House Husband

[Anonymous]

OP is missing in action....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend keeps making jokes about becoming a house husband. he is not particularly ambitious at all. put has other redeeming qualities. I’m not sure how to know if his jokes have some truth to them, because there is no way I want a house husband.

He's not joking. He's feeling out the room.

If you marry him you will be supporting him AND doing all the chores around the house AND paying for childcare because this is a man who does not want to work. Then when you divorce him you'll be paying spousal support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just want to make sure everyone agrees if the sexes are reversed that the woman is also a lazy ass mooch that should be kicked to the curb yesterday.

We all agree?

Yup. But everyone knows sahws are lazy anyways. They just don’t want to admit it’s ok for them but not men 😆

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just want to make sure everyone agrees if the sexes are reversed that the woman is also a lazy ass mooch that should be kicked to the curb yesterday.

We all agree?

Yup. But everyone knows sahws are lazy anyways. They just don’t want to admit it’s ok for them but not men 😆

when men can have children, nurse, and go through the crazy hormone roller coaster for a year after giving birth, then I would agree.

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Anonymous wrote:Just want to make sure everyone agrees if the sexes are reversed that the woman is also a lazy ass mooch that should be kicked to the curb yesterday.

We all agree?

Yup. But everyone knows sahws are lazy anyways. They just don’t want to admit it’s ok for them but not men 😆

when men can have children, nurse, and go through the crazy hormone roller coaster for a year after giving birth, then I would agree.

SAHW is the equivalent to SAHH. Not a SAHM.

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Anonymous wrote:Just want to make sure everyone agrees if the sexes are reversed that the woman is also a lazy ass mooch that should be kicked to the curb yesterday.

We all agree?

Yup. But everyone knows sahws are lazy anyways. They just don’t want to admit it’s ok for them but not men 😆

when men can have children, nurse, and go through the crazy hormone roller coaster for a year after giving birth, then I would agree.

SAHW is the equivalent to SAHH. Not a SAHM.

PP here, then yes, I agree that a sahw with no kids is lazy. But, there are men who WANT their wives to not work. Trump is an example. He said he made the mistake of letting Ivana work. He wanted to come home from work and have his wife help him decompress, not talk shop.

So, while I agree that a wife who doesn't *want* to work is lazy, sometimes, it's the husbands who don't want their wives to work. You won't find the reverse, though. Hence, this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Just want to make sure everyone agrees if the sexes are reversed that the woman is also a lazy ass mooch that should be kicked to the curb yesterday.

We all agree?

Yup. But everyone knows sahws are lazy anyways. They just don’t want to admit it’s ok for them but not men 😆

when men can have children, nurse, and go through the crazy hormone roller coaster for a year after giving birth, then I would agree.

SAHW is the equivalent to SAHH. Not a SAHM.

PP here, then yes, I agree that a sahw with no kids is lazy. But, there are men who WANT their wives to not work. Trump is an example. He said he made the mistake of letting Ivana work. He wanted to come home from work and have his wife help him decompress, not talk shop.

So, while I agree that a wife who doesn't *want* to work is lazy, sometimes, it's the husbands who don't want their wives to work. You won't find the reverse, though. Hence, this thread.

You absolutely will at extreme levels of wealth so not sure why you injected this.

It’s a completely different world if you are Sheryl Sandberg (I think her husband was the main parent during the early FB years) worth $1BN+.

I don’t know the ins and outs of the Spanx founder’s marriage or other billionaires, but what’s the point of a spouse working (that is an involved parent) when it’s a 10,000x1 kind of income ratio.

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Anonymous wrote:Just want to make sure everyone agrees if the sexes are reversed that the woman is also a lazy ass mooch that should be kicked to the curb yesterday.

We all agree?

Yup. But everyone knows sahws are lazy anyways. They just don’t want to admit it’s ok for them but not men 😆

when men can have children, nurse, and go through the crazy hormone roller coaster for a year after giving birth, then I would agree.

SAHW is the equivalent to SAHH. Not a SAHM.

PP here, then yes, I agree that a sahw with no kids is lazy. But, there are men who WANT their wives to not work. Trump is an example. He said he made the mistake of letting Ivana work. He wanted to come home from work and have his wife help him decompress, not talk shop.

