What neighborhoods/school districts are the worst when it comes to high pressure helicopter parenting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We live in McLean and I don’t think anyone cares what others do. Lots of kids walk to school depending on where you live. Lots of kids go to private school. My kids don’t even get homework in elementary school.

They don't give homework at all in elementary school? Is this common for public elementary schools now?

Yes, fairly normal. Not a good trend in my opinion. Some practice for academics is useful, especially math and handwriting.

Handwriting? On the ranked list of educational priorities, handwriting is at the bottom.

Your information is old: https://www.cbsnews.com/sacramento/news/california-writes-cursive-back-into-elementary-school-curriculum/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can only speak to Northern Virginia.

I think the parents most like this end up in FCPS because of the AAP option.

We are in Arlington and it's not like what you describe at all. Arlington is a big place though. I guess it could be like that some places. We are in Westover area. Most of the kids walk to and from school and they walk alone and no one thinks twice. It's very un helicoptery. I think that's why people choose to live where we do actually.

I have never done my kids homework and it's never once crossed my mind to do it for them. I don't call the teachers about much of anything really let alone a grade. No one I know does these things.

Yes, if you end up in Fairfax, avoid the AAP center schools if you want to stay away from the competitiveness.

Not all center schools are like this. We're in the Burke/Springfield/Annandale/Fairfax area and our center isn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to a "W school" middle for one year and it was a miserable experience (Robert Frost feeding to Wooton). I moved there from an easygoing but good California school district. And this was before the "W school" phenomenon really took off.

Some things I learned in one year that impacted me for life:

-Learning about the Johns Hopkins Gifted & Talented Search/program. (I got an award for a high SAT verbal score as a 7th grader.) This national program still exists but after we left Maryland, I've never been in a district that promotes it.

-Falling behind in math because MCPS was ahead on pushing their "gifted kids". Had to drop back a grade in math which resulted in me not getting to calculus in high school. Which by DCUM standards, makes me a dumb kid, never minding the verbal SAT score. There were no AoPS, RSM, Mathnasium, or Kumon then. At that time, you either got it or you didn't. In today's MCPS, my parents undoubtedly would have gotten me tutoring to keep up.

-The importance of branded clothes. And living in Potomac. I went from a nobody cares region of the US straight into a land of Jordache, Calvin Klein, Nike, Adidas worship. Also there was a lot of explicit info communicated about how cool/important it was to live in Potomac. At the time, my house was considered to be in Gaithersburg. Today's real estate business has upgraded my old neighborhood to North Potomac. So that's still a thing.

-Nasty, status-conscious people are a drag to be around. I got menaced by a group of girls I barely knew in an outdoor gym class one day. The ringleader was an affluent girl I barely knew. (We were all white, and mostly DCUM MC, with a sprinkle of Potomac DCUM UMC then.) She and her friends singled me out and started saying offensive things to me. I called one of them a bad name because they wouldn't leave me alone and she punched me in the jaw, hard. Two of them got suspended. It's the only violence I was ever subjected to in school - and ironically we were all white kids who were in a "safe" and "good" school.

So basically my 1.25 years in MCPS, gave me a grounding in SAT score snobbery, competition based on accelerated math training, real estate location importance, focus on status goods, and exposure to "Mean Girls". Quite a lot of indoctrination for such a short period of time.

I was really happy to leave that "W" middle when my dad found a job in PA after about a year. (He also had culture shock moving from CA to MD.)

I later worked in DC after college for 7 years, but when the time came to raise a family, I decided to GTFO. Too expensive, too much of a ratrace. I lived in a different "W school" neighborhood during that entire post-college time. (Walter Johnson).

OP- It's smart to think about where you want to live now, based on social characteristics, but honestly a lot of people reposition at some point K-12 anyway. I do think that perhaps I could have stretched my real estate budget to be house poor for awhile in the DMV or even where I live now. But still the "W school" approach to life is still too much for me. There was even a book about stressed-out Whitman kids a few years back.

I wouldn't recommend buying a house just hoping to find others who shared my philosophies. Outlier families tend to check out - disappear from PTA, etc. From what I read on this board now, I'm not sure where I'd head - maybe look inbounds for Richard Montgomery IB? Maybe Kensington? Maybe the unprestigious hinterlands past "North Potomac"? DC was too dangerous in the affordable areas when I lived there. I might have considered being a gentrifier back in the day.

