Does your 5th/6th grader have a skincare routine? Shop at Sephora? Etc.?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So now not taking care of skin and bragging that your kids don't wash their face is s badge of honor? I had acne in 4th grade and distinctly remember using stridex pads on my "T-zone". Why is this a problem?

This. Weird. Most 6th grade girls are in the early stages of puberty if not well into it and that is when skin starts getting more oily. Some of DD's friends use stuff like Drunk Elephant but I won't buy it and DD is okay with that. She does have a skincare routine (wash and moisturize and little acne patches as needed) and uses Bubble products. She does not wear makeup other than lip gloss occasionally but many of her friends do and she will next year. She does like Sephora but does not go unsupervised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. My daughter is 14 and not at all into skincare or makeup.

I think this is very dependent on their social group and the socioeconomic demographics of that group. My daughter goes to a class/LMC public school and friends are the academic high achievers. None of them are into this (or Stanley, lululemon, etc).

My friend’s daughter goes to an UMC school, all friends are from wealthier families. She and all her friends are very much into skincare, makeup, high end athleisure and such, skincare frig in bedroom, highlights, you name it.

OP here, we are in a UMC area and still don't see this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So now not taking care of skin and bragging that your kids don't wash their face is s badge of honor? I had acne in 4th grade and distinctly remember using stridex pads on my "T-zone". Why is this a problem?

OP here. I didn't say that. My daughter uses Neutrogena cleanser every night and in the shower, and uses sunscreen in the summer (I know she should probably use it every day, but she won't). I was asking if people's kids use the expensive stuff from Sephora and spend time alone in the store like so many of the articles I've read.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t buy her expensive skincare but I’m fine with her taking care of her skin and learning about products. Not sure why the hate for Sephora. Drugstore brands can be pricey too and there are actually some affordable options at Sephora. I always find it surprising to see what people get winded up about. My daughter washes her face daily!! The horror!

I think what people are getting wound up about is a) buying extremely expensive skincare products that they don't need (like drunk elephant babyfacial) and b) running around like crazy in sephora and destroying things. It is a little funny that fifth and sixth graders are trying to get "glass skin" but I do like that my kids are getting into the habit of taking care of their skin so young.

OP here, yes this is what I was getting at. I want my kids to have healthy skin, but I don't think they need to pay for Drunk Elephant to do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, skin care products are ok if they come from the grocery store or some discount pharmacy but bad from everywhere else? Ok. Some of you take yourselves way too seriously.

OP here - I've seen things about young girls buying all sorts of serums, retinols, eye creams, anti-wrinkling things that they don't need, that's what I was referring to when I said "skincare routine". I guess I should have been more clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 6th grader has a skincare routine in that she has really bad acne and so the doctor prescribed her topical cream she uses and she does a good job washing her face. But it's not the culture of mobbing the Sephora section at Target. It's just trying to have somewhat good grooming.

In fact there are areas where she could care more, like the PP above whose kid doesn't even want to wear chapstick.

I’m sorry your daughter has to deal with annoying acne. I had it starting in high school and it sucked. Maybe you can find a chapstick that has her favorite flavor.

If the topical cream doesn’t work you should go right back to the doctor and tell him you’re not giving up until it’s in control.

[Anonymous]

My DD is a sixth grader. She uses Bubble moisturizer and some things her dermatologist gave her to treat her acne. She usually goes to Sephora with her older sister. I let her go with a group of her friends once and she was supervised by a friend’s mom. I rarely shop at Sephora and I don’t own anything from Lululemon but the Sephora shopping Lululemon wearing moms rubbed off on their daughters who then passed it on to my daughter, who does not have any social media.

I am trying to teach my DD that she does not need $16 sunscreen or $23 lip masks and that she should use her allowance for clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It goes beyond being into skincare. Sephora employees are reporting kids requesting retinols, harsh chemical exfoliants, and anti-aging serums.

So? Better than vaping, drinking, and harassing each other on social media, something kids also tend to do. Oh no, not the anti-aging serums!

They’re ten, they would not be drinking if it wasn’t for Sephora. Skin care not made specifically for old skin is not a problem. Retinols peel your skin, reddens your skin and causes sun sensitivity. It’s the ten year olds who are using foundation, highlighting under the eyes, mascara or eyeliner, lip whatever.

Sunscreen is the most useful item in the makeup area. Nothing else is useful until puberty.

