“it’s too sweet”

[Anonymous]

Most desserts are too sweet, but I would never comment on it to my host.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I know someone like this. She clearly has an unhealthy relationship with food but likes to draw attention to it. She will often also comment on portion sizes.

+1. It’s so transparently attention seeking.

yup it’s the attention seeking for me. They need you to know that they would NEVER let sugar touch their lips.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most desserts are too sweet, but I would never comment on it to my host.

I don’t understand. Most make at home desserts typically call for around a half a cup of sugar. That’s for a whole cake/pie. There is almost that much in some single sodas that are for one person. A cake/pie is supposed to be sweet. That’s kind of the point. Instead of these people saying “it’s too sweet” maybe they should say “I don’t like dessert”.

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Anonymous wrote:As I get older, I find a lot of things I used to enjoy now taste overly sweet to me—the opposite of what seems to happen for many. I’d never comment that something is straight up “too sweet” because that’s a subjective judgement, but I might offer it as a reason if someone asks why I’m not having something or finishing all of it. I do get really excited about wines or desserts that strike a balance on the less sweet side. It’s not a flex, just a matter of taste.

I’m noticing this too. I used to love Ben & Jerry’s but I find it really sweet these days. Don’t get me wrong I still eat it but not as much as I used to. I find Haagen Daz to be less sweet.

My MIL does this. I find I enjoy sweet foods less now than I did as a child. I tell my kids she isn’t morally superior because she doesn’t like sweet foods, it’s a sign of aging. Just like newborns like breast milk (which is very sweet). Newborns aren’t morally inferior, it’s just a reflection of where they are in the life cycle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most desserts are too sweet, but I would never comment on it to my host.

I don’t understand. Most make at home desserts typically call for around a half a cup of sugar. That’s for a whole cake/pie. There is almost that much in some single sodas that are for one person. A cake/pie is supposed to be sweet. That’s kind of the point. Instead of these people saying “it’s too sweet” maybe they should say “I don’t like dessert”.

My mom does it. “This is too sweet, isn’t this too sweet for you? It’s too sweet for me.” I respond—clearly you don’t like desserts, why are you eating it? And she always says “I just want to try it!” But then it’s the same line over and over.

I used to love milk chocolate, now it’s too sweet and I prefer dark. I don’t pop Hershey kisses and go on and on about them. 🙄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most desserts are too sweet, but I would never comment on it to my host.

I don’t understand. Most make at home desserts typically call for around a half a cup of sugar. That’s for a whole cake/pie. There is almost that much in some single sodas that are for one person. A cake/pie is supposed to be sweet. That’s kind of the point. Instead of these people saying “it’s too sweet” maybe they should say “I don’t like dessert”.

My mom does it. “This is too sweet, isn’t this too sweet for you? It’s too sweet for me.” I respond—clearly you don’t like desserts, why are you eating it? And she always says “I just want to try it!” But then it’s the same line over and over.

I used to love milk chocolate, now it’s too sweet and I prefer dark. I don’t pop Hershey kisses and go on and on about them. 🙄

I also think as we get older cheap/low quality sweets like Hersheys kisses and the like lose their appeal because they just don’t taste very good. There was a thread around halloween talking about how all the candy people remember loving just tasted gross. I find that too. And at least for me, if I’m spending calories on dessert I want it to be 100% worth it. So I’d rather have a small amount of rich delicious high quality cake/pie than 5 crappy hersheys kisses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I know someone like this. She clearly has an unhealthy relationship with food but likes to draw attention to it. She will often also comment on portion sizes.

+1. It’s so transparently attention seeking.

Like people who whine about things being too spicy for their princess pea baby tongues. Just a bunch of attention seekers and in no way could it be that their tongue and bodies dislike excessive sweetness.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it okay if I just don’t eat/drink it without saying that it’s because I prefer less sweet stuff? Because I really do prefer less sweet stuff.

Of course. It's just annoying to have a running commentary on food, especially if that commentary is negative about something most people enjoy as a treat.