Good for you to be thinking carefully about this now. I hope you find what you want for you and your family. I have, just in flyover country. Where I live now is a lot like old Bethesda before the high-rise/corporate office feel took over downtown.

haha.. I'm originally from CA. There are pressure cooker schools there, too.

We actually live in the Richard Montgomery cluster now. One DC went to RMIB magnet, but they didn't feel any "pressure". Just a lot of work. My other DC is not in the IB magnet program but is taking AP classes.

Having stated that, I do think this entire area is full of high achievers, and it does typically follow income and education level. Of course, there are pockets of areas that don't care that much about T50 college, but those areas are probably not in the UMC/wealthy areas.

My spouse and I joke that we should've moved to the middle of KS or something to avoid such a large high achieving peer group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a "W school" middle for one year and it was a miserable experience (Robert Frost feeding to Wooton). I moved there from an easygoing but good California school district. And this was before the "W school" phenomenon really took off.

Some things I learned in one year that impacted me for life:

-Learning about the Johns Hopkins Gifted & Talented Search/program. (I got an award for a high SAT verbal score as a 7th grader.) This national program still exists but after we left Maryland, I've never been in a district that promotes it.

-Falling behind in math because MCPS was ahead on pushing their "gifted kids". Had to drop back a grade in math which resulted in me not getting to calculus in high school. Which by DCUM standards, makes me a dumb kid, never minding the verbal SAT score. There were no AoPS, RSM, Mathnasium, or Kumon then. At that time, you either got it or you didn't. In today's MCPS, my parents undoubtedly would have gotten me tutoring to keep up.

-The importance of branded clothes. And living in Potomac. I went from a nobody cares region of the US straight into a land of Jordache, Calvin Klein, Nike, Adidas worship. Also there was a lot of explicit info communicated about how cool/important it was to live in Potomac. At the time, my house was considered to be in Gaithersburg. Today's real estate business has upgraded my old neighborhood to North Potomac. So that's still a thing.

-Nasty, status-conscious people are a drag to be around. I got menaced by a group of girls I barely knew in an outdoor gym class one day. The ringleader was an affluent girl I barely knew. (We were all white, and mostly DCUM MC, with a sprinkle of Potomac DCUM UMC then.) She and her friends singled me out and started saying offensive things to me. I called one of them a bad name because they wouldn't leave me alone and she punched me in the jaw, hard. Two of them got suspended. It's the only violence I was ever subjected to in school - and ironically we were all white kids who were in a "safe" and "good" school.

So basically my 1.25 years in MCPS, gave me a grounding in SAT score snobbery, competition based on accelerated math training, real estate location importance, focus on status goods, and exposure to "Mean Girls". Quite a lot of indoctrination for such a short period of time.

I was really happy to leave that "W" middle when my dad found a job in PA after about a year. (He also had culture shock moving from CA to MD.)

I later worked in DC after college for 7 years, but when the time came to raise a family, I decided to GTFO. Too expensive, too much of a ratrace. I lived in a different "W school" neighborhood during that entire post-college time. (Walter Johnson).

OP- It's smart to think about where you want to live now, based on social characteristics, but honestly a lot of people reposition at some point K-12 anyway. I do think that perhaps I could have stretched my real estate budget to be house poor for awhile in the DMV or even where I live now. But still the "W school" approach to life is still too much for me. There was even a book about stressed-out Whitman kids a few years back.

I wouldn't recommend buying a house just hoping to find others who shared my philosophies. Outlier families tend to check out - disappear from PTA, etc. From what I read on this board now, I'm not sure where I'd head - maybe look inbounds for Richard Montgomery IB? Maybe Kensington? Maybe the unprestigious hinterlands past "North Potomac"? DC was too dangerous in the affordable areas when I lived there. I might have considered being a gentrifier back in the day.

Good for you to be thinking carefully about this now. I hope you find what you want for you and your family. I have, just in flyover country. Where I live now is a lot like old Bethesda before the high-rise/corporate office feel took over downtown.

haha.. I'm originally from CA. There are pressure cooker schools there, too.

We actually live in the Richard Montgomery cluster now. One DC went to RMIB magnet, but they didn't feel any "pressure". Just a lot of work. My other DC is not in the IB magnet program but is taking AP classes.

Having stated that, I do think this entire area is full of high achievers, and it does typically follow income and education level. Of course, there are pockets of areas that don't care that much about T50 college, but those areas are probably not in the UMC/wealthy areas.