I’ve seen videos where two undersized 9 years were in one of the stores. One would say “I’m 9, of course I shop at Sephora, I’m 9 of course I have lululemon leggings, crossover bag, crocs, etc. shameless of the mothers. Plus I can’t imagine how high schoolers would want to look exactly like a nine year old right down to the shoes they wear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my sixth grader and her friends are into it. They respectfully browse the different products, discuss them, furrow their brows at the expense and end up buying, with their allowance money, things like body cream with a highly fruited fragrance. They could spend all day in there.

Every night before she reads in bed, my daughter wears a special headband she got from another friend as a birthday party favor and does a skincare routine, using all things she buys with her own money. It's more complex than mine but nothing that has made her break out. She also is a fastidious wearer of her retainer.

People will probably lose their mind when I say this next part but her 12th birthday involves me taking her friends to Sephora where they will browse and again, can spend their own money. Then we are going to our house for dinner/cake and the party favors are Glossier Balm Dot Com lip bombs because they went on sale this week if you bought a five back. They are $10 each.

I think it has been portrayed as toxic but from what I've seen it's harmless. No one is buying heavy makeup/dark lipstick/various acids to put on their face. But I also won't pay for it. I would pay for a jar of Noxzema if she wanted.

You’re an enabler

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So now not taking care of skin and bragging that your kids don't wash their face is s badge of honor? I had acne in 4th grade and distinctly remember using stridex pads on my "T-zone". Why is this a problem?

OP here. I didn't say that. My daughter uses Neutrogena cleanser every night and in the shower, and uses sunscreen in the summer (I know she should probably use it every day, but she won't). I was asking if people's kids use the expensive stuff from Sephora and spend time alone in the store like so many of the articles I've read.

Ugh you let her use Neutrogena? Isn't there a Dial soap bar that would do the job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It goes beyond being into skincare. Sephora employees are reporting kids requesting retinols, harsh chemical exfoliants, and anti-aging serums.

So? Better than vaping, drinking, and harassing each other on social media, something kids also tend to do. Oh no, not the anti-aging serums!

They’re ten, they would not be drinking if it wasn’t for Sephora. Skin care not made specifically for old skin is not a problem. Retinols peel your skin, reddens your skin and causes sun sensitivity. It’s the ten year olds who are using foundation, highlighting under the eyes, mascara or eyeliner, lip whatever.

Sunscreen is the most useful item in the makeup area. Nothing else is useful until puberty.

I’ve seen videos where two undersized 9 years were in one of the stores. One would say “I’m 9, of course I shop at Sephora, I’m 9 of course I have lululemon leggings, crossover bag, crocs, etc. shameless of the mothers. Plus I can’t imagine how high schoolers would want to look exactly like a nine year old right down to the shoes they wear.

You've seen videos? So maybe this isn't as widespread as you think it is. Kind of like videos of kids fighting, punching strangers, carjacking, etc.

[Anonymous]

At this point we’re trying to explain to our 10 yo that washing your face is more than using two drops of water on your cheeks. We buy her cetaphil. But haven’t introducing facial lotion. Most of her other friends are like her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 6th grader has a skincare routine in that she has really bad acne and so the doctor prescribed her topical cream she uses and she does a good job washing her face. But it's not the culture of mobbing the Sephora section at Target. It's just trying to have somewhat good grooming.

In fact there are areas where she could care more, like the PP above whose kid doesn't even want to wear chapstick.

I’m sorry your daughter has to deal with annoying acne. I had it starting in high school and it sucked. Maybe you can find a chapstick that has her favorite flavor.

If the topical cream doesn’t work you should go right back to the doctor and tell him you’re not giving up until it’s in control.

Yup, we have an appointment scheduled. I know it makes my daughter feel awkward and she doesn't need that, especially when she's fastidious about trying to take care of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 6th grader has a skincare routine in that she has really bad acne and so the doctor prescribed her topical cream she uses and she does a good job washing her face. But it's not the culture of mobbing the Sephora section at Target. It's just trying to have somewhat good grooming.

In fact there are areas where she could care more, like the PP above whose kid doesn't even want to wear chapstick.

I’m sorry your daughter has to deal with annoying acne. I had it starting in high school and it sucked. Maybe you can find a chapstick that has her favorite flavor.

If the topical cream doesn’t work you should go right back to the doctor and tell him you’re not giving up until it’s in control.

Yup, we have an appointment scheduled. I know it makes my daughter feel awkward and she doesn't need that, especially when she's fastidious about trying to take care of it.

Dam

[Anonymous]

I can't even get my 6th grade daughter to shower after soccer practice, so that's where we are. She does have a friend who buys and uses products as Sephora - mostly moisturizers.