Only you can answer this question. If you say yes, know you'll have to earn your dream yourself or in few years you'll be cursing him and his "lack of ambition". |
Either you can work for the fancy lifestyle you want or stay home for the traditional lifestyle you want. You can't have both AND have this guy. You need to decide what matters more, you can't have your cake and eat it too. |
Women want it all, lifestyle + hunky guy + ideal marriage. |
Truth. Take the fun, funny and nice guy over the a-hole that lives to work. Signed, BTDT |
Modern men also want that, lovely and caring wives who are high earners and fun. |
Then he isn't your perfect ideal man. He is as close to you get to your ideal man. Its up to you to take it or gamble for one who has all required qualities. |
If op is making $180k now, she and the bf will make $260k as dinks and can surely bank enough cash for her to stay home for a bit if they have kids. This whole conversation makes me sad. It’s not like good guys are a dime a dozen. A nice guy whose company you enjoy who makes a professional salary, even if it’s not a super-high one, just doesn’t come along every day. |
Here's the thing: OP is stuck - if she marries BF, she will resent him for the rest of her life becacuse he doens't make enough. If she dumps him and marries someone making $400K and lives a life of material wealth, for the rest of her life, she'll pine for her one true love.
Given that OP is so materialistic, she screwed herself over by falling in love. |
Op, how do you typically signal your tradwife interests? Why didn’t he pick up on them? |
He’s less than 10 years into a career. How can you be so sure of this? |
GMAFB. 30 is young. |
What does he do that he’ll never make more than 80k? |
Is this the obnoxious CRNA OP who can never find someone to check all her boxes? |
This is not your ideal man. Move on. I think you're sad, OP and I'm curious why at nearly 30 you think you have a chance to land the high earning provider guy of your dreams. If you have met him and started dating by 30 your chances are very low. Those provider types want younger baby makers. |
There’s a huge gulf between wanting to be home with your kids during their 0-5 years, and being a tradwife. |