College really the best 4 years of your life?

[Anonymous]

I had fun in college, but the best time was after college in my 20’s.

[Anonymous]

If I had to choose 10 of my best years (so far) my college years would definitely be included.

[Anonymous]

Not for me. The lack of schedule was a bit disorienting. Was fine but far preferred my 30s w marriage and little kids

[Anonymous]

Also I do think it adds anxiety for kids to think this is supposed to be the best 4 years- an added pressure that something is wrong if they don’t feel that way

[Anonymous]

No, absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

I hated college and had a horrible time for too many reasons worth going in to, but did graduate in 4 years and got a job. So there's that. 100% guarantee my kids have had absolutely amazing times in school and have made friends for life. A big part of that is listening to what they wanted vs my parents shoehorning me into what they wanted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It was a good time, absolutely. I don’t know how you can call any point in your life the “best” time. There are a lot of good times, for different reasons.

The time most people spend in undergrad is unique because of the combination of new adult freedom and having very few actual responsibilities.

This was the case for me, but there were definitely growing pains along the way. DH and I really talked up college to our kid but his experience hasn’t been great and we regret selling it the way we did. Should’ve been more balanced in our approach.
Freedom and few responsibilities doesn’t always translate into a great experience.

DH and I actually did love our college years and our kids know that but we did try to tone down the excitement/expectations for our DD since everyone else was harping on these next four years being the best of her life. Even my mom, who didn’t even go to college, was saying it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:College was unbeatable. I was in a top-tier fraternity. There was an endless supply of fine women to date and hook up with. All my best friends were a short walk away -- sometimes just down the hall -- and always down to do fun stuff. My only responsibility was going to class 15 hours a week and crushing exams with the help of our extensive test bank. Parties every weekend. Football games. Tailgates. Did I mention the fine women? When else but college do you get to live like that? I feel sorry for anyone who doesn't get to have a college experience like mine.

Mine was the exact same experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:College was unbeatable. I was in a top-tier fraternity. There was an endless supply of fine women to date and hook up with. All my best friends were a short walk away -- sometimes just down the hall -- and always down to do fun stuff. My only responsibility was going to class 15 hours a week and crushing exams with the help of our extensive test bank. Parties every weekend. Football games. Tailgates. Did I mention the fine women? When else but college do you get to live like that? I feel sorry for anyone who doesn't get to have a college experience like mine.

This! Only as a woman. I stunningly got a bid from a top tier sorority. It was at a huge SEC school. It was a great group and I have very close friends from there 45 years later.

We had endless parties and dances with great looking guys. Home football weekends were the best.

My program was/ is one of the best in the country. It was hard work but I loved it. walked right out of college into a job offer at one of top 50 or so forms in the country.

I have had a good life since then, but nothing compares to that level of freedom and fun.

[Anonymous]

Eh. I learned a lot and grew to be quite confident and independent, but “fun” wasn’t the primary. I took a gap year (my family life was a mess, I had substance issues, and I was emotionally burnt out ), commuted to a local college for a few years, transferred and moved to a city I’d always wanted to live in. Had to work almost full time to afford it while also going to school. Had some individual friendships and had fun with coworkers, but I never had a group, or lived in a dorm, or attended a frat party or anything like that. Overall, I look back fondly and am very proud of myself for taking care of my mental health, set and
Achieved goals- and did it pretty much on my own. It was definitely lonely for quite a large chunk of it. Thank god there was no social media then. I would have felt like such a loser

[Anonymous]

I think it was. It is a combination of new freedoms and being in an environment with so many people close to your age(who are experiencing the same new freedoms). You will never be in an environment like that again. Specially when it comes to the opposite sex or same sex.

Once you graduate and start working the majority of people around you are older and in different stages of life. Your social circles greatly reduce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had fun in college, but the best time was after college in my 20’s.

This. Had fun in college, but I actually thought high school was better- no responsibilities, still living at home with great parents, in a fabulous house with home cooked meals, amazing close-knit friends who I'm still friends with many of them today. After college in my 20s and early 30s were the best by far though. Lots of traveling, having no responsibilities but to myself, living a great life with disposable income.

[Anonymous]

LOL no. every single year of my 20s was better than the very good years at college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:College was unbeatable. I was in a top-tier fraternity. There was an endless supply of fine women to date and hook up with. All my best friends were a short walk away -- sometimes just down the hall -- and always down to do fun stuff. My only responsibility was going to class 15 hours a week and crushing exams with the help of our extensive test bank. Parties every weekend. Football games. Tailgates. Did I mention the fine women? When else but college do you get to live like that? I feel sorry for anyone who doesn't get to have a college experience like mine.

This! Only as a woman. I stunningly got a bid from a top tier sorority. It was at a huge SEC school. It was a great group and I have very close friends from there 45 years later.

We had endless parties and dances with great looking guys. Home football weekends were the best.

My program was/ is one of the best in the country. It was hard work but I loved it. walked right out of college into a job offer at one of top 50 or so forms in the country.

I have had a good life since then, but nothing compares to that level of freedom and fun.

I don't really get this. Where do you people go in your young adult like? Football games were fun, but not as fun as traveling though Europe and Asia. Not as fun as first job with money and nights out every night.

People who peak in college are like the people who peak in HS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:College was unbeatable. I was in a top-tier fraternity. There was an endless supply of fine women to date and hook up with. All my best friends were a short walk away -- sometimes just down the hall -- and always down to do fun stuff. My only responsibility was going to class 15 hours a week and crushing exams with the help of our extensive test bank. Parties every weekend. Football games. Tailgates. Did I mention the fine women? When else but college do you get to live like that? I feel sorry for anyone who doesn't get to have a college experience like mine.

This! Only as a woman. I stunningly got a bid from a top tier sorority. It was at a huge SEC school. It was a great group and I have very close friends from there 45 years later.

We had endless parties and dances with great looking guys. Home football weekends were the best.

My program was/ is one of the best in the country. It was hard work but I loved it. walked right out of college into a job offer at one of top 50 or so forms in the country.

I have had a good life since then, but nothing compares to that level of freedom and fun.

I don't really get this. Where do you people go in your young adult like? Football games were fun, but not as fun as traveling though Europe and Asia. Not as fun as first job with money and nights out every night.

People who peak in college are like the people who peak in HS.

But the sorority was "top tier"