We are new to the neighborhood, neighbors said they’ll stop by to formally introduce themselves

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you ready to live in a neighborhood if this is your attitude? Who cares what happened in your apartment building: apartments are completely different than forever-home communities. My neighbors have lived here since the edition was established 35 years ago. Of course they are more invested in connecting with neighborhoods than one-year-lease apartment renters.

All they meant was, “We’d like to introduce ourselves and get to know you” more than is possible in a passing moment where they are off to work or about to make dinner, and you are clearly busy unpacking and whatnot.

If you are so scared of someone being in your living room for 5 minutes, why do you have a home with a living room?

LMAO are you dense?!
"Why do you have a home with a living room?"
So she can LIVE IN IT? It's not for random strangers off the street! You sound so incredibly dumb PP.

Actually, you sound so incredibly dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just don’t open the door. We live in a condo and my husband regularly comments it’s so nice we don’t know any of our neighbors; no one interacts with each other.

What a bunch of antisocial losers. Thank goodness I live in a friendly neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they come, pretend you are not home. Neighbors that make an unorganic effort like this to get involved in your life ALWAYS have an agenda. They either will request favors from you in the future, they want to determine if you are a good fit according to their standards in the neighborhood and if they need to keep an eye on you, or they are JW. Just because someone live nears me, doesn't mean they need to know anything about me or be a part of my life.

No, they don't always have an agenda. God forbid a neighbor wants to introduce themselves. What is wrong with the people on this site?

[Anonymous]

I’m so glad I was raised in a friendly neighborhood, have good manners, and know how to behave. The neighborhood I live in now is also great, because we were all raised properly. Unlike OP.

[Anonymous]

I’m assuming most of these responses are joking.

OP what they mean is that they want to come by sometime and leave cookies or muffins or a similar small gift and chat with you for a few minutes to introduce yourselves because they are your neighbors. The majority of my boomer neighbors did this when my young family moved on to the block. The families with young kids were not as formal but I also saw them out and about more and it was more organic. The older neighbors came by with food and were so nice. None of them started coming by daily, or asking me for anything, they just wanted to say hi and welcome us. It’s nice to know their names and numbers because of things like power outages, or in one case the water stopped working and I could text each of my Nextdoor neighbors to ask if their water was out too or if it was just my own plumbing problem. Normal.

[Anonymous]

It used to be the polite and expected thing to do. It is handy to get to know a few neighbors. We almost never visit indoors, but we keep an eye out for each other. They will likely come by with something small to welcome you to the area and be looking to know your names and maybe contact information. We text our elderly neighbor when they leave their garage door open at night. They let us know when we have left the sunroof open on the car in the rain. We also lend/borrow items like a wheelbarrow, pressure washer, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does this mean? Coming from an apartment community no one ever stopped by or spoke.

Are they expecting to come inside (our living furniture is delayed so where would they even sit ?!) ?

Or is this a formality and they will never actually show up?

Probably just a friendly gesture to welcome you to the neighborhood. However, it could be an introduction with an intention of getting you to attend their church--which is quite common. This can be a problem if you chose not to attend a service as the couple might feel rejected.

Since your furniture is delayed, consider suggesting a meet-up at a nearby coffee shop or restaurant.

The problem is that the other couple will show up unexpectedly when it is convenient for them. This is inconsiderate and designed to catch you off guard. Much more comfortable when neighbors suggest getting together and give you their phone number so that you can meet at a convenient place & time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh, I've been in my neighborhood for 19 years. When we moved in we had a lovely bunch of neighbors who brought wine, a flower, or some cookies when we moved in. I followed the tradition until about 3 years ago when a new neighbor moved in, and I saw him in the driveway and said "Hello, I am so and so and we live across the street. Welcome to the neighborhood." He turned on his heel and walked into the house without a word. Now, I ignore any new people who move in and only wave to people who wave first.

This sounds like my neighborhood!

[Anonymous]

Dc really is full of unfriendly aholes as this thread indicates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dc really is full of unfriendly aholes as this thread indicates.

They’re from elsewhere. I’m a native and this is not how we roll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hoping these responses are joking.

Maybe your neighbors just want to say "hi" and be available if you need anything (listserv, handymen, info on garbage/lawn services). We've been lucky to have good neighbors. We aren't terribly close with any of them, but it's nice to know they are there if something would come up. It seems like a very nice gesture. I'm guessing they haven't stopped by because they haven't yet made you brownies/cookies to bring by.

- Transplanted Midwesterner who always brings food to new neighbors.

+1

Not shocking the DC is full of sociopaths and/or people with really awful senses of humor.

I suspect those posters do not live in DC. Probably not even inside the beltway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hoping these responses are joking.

Maybe your neighbors just want to say "hi" and be available if you need anything (listserv, handymen, info on garbage/lawn services). We've been lucky to have good neighbors. We aren't terribly close with any of them, but it's nice to know they are there if something would come up. It seems like a very nice gesture. I'm guessing they haven't stopped by because they haven't yet made you brownies/cookies to bring by.

- Transplanted Midwesterner who always brings food to new neighbors.

Yeesh, this thread scares me and reminds me why I’m glad we moved. I have enjoyed getting to know neighbors - they have kids similar in age to ours (spontaneous playdates!) and when you have young kids, making plans is hard. It’s amazing to be able to invite a couple of neighborhood friends over after bedtime, hang out for a couple of hours / couple of drinks, and walk home. You all are missing out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It used to be the polite and expected thing to do. It is handy to get to know a few neighbors. We almost never visit indoors, but we keep an eye out for each other. They will likely come by with something small to welcome you to the area and be looking to know your names and maybe contact information. We text our elderly neighbor when they leave their garage door open at night. They let us know when we have left the sunroof open on the car in the rain. We also lend/borrow items like a wheelbarrow, pressure washer, etc.

And we wonder why civility is declining in America, when so many are afraid of even saying Hello to their neighbors. Really sad and depressing. I guess it’s also it’s also generational.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hoping these responses are joking.

Maybe your neighbors just want to say "hi" and be available if you need anything (listserv, handymen, info on garbage/lawn services). We've been lucky to have good neighbors. We aren't terribly close with any of them, but it's nice to know they are there if something would come up. It seems like a very nice gesture. I'm guessing they haven't stopped by because they haven't yet made you brownies/cookies to bring by.

- Transplanted Midwesterner who always brings food to new neighbors.

Yeesh, this thread scares me and reminds me why I’m glad we moved. I have enjoyed getting to know neighbors - they have kids similar in age to ours (spontaneous playdates!) and when you have young kids, making plans is hard. It’s amazing to be able to invite a couple of neighborhood friends over after bedtime, hang out for a couple of hours / couple of drinks, and walk home. You all are missing out!

This thread exists in DCUMville. The real world has much more civilized neighborhoods.

[Anonymous]

Many of our neighbors brought us wine, fruits and bread when we just moved in two years ago . Out of the many, we've talked to exactly one neighbor more than 2 times. They are all very nice people and mean well, but life gets in way everyone just leaves each other to their business. We felt same thing as you op, but nothing to worry.