BTW, I am not OP but I suspect OP is not talking about people who prefer dark chocolate or meringue buttercream. I suspect she's talking about people who make plain cranberry sauce with no sugar in it.

Mmm I love tart cranberry sauce with very little sugar in it. Tart tart tart!

I'm the PP who gave that example, and I like tart things too. Plain boiled cranberries with NO sugar is not a typical taste that most people like. It's fine if it's your taste - I also like some weird stuff - but it doesn't mean regular cranberry sauce is "too sweet" such that it needs to be commented on at length. (Also, if serving to guests, nod to convention and put some sugar in.)

Americans have a bad habit of assigning moral weight to food. IMO the commentary is about asserting they are not tempted to "sin" with sugar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most desserts are too sweet, but I would never comment on it to my host.

I don’t understand. Most make at home desserts typically call for around a half a cup of sugar. That’s for a whole cake/pie. There is almost that much in some single sodas that are for one person. A cake/pie is supposed to be sweet. That’s kind of the point. Instead of these people saying “it’s too sweet” maybe they should say “I don’t like dessert”.

Lol, can you imagine the pitchforks that would come out for anyone who claims to not like dessert?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it okay if I just don’t eat/drink it without saying that it’s because I prefer less sweet stuff? Because I really do prefer less sweet stuff.

Of course. It's just annoying to have a running commentary on food, especially if that commentary is negative about something most people enjoy as a treat.

BTW, I am not OP but I suspect OP is not talking about people who prefer dark chocolate or meringue buttercream. I suspect she's talking about people who make plain cranberry sauce with no sugar in it.

Mmm I love tart cranberry sauce with very little sugar in it. Tart tart tart!

I'm the PP who gave that example, and I like tart things too. Plain boiled cranberries with NO sugar is not a typical taste that most people like. It's fine if it's your taste - I also like some weird stuff - but it doesn't mean regular cranberry sauce is "too sweet" such that it needs to be commented on at length. (Also, if serving to guests, nod to convention and put some sugar in.)

Americans have a bad habit of assigning moral weight to food. IMO the commentary is about asserting they are not tempted to "sin" with sugar.

This just doesn't apply to many of us who dislike sugar overload as I've never been on a diet or count calories. As others have mentioned we don't mind the butter others might protest is too rich. It's a moral issue/eating disorder if you yourself likely have this disordered thinking so you assume others do. I'd never have thought someone saying "too sweet" is worried about calories. I'd assume they like to taste the food underneath all that sugar. The thread has been eye opening to what other families are like for you to form that judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I get older, I find a lot of things I used to enjoy now taste overly sweet to me—the opposite of what seems to happen for many. I’d never comment that something is straight up “too sweet” because that’s a subjective judgement, but I might offer it as a reason if someone asks why I’m not having something or finishing all of it. I do get really excited about wines or desserts that strike a balance on the less sweet side. It’s not a flex, just a matter of taste.

Same, I came here to say exactly this!

[Anonymous]

A couple of years ago, Trader joe’s started carrying the Japanese style cheesecake. People went crazy with how excited they were to try it. People going on and on about how it was perfect because it was so much less sweet. I tried it and it was…completely tasteless. Like eating air with just the slightest flavor of vanilla. It was still so caloric and all I could think was why would anyone actually enjoy eating this? it’s not even worth it.

Also as an aside, I only saw it that one year. Pretty sure it was a giant flop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A couple of years ago, Trader joe’s started carrying the Japanese style cheesecake. People went crazy with how excited they were to try it. People going on and on about how it was perfect because it was so much less sweet. I tried it and it was…completely tasteless. Like eating air with just the slightest flavor of vanilla. It was still so caloric and all I could think was why would anyone actually enjoy eating this? it’s not even worth it.

Also as an aside, I only saw it that one year. Pretty sure it was a giant flop.

You know what's really good at TJ's right now? The salted caramel pretzel bread pudding. It needs ice cream or whipped cream to cut the saltiness but it's so good.