My spouse and I joke that we should've moved to the middle of KS or something to avoid such a large high achieving peer group.

Would have had to stay away from the parts of Kansas that are richer and more high achieving than many DC suburbs then. Believe it or not the midwest isn't just flyover country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can only speak to Northern Virginia.

I think the parents most like this end up in FCPS because of the AAP option.

We are in Arlington and it's not like what you describe at all. Arlington is a big place though. I guess it could be like that some places. We are in Westover area. Most of the kids walk to and from school and they walk alone and no one thinks twice. It's very un helicoptery. I think that's why people choose to live where we do actually.

I have never done my kids homework and it's never once crossed my mind to do it for them. I don't call the teachers about much of anything really let alone a grade. No one I know does these things.

Yes, if you end up in Fairfax, avoid the AAP center schools if you want to stay away from the competitiveness.

Not all center schools are like this. We're in the Burke/Springfield/Annandale/Fairfax area and our center isn't.

Is the Churchill Road Elementary center school like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can only speak to Northern Virginia.

I think the parents most like this end up in FCPS because of the AAP option.

We are in Arlington and it's not like what you describe at all. Arlington is a big place though. I guess it could be like that some places. We are in Westover area. Most of the kids walk to and from school and they walk alone and no one thinks twice. It's very un helicoptery. I think that's why people choose to live where we do actually.

I have never done my kids homework and it's never once crossed my mind to do it for them. I don't call the teachers about much of anything really let alone a grade. No one I know does these things.

Yes, if you end up in Fairfax, avoid the AAP center schools if you want to stay away from the competitiveness.

Not all center schools are like this. We're in the Burke/Springfield/Annandale/Fairfax area and our center isn't.

Is the Churchill Road Elementary center school like this?

Ask in the FCPS or AAP forums (depending on whether you want information about the school as a whole or about just the full time AAP part).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can only speak to Northern Virginia.

I think the parents most like this end up in FCPS because of the AAP option.

We are in Arlington and it's not like what you describe at all. Arlington is a big place though. I guess it could be like that some places. We are in Westover area. Most of the kids walk to and from school and they walk alone and no one thinks twice. It's very un helicoptery. I think that's why people choose to live where we do actually.

I have never done my kids homework and it's never once crossed my mind to do it for them. I don't call the teachers about much of anything really let alone a grade. No one I know does these things.

Yes, if you end up in Fairfax, avoid the AAP center schools if you want to stay away from the competitiveness.

We lived in Arlington before Fairfax, and the competitiveness manifests itself in different ways. Lots of White women who are very competitive, but regularly put down "Tiger moms" - in other words, it's precisely because they are competitive by nature that they cannot stand the thought of their kids being out-performed by Asian kids. And don't get me started on the lacrosse dads in the Yorktown area living vicariously through their kids.

If you want less competitive in Arlington, you want further south.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't tell you. I wouldn't want you as a parent in our school or any school. Home-school maybe?

Why? You see yourself in those traits? Let her know your neighborhood so she can avoid it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a "W school" middle for one year and it was a miserable experience (Robert Frost feeding to Wooton). I moved there from an easygoing but good California school district. And this was before the "W school" phenomenon really took off.

Some things I learned in one year that impacted me for life:

-Learning about the Johns Hopkins Gifted & Talented Search/program. (I got an award for a high SAT verbal score as a 7th grader.) This national program still exists but after we left Maryland, I've never been in a district that promotes it.

-Falling behind in math because MCPS was ahead on pushing their "gifted kids". Had to drop back a grade in math which resulted in me not getting to calculus in high school. Which by DCUM standards, makes me a dumb kid, never minding the verbal SAT score. There were no AoPS, RSM, Mathnasium, or Kumon then. At that time, you either got it or you didn't. In today's MCPS, my parents undoubtedly would have gotten me tutoring to keep up.

-The importance of branded clothes. And living in Potomac. I went from a nobody cares region of the US straight into a land of Jordache, Calvin Klein, Nike, Adidas worship. Also there was a lot of explicit info communicated about how cool/important it was to live in Potomac. At the time, my house was considered to be in Gaithersburg. Today's real estate business has upgraded my old neighborhood to North Potomac. So that's still a thing.

