Online dating after 50 for women - worth it?

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Anonymous wrote:DW and I met online dating and married less than two years later. Both empty nesters enjoying life immensely.

What was your secret to success in finding each other?

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Anonymous wrote:It seems nothing pisses women off more than a short man winning at the game. LOL.

Ladies- if you are 50+, take what you can get. Accept it.

seriously? no, its another man bragging that he’s just ‘banging’ chicks ‘with baggage’ left and right that upsets us. Another man who thinks he’s entitled to objectify and mistreat women to get his rocks off. it just reminds us how slim the pickings actually are if we hope to find a decent human.

You do realize it took all of a few minutes for multiple women to jump in with 'too short to be on my radar' and 'short man syndrome' etc, right? That's women objectifying, sweetie.

And yeah, if you are a woman and single at 50, the pickings are slim af, because that isn't what men want. Go get mad at mother nature I guess.

Don't call women you don't know and have a relationship with "sweetie." It's slimy and patronizing. And makes a complete sexist dick.

STFU, lady.

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Anonymous wrote:51 yo male here. 5 ft 7, excellent shape, 155k a year and I have my pick of the litter. Mostly I'm banging late 30s and early 40s women with a lot of baggage. Its all I need. The idea of doing this with a 55 yo woman grosses me out.

5 ft 7 grosses me out, but go awwfffffffff!!

Yeah, the last time I dated someone 5'7, I was a 5'3 14yo, lol. By the time I was 15, I was 5'7. Average height for men in the US is 5'9. So pp is below average...in many ways.

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Anonymous wrote:51 yo male here. 5 ft 7, excellent shape, 155k a year and I have my pick of the litter. Mostly I'm banging late 30s and early 40s women with a lot of baggage. Its all I need. The idea of doing this with a 55 yo woman grosses me out.

5 ft 7 grosses me out, but go awwfffffffff!!

Yeah, the last time I dated someone 5'7, I was a 5'3 14yo, lol. By the time I was 15, I was 5'7. Average height for men in the US is 5'9. So pp is below average...in many ways.

It's hilarious how butt hurt women were earlier this thread by the reality that no one wants to match with fatties on the dating apps only to take out their frustration by piling on the short guy.

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Anonymous wrote:51 yo male here. 5 ft 7, excellent shape, 155k a year and I have my pick of the litter. Mostly I'm banging late 30s and early 40s women with a lot of baggage. Its all I need. The idea of doing this with a 55 yo woman grosses me out.

5 ft 7 grosses me out, but go awwfffffffff!!

Yeah, the last time I dated someone 5'7, I was a 5'3 14yo, lol. By the time I was 15, I was 5'7. Average height for men in the US is 5'9. So pp is below average...in many ways.

It's hilarious how butt hurt women were earlier this thread by the reality that no one wants to match with fatties on the dating apps only to take out their frustration by piling on the short guy.

Well I took offense earlier but did not comment on men’s height. So not necessarily the same people.

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Anonymous wrote:OP I have some friends who have dated in their 50s with meh to very good results, so I think there is some hope but I wouldn’t stake my happiness on it.

This is such a great time of life to explore yourself, and all the things that interest you. If you meet someone via a shared experiential interest like hiking or kayaking or birding or ballroom dancing etc., that would be a very nice bonus but in the meantime you’re doing an activity that you love which leaves you feeling good either way.

Also if you haven’t got one already, get a dog.

It is obvious that you are married and have been for a very long time. OP should definitely pursue her interests, but the chances of meeting someone during them is nil. Ask me how I know.

I met the man I am getting married to on Hinge in my fifties so finding love can happen. But it is a numbers game. Being in shape (and yes I am talking 50's shape, not 23 year old shape) is a huge bonus. Being open to people that you would otherwise not go out with can open some good options.

And go into with an open mind, a little skepticism (there is far less trolling in this age bracket, but still) and a stiff upper lip. I met some amazing men during my years of OLD and still remain friends with many.

Best of luck!

51f dp, but also married. I go to hikes through meet up and there are many 40's-60's single guys. I have been flirted with and was also asked out by a man my age. I don't wear a ring, so I guess he assumed I was single. I agree with the advice to persue your hobbies in person through groups. God forbid my dh dies, I'm certain I could find another partner without subjecting myself to online dating.

I say this kindly, but you have no idea what you are talking about. But hopefully you will not have to find out.

[Anonymous]

I met my husband online when I was 60 years old. I watched to see how much the guys prioritized me. I married the guy who drove 4 hours every weekend for a year to see me.

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Anonymous wrote:I met my husband online when I was 60 years old. I watched to see how much the guys prioritized me. I married the guy who drove 4 hours every weekend for a year to see me.

lol I'm not doing that sh*t.

Stupid apps keep showing me people in Howard County and Annapolis even though I live in Virginia, and I just know that isn't going to work.

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Yeah you sound like someone I’d drive four hours in the other direction to avoid.

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I’m 51 and not particularly attractive. Not hideous, but I’m realistically a 5. I cannot see how OLD would result in me feeling anything but awful about myself. After a humiliating divorce, I’d rather go the cat lady route.

I’m in awe of folks who can put themselves out there. I used to laugh with my XH that I was so glad we met before the big rise in OLD. Little did I know he was on all the apps, shopping around for a replacement.

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Anonymous wrote:I met my husband online when I was 60 years old. I watched to see how much the guys prioritized me. I married the guy who drove 4 hours every weekend for a year to see me.

lol I'm not doing that sh*t.

Stupid apps keep showing me people in Howard County and Annapolis even though I live in Virginia, and I just know that isn't going to work.

Not saying you have to, but you are limiting yourself. I mentioned earlier that I am getting married to someone I met on Hinge. He was in MD and I in VA, but we gave it a shot and it worked.

Requiring a very narrow window means you need to be far less picky about personality traits. Something has to give. Unless you don't want to meet someone for a LTR, and that is ok too.