inherently doesn’t make sense that someone can have more than one gender identity at the same time. What if someone you know had “he/she” pronouns on their email? You’d wonder which one they actually preferred and whether you were using the right one that day. Because some people have made such a big deal about using the correct pronouns, now many of us are afraid we will be called out for being transphobic for saying the wrong thing.

[Anonymous]

Nobody realized the OP is a troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody realized the OP is a troll?

Be that as it may, I have worked with people who have this pronoun combination in their email signatures. It’s confusing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody realized the OP is a troll?

Oh, clearly this person is a troll: the story keeps changing. They don’t really need to know how to address this teacher, they just want to ridicule people who choose to use different pronouns.

[Anonymous]

Maybe ‘they’ is given as an option for people who don’t feel comfortable using a gender? I don’t know it’s a bit confusing I agree. I don’t think op is a troll it’s a new quarter could be a new elective/teacher.

[Anonymous]

What is so confusing about a person literally writing down what they want to be called? Can you not read? Did she write “she”? Yes? What is the confusion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It makes no sense. People that do this want attention. Give them none. Call her by her name.

This. I refuse to give oxygen to these narcissists. I will use their name only.