Are parents supposed to be at every game? Freshman Athlete question

[Anonymous]

Who cares what other people, including your husband do? Go to as many games as you want, and he can either join or stay home

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Anonymous wrote:Rising freshman DD has made our local hs JV cheer team. DH feels parents do not attend every game. Me on the other hand, am under the belief that it requires family time commitment so we should be at all of the away and home games. DH believes it’s not the case and if at most, attend some of the home games. Now, I wonder if I’m unrealistically thinking about this.

Did you attend all of your child’s games? Both home and away?

I am confused…are you planning to go watch the JV football team play a game at which your DD on the JV cheer team will just be on the sidelines doing some cheers?

Is that the question? That seems a little nuts to me. I don’t even know what you are supporting…your daughter isn’t competing at that event.

Yes - cheer parents go to the home games when the girls are cheering. Sometimes to the away games. We hosted pre-game dinners, once or twice during the season. Attended all of the competitions. By basketball season it gets to be a bit much, but we made it to a couple of games. Agree with pp who said it’s fun to get to know the other families and the girls.

I guess if you want the adult socialization…but I don’t get why your kid cares if you are there or not. They aren’t competing at those games.

I mean…I doubt parents with kids in stage crew attend every performance vs the kids actually acting in the show.

Parent of a football player here. This doesn’t seem odd to me. The parents are watching their kids in an activity they enjoy. If any of my were in cheer, I would go to the games I could to see them. Plenty of cheer parents go. And yes, if my kids were in stage crew I would go to the performances to see their work. Just like the sports games, I wouldn’t be able to make everything but I would be supportive and go to what I could.

Parent of a theater kid…my kid would find it bizarre to attend many (and definitely all) theater performances where they are merely helping move stage furniture on-and-off the stage or changing backdrops. All the real work was done during rehearsals and in the workshop actually creating sets and props.

I don’t understand how attending multiple shows is supportive other than providing $$$s for the club which can easily be done by making a direct donation.

That shows you that I don’t know what stage crew is all about! We are saying the same thing though. Follow your kids lead and do what you can to support them. Go or don’t, depending on what the kid wants.

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Anonymous wrote:Rising freshman DD has made our local hs JV cheer team. DH feels parents do not attend every game. Me on the other hand, am under the belief that it requires family time commitment so we should be at all of the away and home games. DH believes it’s not the case and if at most, attend some of the home games. Now, I wonder if I’m unrealistically thinking about this.

Did you attend all of your child’s games? Both home and away?

I am confused…are you planning to go watch the JV football team play a game at which your DD on the JV cheer team will just be on the sidelines doing some cheers?

Is that the question? That seems a little nuts to me. I don’t even know what you are supporting…your daughter isn’t competing at that event.

Yes - cheer parents go to the home games when the girls are cheering. Sometimes to the away games. We hosted pre-game dinners, once or twice during the season. Attended all of the competitions. By basketball season it gets to be a bit much, but we made it to a couple of games. Agree with pp who said it’s fun to get to know the other families and the girls.

I guess if you want the adult socialization…but I don’t get why your kid cares if you are there or not. They aren’t competing at those games.

I mean…I doubt parents with kids in stage crew attend every performance vs the kids actually acting in the show.

It’s not that complicated. You support your kids by showing up to their events. If you cannot show up to every game/show/competition/etc you go to as many as you can. You show that you are interested in what they are doing because you care about them.
For the parents on here that pushing back and questioning attending games where your daughter is sideline cheering - if you really don’t want to go just don’t go. The rest of us are not “wrong” for attending. Seriously this is not rocket science, it’s parenting.

Because there isn’t anything to support…that’s why it’s weird. You are claiming it’s fine if you don’t want to go, but you started your whole thread with some weird superior attitude about how you should go to as many as you can.

I guess parents of actual kids competing just can’t relate to showing up to every random game where your kid isn’t competing…they are just official team fans.

They're not competing but they are performing, the same as someone with a concert or play. Competition isn't the only time it's worth supporting your kids.

[Anonymous]

Marching band mom. I do like going to watch my kids at the home games, but I only ventured out to one of the far away competitions.

But it’s up to you and your family.

[Anonymous]

One or both of us went to all games, even for the DD that was a cheerleader. We are both sports people in general so enjoyed going to their games. Most kids had a parent at most games. Our kids played team sports so I can’t speak for any of the track and field or cross country meets.

[Anonymous]

My ds is in athletics.

I go to the major ones towards the end of the season.
And if its nearby sometimes I go to those if I am not at work.

[Anonymous]

I go to everything I can. DH goes to a lot but not absolutely everything he can. But there is always at least one of us at everything.

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Holy sh it we go

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I go to everything that I can for DS. He does one sport though that is very difficult to spectate and also makes me the most nervous. For that I am in the general area, but not watching.

[Anonymous]

We have attended every home and away game- and gone to districts, regionals and states. Why wouldn’t you go?

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Anonymous wrote:We have attended every home and away game- and gone to districts, regionals and states. Why wouldn’t you go?

Really, you can’t imagine work schedules that can’t accommodate this, especially with multiple kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Rising freshman DD has made our local hs JV cheer team. DH feels parents do not attend every game. Me on the other hand, am under the belief that it requires family time commitment so we should be at all of the away and home games. DH believes it’s not the case and if at most, attend some of the home games. Now, I wonder if I’m unrealistically thinking about this.

Did you attend all of your child’s games? Both home and away?

I am confused…are you planning to go watch the JV football team play a game at which your DD on the JV cheer team will just be on the sidelines doing some cheers?

Is that the question? That seems a little nuts to me. I don’t even know what you are supporting…your daughter isn’t competing at that event.

Op here. Yes, this would be for the games she is cheering at. She’s a flyer and the team does stunting at the games.

[Anonymous]

Both parents have gone to every game

[Anonymous]

Easy / you go to having you can go too.

Part of the fun is learning the stuff yourself. Never had a cheer kid. Only daughter was a soccer kid. But, had two who marched. We enjoyed going to the games and the competitions. Sure we had to split up when kids were doing other things. That’s fine.

One suggestion - kids do very much want to grab a ride home with you after away games. Make certain you know and follow any applicable rules. Usually the coach has to have written notice in advance (as in a couple days but check) and you can only take your own kid. “But, Sally’s mom called and said …” does not work.

Where you can back off if you want is with younger kids - freshmen and jv - they may be “expected” to attend the varsity game. Go if you want. Do figure out a good post game pick up spot. Do spend a lot - and I mean a lot - of time talking about parking lot safety. Full lots, at night, after game, many young drivers - that is a recipe for trouble. We often went with picking up “in front” of the schools. You won’t be the only one. But, think about safely avoiding crowded post game parking lots.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are grown but I went to every game they ever had, little league, soccer, softball, babe ruth baseball, rec basketball, HS football. I don't recall ever missing a game but if I did I guarantee my H or my mom was there because they went to most games too, well not always my mom. She had seven grandchildren, that would have been a bit much.

I went because I love most sports, I love my kids, and I loved watching them and their teams play. Neither of my kids ever said they didn't want a parent to come, that would have been too strange to even contemplate. I played some adult sports and they came to a whole lot of my games too.

+1000 where else would you rather be? I understand if you can't but if you can why would you not? I wish my kids would tell me not to come to a game....child please