People with good spouses are just lucky or

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My combination of factors:

--I wasn't looking for marriage, but I fell for a good guy
--I had a terrible relationship in college and wanted the exact opposite (a drama-free person)
--I think over the years we both "grew up" together, so kind of matured in a similar way, rather than being two adults who have to really compromise or readjust to another person
--We both tend to give each other the benefit of the doubt and overlook the small stuff, and we give each other a lot of space

Almost the same for me! If you’re talking about time away for our own interests, we don’t give each other a lot of space, just because that’s not something we need. We tend to just gravitate toward each other and spend most of our free time with each other. But the key is really looking out for the others’ true needs and encouraging them to they be met.