-Nasty, status-conscious people are a drag to be around. I got menaced by a group of girls I barely knew in an outdoor gym class one day. The ringleader was an affluent girl I barely knew. (We were all white, and mostly DCUM MC, with a sprinkle of Potomac DCUM UMC then.) She and her friends singled me out and started saying offensive things to me. I called one of them a bad name because they wouldn't leave me alone and she punched me in the jaw, hard. Two of them got suspended. It's the only violence I was ever subjected to in school - and ironically we were all white kids who were in a "safe" and "good" school.

So basically my 1.25 years in MCPS, gave me a grounding in SAT score snobbery, competition based on accelerated math training, real estate location importance, focus on status goods, and exposure to "Mean Girls". Quite a lot of indoctrination for such a short period of time.

I was really happy to leave that "W" middle when my dad found a job in PA after about a year. (He also had culture shock moving from CA to MD.)

I later worked in DC after college for 7 years, but when the time came to raise a family, I decided to GTFO. Too expensive, too much of a ratrace. I lived in a different "W school" neighborhood during that entire post-college time. (Walter Johnson).

OP- It's smart to think about where you want to live now, based on social characteristics, but honestly a lot of people reposition at some point K-12 anyway. I do think that perhaps I could have stretched my real estate budget to be house poor for awhile in the DMV or even where I live now. But still the "W school" approach to life is still too much for me. There was even a book about stressed-out Whitman kids a few years back.

I wouldn't recommend buying a house just hoping to find others who shared my philosophies. Outlier families tend to check out - disappear from PTA, etc. From what I read on this board now, I'm not sure where I'd head - maybe look inbounds for Richard Montgomery IB? Maybe Kensington? Maybe the unprestigious hinterlands past "North Potomac"? DC was too dangerous in the affordable areas when I lived there. I might have considered being a gentrifier back in the day.

Good for you to be thinking carefully about this now. I hope you find what you want for you and your family. I have, just in flyover country. Where I live now is a lot like old Bethesda before the high-rise/corporate office feel took over downtown.

haha.. I'm originally from CA. There are pressure cooker schools there, too.

We actually live in the Richard Montgomery cluster now. One DC went to RMIB magnet, but they didn't feel any "pressure". Just a lot of work. My other DC is not in the IB magnet program but is taking AP classes.

Having stated that, I do think this entire area is full of high achievers, and it does typically follow income and education level. Of course, there are pockets of areas that don't care that much about T50 college, but those areas are probably not in the UMC/wealthy areas.

My spouse and I joke that we should've moved to the middle of KS or something to avoid such a large high achieving peer group.

Would have had to stay away from the parts of Kansas that are richer and more high achieving than many DC suburbs then. Believe it or not the midwest isn't just flyover country.

+1 people have no idea what it's like out there. LOL at this poster thinking Kansas is a bunch of farmers. Anywhere there is a university there is a big group of competitive high achiever professor kids at the very least, but it also includes all the doctor and lawyer kids in town too. Yes, even Kansas has doctors and lawyers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most helicopter parents are worried about keeping their own kids on track and don’t really have opinions on what you do. They don’t care if your kid did his homework, they care about theirs. They don’t care if you walk your kid to school, they just ensure they supervise theirs. The ones you should be worried about are the competitive parents. They’re at Whitman and Wootton.

They still impact everyone. These parents burn out teachers. They can be demanding of teachers’ time and they can be quite rude. (Dealt with plenty as a hs teacher.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a "W school" middle for one year and it was a miserable experience (Robert Frost feeding to Wooton). I moved there from an easygoing but good California school district. And this was before the "W school" phenomenon really took off.

Some things I learned in one year that impacted me for life:

-Learning about the Johns Hopkins Gifted & Talented Search/program. (I got an award for a high SAT verbal score as a 7th grader.) This national program still exists but after we left Maryland, I've never been in a district that promotes it.

-Falling behind in math because MCPS was ahead on pushing their "gifted kids". Had to drop back a grade in math which resulted in me not getting to calculus in high school. Which by DCUM standards, makes me a dumb kid, never minding the verbal SAT score. There were no AoPS, RSM, Mathnasium, or Kumon then. At that time, you either got it or you didn't. In today's MCPS, my parents undoubtedly would have gotten me tutoring to keep up.

