Not exactly. I cannot access the money. Spouse never can. That is what you give up for making it irrevocable and getting it out of our estate. I can stay on as trustee and ours become the beneficiaries. So I still have control but no rights to the money. |
Opposite, more like an IR Trust protects in-place beneficiaries from future wives and future kids. The court process to change IRs is costly and time consuming. And might result in no change. |
It will become two individual IR Trusts - one from you, one from the kids- and go to the kids. Neither parent can touch it or change it. |
This should say *our kids* become the beneficiaries. But as I said before, this mostly works only if we stayed married. Then I am both trustee and beneficiary and I can get to the money and spouse can through me. Otherwise, he has cut off his access and only our kids can benefit. |
No. That is not correct. I am no longer beneficiary and our kids become primary beneficiaries. |
In the 9 community law states it will get split. In the requirable law states you can go to court to split it. Otherwise the spirit of it is to mainly go to the kids upon last survivor death so let it be. It’s not money either parent can use nor get to. |
| * equitable |
Correct. We are not in a community property state. Our estate lawyer was very clear as to how it would work. And made it very clear to husband that the whole thing kind of falls apart for him if we get divorced. |
What if you move to one and divorce? Does it matter what state the IR was set up when you divorce or what state you are divorcing in? |
I don’t think that is how it would work for community property states, either. The irrevocable trust is its own entity. DH has no part of it except he was the grantor. I have a life right but that terminates upon my death, and divorce is treated the same as a death. It shouldn’t be in our estate at all. That is the entire point of doing a SLAT. |
In other words, one spouse can't unilaterally put all their money earned during a marriage into an IR trust, then file for divorce and leave the other spouse with nothing. |
I know a woman who never worked and has very little access to money, and once their spouse dies, they get 50% of the state, but it's in a very restricted trust, and they are not the trustee. It's not a great marriage either. I always thought that if they saw a lawyer, they would learn that they could live a much better life if they just got a divorce now and got 50% of the marital assets unrestricted. |
| Or poison him to death. |