Am I obligated to read my husbands new book?

[Anonymous]

This goes to show that women don’t care about what you do as a guy, as long ask ey rolls in.

I used to talk to my ex about work and she basically didn’t care. So I stopped talking to her about it. Then she got mad.. I’m like when is at something about my job…the one that provides money for our lives you reach for your phone….

In any case, if you’re a guy and you have a passion or something just know the woman you’re dating or married to doesn’t care. They only care if it takes money away from what they want to do otherwise they give zero f**ks.

It took me a marriage and two LTRs to learn this. Now I just talk to my friends about that stuff

[Anonymous]

Good grief. Assuming you have normal reading skills it takes an afternoon to flip thru the book. Maybe you will like it, maybe not. If he wants feedback, find some good things and some suggestions for change,

My husband writes economics books. I read the drafts and comment. He uses my comments and edits. The final book I skim because I saw the ms.

Have you worked hard on something you are proud of and nobody wants to know or care? That's hurtful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This goes to show that women don’t care about what you do as a guy, as long ask ey rolls in.

I used to talk to my ex about work and she basically didn’t care. So I stopped talking to her about it. Then she got mad.. I’m like when is at something about my job…the one that provides money for our lives you reach for your phone….

In any case, if you’re a guy and you have a passion or something just know the woman you’re dating or married to doesn’t care. They only care if it takes money away from what they want to do otherwise they give zero f**ks.

It took me a marriage and two LTRs to learn this. Now I just talk to my friends about that stuff

Sounds like you are a loser who can't attract a good person. No doubt your misogyny is a part of that. Can't complain too much, though. Maybe if you were better you would have got my DW before I found her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has been working on his first novel. He is mad at me and says I cannot buy another book until I read the draft of his novel. I have tried to read it before and find it boring! I don’t know how I’ll get through 200 pages of it!!

What a unique problem!

wtf? Ofc you read it. It’s. YOUR HUSBAND.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one should ever ask someone to read their unpublished novel - or even published novel - if the other person doesn't want to read it. Your husband is really showing poor form demanding you do it.

Is he really going to feel better if you read it and tell him it's boring?! And at this point, he knows you're not interested - does he need you lying to say you think it's great?

Maybe you can ask him to read you his favorite parts aloud - and also suggest he join a writing group where people share and critique each other's work.

As an author of fiction in a loving relationship with a man who only reads serious history, economic or political books. He reads anything I ask him to read. He spends hours as needed discussing plot issues, brainstorming ideas. Whatever I need he is there to help. Similarly, I discuss and read about any topic he is interested in. We used to take long walks and he would talk through business issues. I know more about business than most who have never taken a business class.

It is threads and posts like this that make me understand why there are so many terrible marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This goes to show that women don’t care about what you do as a guy, as long ask ey rolls in.

I used to talk to my ex about work and she basically didn’t care. So I stopped talking to her about it. Then she got mad.. I’m like when is at something about my job…the one that provides money for our lives you reach for your phone….

In any case, if you’re a guy and you have a passion or something just know the woman you’re dating or married to doesn’t care. They only care if it takes money away from what they want to do otherwise they give zero f**ks.

It took me a marriage and two LTRs to learn this. Now I just talk to my friends about that stuff

Sounds like you are a loser who can't attract a good person. No doubt your misogyny is a part of that. Can't complain too much, though. Maybe if you were better you would have got my DW before I found her.

DP he’s right though women DNGAF about your intellectual interests, you have to talk to your male friends about the Roman Empire or whatever.

[Anonymous]

My DH wrote 350 pages. Consider yourself lucky!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This goes to show that women don’t care about what you do as a guy, as long ask ey rolls in.

I used to talk to my ex about work and she basically didn’t care. So I stopped talking to her about it. Then she got mad.. I’m like when is at something about my job…the one that provides money for our lives you reach for your phone….

In any case, if you’re a guy and you have a passion or something just know the woman you’re dating or married to doesn’t care. They only care if it takes money away from what they want to do otherwise they give zero f**ks.

It took me a marriage and two LTRs to learn this. Now I just talk to my friends about that stuff

Sounds like you are a loser who can't attract a good person. No doubt your misogyny is a part of that. Can't complain too much, though. Maybe if you were better you would have got my DW before I found her.

Chances are you’re not married and if you are it’s not going to last.

Women DNGAF about your interests or your job. Unless it directly impacts them they couldn’t care one iota.

You sound like this male feminists that claim to be feminists to get a scrap of attention. Really sad…but your life you live it like you want bro.

[Anonymous]

My husband has never read any of the book I published (but it was an academic book).

[Anonymous]

I didn’t attempt to read my husband’s technical book on quantum physics (and he dedicated it to me) but if he’d asked I would have done my best to try!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one should ever ask someone to read their unpublished novel - or even published novel - if the other person doesn't want to read it. Your husband is really showing poor form demanding you do it.

Is he really going to feel better if you read it and tell him it's boring?! And at this point, he knows you're not interested - does he need you lying to say you think it's great?

Maybe you can ask him to read you his favorite parts aloud - and also suggest he join a writing group where people share and critique each other's work.

As an author of fiction in a loving relationship with a man who only reads serious history, economic or political books. He reads anything I ask him to read. He spends hours as needed discussing plot issues, brainstorming ideas. Whatever I need he is there to help. Similarly, I discuss and read about any topic he is interested in. We used to take long walks and he would talk through business issues. I know more about business than most who have never taken a business class.

It is threads and posts like this that make me understand why there are so many terrible marriages.

I am the PP and I have a good marriage. In part because we know when to give each other some space and grace.

That said my husband did used to brainstorm with me on fiction - but then in my second book, the stuff my husband suggested was what readers hated the most. He's no longer someone I bounce fiction ideas off of. It's just not his thing! That's why I say: if it's not OP's thing, her husband should find another beta reader. OP can support her husband by encouraging him, giving him the time and space to sit and write, talking to him when he wants it. But if she's just not interested in what he's writing - because he's a bad writer or she's a bad reader, or whatever - then she should not be the one reading his drafts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t attempt to read my husband’s technical book on quantum physics (and he dedicated it to me) but if he’d asked I would have done my best to try!

Same. My husband's is on a very specific area of philosophy and constantly refers to, and assumes knowledge of, people I have never heard of. at the same time, I'm very proud of him and he is one of the top experts in the world in this niche area, he has tenure, a prestigious chair, has taught at Oxford/Cambridge/Harvard etc.

I always read the blurbs to make sure they are clear to a "normal person" not trained in philosophy for him, though, which he says is valuable!

[Anonymous]

wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:poor attempt at trolling

I am almost 💯% this post is not true!

[Anonymous]

That said my husband did used to brainstorm with me on fiction - but then in my second book, the stuff my husband suggested was what readers hated the most.

My guess would be his suggestions made the book more appealing to men and that’s why your mostly female readers hated them.

Or you had the Yelp problem where only people who wanted to complain left a review while the satisfied customers said nothing.