So, while I agree that a wife who doesn't *want* to work is lazy, sometimes, it's the husbands who don't want their wives to work. You won't find the reverse, though. Hence, this thread.

I know many, many more women who are looking for a man who wants to spend his life supporting her career and being at her beck and call than I know men who want to do this.

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Anonymous wrote:Just want to make sure everyone agrees if the sexes are reversed that the woman is also a lazy ass mooch that should be kicked to the curb yesterday.

We all agree?

Yup. But everyone knows sahws are lazy anyways. They just don’t want to admit it’s ok for them but not men 😆

when men can have children, nurse, and go through the crazy hormone roller coaster for a year after giving birth, then I would agree.

SAHW is the equivalent to SAHH. Not a SAHM.

PP here, then yes, I agree that a sahw with no kids is lazy. But, there are men who WANT their wives to not work. Trump is an example. He said he made the mistake of letting Ivana work. He wanted to come home from work and have his wife help him decompress, not talk shop.

So, while I agree that a wife who doesn't *want* to work is lazy, sometimes, it's the husbands who don't want their wives to work. You won't find the reverse, though. Hence, this thread.

I don’t think I’d take marriage advice from someone like trump lol.

[Anonymous]

I think you need to take a long look at a man who secretly hopes to become a house husband. Discuss the subject thoroughly, and make sure you're both on the same page.

My UMC friend and her DH both worked. They both had good jobs so they were UMC. He quit working and didn't bother looking for another job. By default he took care of their preschoolers. Then he filed for divorce after a few years, and he demanded alimony. The court system granted him alimony. She had to cut corners to make ends meet. She quit getting home insurance as her house was owned free and clear (it had been in her family for a long time). One day an electrical fire started and her house burned down. She lost all her material possessions. She lost her home.

Her ex screwed her over. I recount this as a cautionary tale.

[Anonymous]

My partner is a hard worker but not strategic in his career. I think his body will give out in middle age and he will flounder in low level jobs unless guided and prompted. He would make an excellent house husband, though I doubt his pride would really allow for it.

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Anonymous wrote:Just want to make sure everyone agrees if the sexes are reversed that the woman is also a lazy ass mooch that should be kicked to the curb yesterday.

We all agree?

Yup. But everyone knows sahws are lazy anyways. They just don’t want to admit it’s ok for them but not men 😆

when men can have children, nurse, and go through the crazy hormone roller coaster for a year after giving birth, then I would agree.

SAHW is the equivalent to SAHH. Not a SAHM.

PP here, then yes, I agree that a sahw with no kids is lazy. But, there are men who WANT their wives to not work. Trump is an example. He said he made the mistake of letting Ivana work. He wanted to come home from work and have his wife help him decompress, not talk shop.

So, while I agree that a wife who doesn't *want* to work is lazy, sometimes, it's the husbands who don't want their wives to work. You won't find the reverse, though. Hence, this thread.

I know many, many more women who are looking for a man who wants to spend his life supporting her career and being at her beck and call than I know men who want to do this.

While women say this, and some even mean it when they say it, if their husband is an actual house husband, focused on laundry, kids, cooking, and cleaning - they'll compare them to the men at work around them and begin to wish for a change in partners.

I suspect if the man was also accomplished in some way, a writer, an artist, ran a successful side business, then it might work.

[Anonymous]

OP here. We broke up. I could let take the chance that he might try to trap me. His house is a mess! He wouldn’t be a good helper.

[Anonymous]

I think the problem with a house husband is the men. The men still want beautiful wives who have time to not be stressed and fit. They will lose attraction to the hard working woman because they will be less focused on them and less focused on being fit and upbeat and the woman will lose attraction to laziness. In Stepford Wives the women were robots who doted on them. It's hard to imagine a scenario where these men were attracted to boss babes instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We broke up. I could let take the chance that he might try to trap me. His house is a mess! He wouldn’t be a good helper.

Smart move op! How did he take it? Did you tell him why you were breaking up?

How bad was his house? I need more details please! I'm vested because a situation like this happened to a good friend of mine. Her DH hasn't worked in 28 years!!!!