-The importance of branded clothes. And living in Potomac. I went from a nobody cares region of the US straight into a land of Jordache, Calvin Klein, Nike, Adidas worship. Also there was a lot of explicit info communicated about how cool/important it was to live in Potomac. At the time, my house was considered to be in Gaithersburg. Today's real estate business has upgraded my old neighborhood to North Potomac. So that's still a thing.

-Nasty, status-conscious people are a drag to be around. I got menaced by a group of girls I barely knew in an outdoor gym class one day. The ringleader was an affluent girl I barely knew. (We were all white, and mostly DCUM MC, with a sprinkle of Potomac DCUM UMC then.) She and her friends singled me out and started saying offensive things to me. I called one of them a bad name because they wouldn't leave me alone and she punched me in the jaw, hard. Two of them got suspended. It's the only violence I was ever subjected to in school - and ironically we were all white kids who were in a "safe" and "good" school.

So basically my 1.25 years in MCPS, gave me a grounding in SAT score snobbery, competition based on accelerated math training, real estate location importance, focus on status goods, and exposure to "Mean Girls". Quite a lot of indoctrination for such a short period of time.

I was really happy to leave that "W" middle when my dad found a job in PA after about a year. (He also had culture shock moving from CA to MD.)

I later worked in DC after college for 7 years, but when the time came to raise a family, I decided to GTFO. Too expensive, too much of a ratrace. I lived in a different "W school" neighborhood during that entire post-college time. (Walter Johnson).

OP- It's smart to think about where you want to live now, based on social characteristics, but honestly a lot of people reposition at some point K-12 anyway. I do think that perhaps I could have stretched my real estate budget to be house poor for awhile in the DMV or even where I live now. But still the "W school" approach to life is still too much for me. There was even a book about stressed-out Whitman kids a few years back.

I wouldn't recommend buying a house just hoping to find others who shared my philosophies. Outlier families tend to check out - disappear from PTA, etc. From what I read on this board now, I'm not sure where I'd head - maybe look inbounds for Richard Montgomery IB? Maybe Kensington? Maybe the unprestigious hinterlands past "North Potomac"? DC was too dangerous in the affordable areas when I lived there. I might have considered being a gentrifier back in the day.

Good for you to be thinking carefully about this now. I hope you find what you want for you and your family. I have, just in flyover country. Where I live now is a lot like old Bethesda before the high-rise/corporate office feel took over downtown.

haha.. I'm originally from CA. There are pressure cooker schools there, too.

We actually live in the Richard Montgomery cluster now. One DC went to RMIB magnet, but they didn't feel any "pressure". Just a lot of work. My other DC is not in the IB magnet program but is taking AP classes.

Having stated that, I do think this entire area is full of high achievers, and it does typically follow income and education level. Of course, there are pockets of areas that don't care that much about T50 college, but those areas are probably not in the UMC/wealthy areas.

My spouse and I joke that we should've moved to the middle of KS or something to avoid such a large high achieving peer group.

Would have had to stay away from the parts of Kansas that are richer and more high achieving than many DC suburbs then. Believe it or not the midwest isn't just flyover country.

+1 people have no idea what it's like out there. LOL at this poster thinking Kansas is a bunch of farmers. Anywhere there is a university there is a big group of competitive high achiever professor kids at the very least, but it also includes all the doctor and lawyer kids in town too. Yes, even Kansas has doctors and lawyers.

Oh please; Kansas?

They might not all be dumb farmers but they are all MAGA, and therefore really stupid by definition.

[Anonymous]

I am rich and not a helicopter parent. And I can say that normally I think this is griping to just categorize a group on DCUM but in this case it’s accurate. Rich people in the DMV are very lovely people, many very smart, and very good at being friends but their parenting is super competitive and annoying! It’s exhausting and puts pressure on those of us who are more chill and just want the kids to figure things out and be kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can only speak to Northern Virginia.

I think the parents most like this end up in FCPS because of the AAP option.

We are in Arlington and it's not like what you describe at all. Arlington is a big place though. I guess it could be like that some places. We are in Westover area. Most of the kids walk to and from school and they walk alone and no one thinks twice. It's very un helicoptery. I think that's why people choose to live where we do actually.

I have never done my kids homework and it's never once crossed my mind to do it for them. I don't call the teachers about much of anything really let alone a grade. No one I know does these things.

It’s unclear why you think you have valid opinions of Fairfax AAP parents when you live in Arlington.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a "W school" middle for one year and it was a miserable experience (Robert Frost feeding to Wooton). I moved there from an easygoing but good California school district. And this was before the "W school" phenomenon really took off.

Some things I learned in one year that impacted me for life:

-Learning about the Johns Hopkins Gifted & Talented Search/program. (I got an award for a high SAT verbal score as a 7th grader.) This national program still exists but after we left Maryland, I've never been in a district that promotes it.

-Falling behind in math because MCPS was ahead on pushing their "gifted kids". Had to drop back a grade in math which resulted in me not getting to calculus in high school. Which by DCUM standards, makes me a dumb kid, never minding the verbal SAT score. There were no AoPS, RSM, Mathnasium, or Kumon then. At that time, you either got it or you didn't. In today's MCPS, my parents undoubtedly would have gotten me tutoring to keep up.

-The importance of branded clothes. And living in Potomac. I went from a nobody cares region of the US straight into a land of Jordache, Calvin Klein, Nike, Adidas worship. Also there was a lot of explicit info communicated about how cool/important it was to live in Potomac. At the time, my house was considered to be in Gaithersburg. Today's real estate business has upgraded my old neighborhood to North Potomac. So that's still a thing.

-Nasty, status-conscious people are a drag to be around. I got menaced by a group of girls I barely knew in an outdoor gym class one day. The ringleader was an affluent girl I barely knew. (We were all white, and mostly DCUM MC, with a sprinkle of Potomac DCUM UMC then.) She and her friends singled me out and started saying offensive things to me. I called one of them a bad name because they wouldn't leave me alone and she punched me in the jaw, hard. Two of them got suspended. It's the only violence I was ever subjected to in school - and ironically we were all white kids who were in a "safe" and "good" school.

So basically my 1.25 years in MCPS, gave me a grounding in SAT score snobbery, competition based on accelerated math training, real estate location importance, focus on status goods, and exposure to "Mean Girls". Quite a lot of indoctrination for such a short period of time.

I was really happy to leave that "W" middle when my dad found a job in PA after about a year. (He also had culture shock moving from CA to MD.)

I later worked in DC after college for 7 years, but when the time came to raise a family, I decided to GTFO. Too expensive, too much of a ratrace. I lived in a different "W school" neighborhood during that entire post-college time. (Walter Johnson).

OP- It's smart to think about where you want to live now, based on social characteristics, but honestly a lot of people reposition at some point K-12 anyway. I do think that perhaps I could have stretched my real estate budget to be house poor for awhile in the DMV or even where I live now. But still the "W school" approach to life is still too much for me. There was even a book about stressed-out Whitman kids a few years back.

I wouldn't recommend buying a house just hoping to find others who shared my philosophies. Outlier families tend to check out - disappear from PTA, etc. From what I read on this board now, I'm not sure where I'd head - maybe look inbounds for Richard Montgomery IB? Maybe Kensington? Maybe the unprestigious hinterlands past "North Potomac"? DC was too dangerous in the affordable areas when I lived there. I might have considered being a gentrifier back in the day.

Good for you to be thinking carefully about this now. I hope you find what you want for you and your family. I have, just in flyover country. Where I live now is a lot like old Bethesda before the high-rise/corporate office feel took over downtown.

haha.. I'm originally from CA. There are pressure cooker schools there, too.

We actually live in the Richard Montgomery cluster now. One DC went to RMIB magnet, but they didn't feel any "pressure". Just a lot of work. My other DC is not in the IB magnet program but is taking AP classes.

Having stated that, I do think this entire area is full of high achievers, and it does typically follow income and education level. Of course, there are pockets of areas that don't care that much about T50 college, but those areas are probably not in the UMC/wealthy areas.

My spouse and I joke that we should've moved to the middle of KS or something to avoid such a large high achieving peer group.

Would have had to stay away from the parts of Kansas that are richer and more high achieving than many DC suburbs then. Believe it or not the midwest isn't just flyover country.

+1 people have no idea what it's like out there. LOL at this poster thinking Kansas is a bunch of farmers. Anywhere there is a university there is a big group of competitive high achiever professor kids at the very least, but it also includes all the doctor and lawyer kids in town too. Yes, even Kansas has doctors and lawyers.

Oh please; Kansas?

They might not all be dumb farmers but they are all MAGA, and therefore really stupid by definition.

So no black people in Kansas

[Anonymous]

I've found parents in South Arlington to be pretty level headed in general. Definitely on the lower end of helicopter parenting and competitiveness.